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Breaking Up…Fights

Does pursuing peace mean breaking up fights?? Or getting involved in fights (i.e. political, controversial or other)?

Which fights? Who defines “fight” ? A “cause”  and/or causes worthy of battle/engagement/time/energy/life/interference?!…carnal, psychological, mental, emotional, spiritual, physical…war?

I am no one to beep!…meaning i VERY rarely use my car horn, and any usage is quite judiciously at that. Perhaps, it’s been YEARS (?)..since, well, other than on this past Tuesday afternoon. Today is Thursday, November 1st.

What would You do?…IF…

you’re peacefully, (semi-quietly) alone for approximately 10 minutes (waiting/sitting/meditating/listening to Vivaldi) in your car at the corner of Street X and Street Y–a couple feet before stop sign in the shade–with left-side view of Main Z Street…first come the bikers…aka middle school kids w/stuffed back packs just let out of school-jail wildly racing homeward down popular/well-traveled side-street used by some to get home faster by avoiding Main Z Street traffic.

The usual pattern routine…first come bikers, loners, then first set of walkers, then next wave of walkers including my daughter and her friend…whom i transport home most afternoons. This Tuesday was different. After bikers…i hear a ROAR of a crowd…thought, wow, kids are much more noisier today, eh?

Looked up and to the left…yep, two boys (surrounded/encircled by big bunch of onlookers) going at it…fighting…fisticuffs!! They are simultaneously trying to rip each other’s t-shirts off…(pourquoi? who knows?) the fight has moved into the middle of Street Y…looks like a huge curious crowd of cockroaches has swarmed. Approximately 40-50 kids; mostly in the street and some on both sidewalks.Within seconds more kids are joining in…and the spectator swarm swells.

I eye my daughter and her friend stopped on side-walk checking out the fight. Immediately beep 2-3 short beeps to get her attention to no avail! At that moment, i notice one prevailing-fighter kid looking like he’s trying his best to pound/smash the non-prevailing kid’s head to the concrete.

Uh-OH…head injuries can be serious/fatal…stupid? kids. Immediately and instinctually, i calmly drive toward crowd in middle of street laying l-o-n-g on my extra LOUD horn without any let-up!!  They one and all–at once–disperse and disengage including fighting boys. They take off running and scattering to sidewalks and begin leaving the scene. I roll down my window and assertively/firmly tell my daughter to get in! now.

She calls to her friend to get in our car…as i hear another friend cheering and yelling, “A.’s Mom to the Rescue!”:)

My daughter’s friend is smiling and they (my daughter and friend) laughingly cannot believe I just broke up the fight…with a beep. I didn’t get involved in the fight; which was not my fight; didn’t personally yell at the kids nor pick sides yet handled the situation…before it got too too out of hand…and with the long beep/loud horn strategy managed getting about 50 kids to leave scene and go home before anyone got seriously injured.

Hope they all made it home okay. Hope the fighting is finished.

It came naturally—didn’t think twice—about the horn or driving carefully straight toward crowd in middle of road nor not leaving my vehicle. Before responsible-mature-logical adult action–I had a quick/passing thought about calling police. But by the time they would arrive, fighting kid(s) probably would be quite hurt and all of the kids in needless trouble. It just seemed like involving the authorities would make matters worse. And before those thoughts quickly left my mind–I was already driving and laying on horn. The road easily cleared. We safely road down Street Y…cause

Like someone grabbing hold of a dog’s ears 

Is the one passing by who becomes furious about*(or who possibly meddles in) a quarrel that is not his.  PROverb 26:17

Interesting commentary (for Youths & Adults alike) on this intriguingly-wise Biblical Proverb:

What would happen if you grabbed hold of the ears of a dog? It would hurt the dog, and he would snap at you, wouldn’t he? The more the dog tried to get loose, the harder you would have to hold on to the ears and the more excited the dog would get. If you let him go, he would probably bite you hard. But can you just stand there and hold his ears forever?—

Well, that is the kind of trouble that we would be in if we got mixed up in a fight between other people. We may not know who started the fight or why they are fighting. One person may be getting beaten up, but perhaps he stole something from the other one. If we helped him, we would be helping a thief. That would not be good, would it?

So, what should you do if you see a fight?— If it is at school, you can run and tell a teacher. And if it is away from school, you can call one of your parents or a policeman. Yes, even when other people want to fight, we should be peaceable. [Is It Right to Fight? Learn From the Great Teacher, Chapter 19, p. 106]

my daily intention: pursue peace with all people (younger & older)…while remaining politically neutral at all times.
11/01/18 @ 5:50 p.m.

 

 

 

 

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