3.27.15 Rainy Day Pick Up

attitude humility insights Joan Winifred

“A Rainy Day Pick Up!” (Let me explain.)
When it’s a stormy/rainy day–there’s a particular procedure to pick the kids up from school safely. (Here in FL we get torrential.)

The girls and i still got drenched, soaked to the bone sorta (with 1 see-through-clear umbrella and 2 hoodies, blue and pink). However, We made it!…safely to the car; our destination, a block or so away…actually, the short ride home was uneventful traffic-wise which was a surprise. (And what’s a few minutes of being wet?? Nothing! to complain about)…Snuggly-warm in my dry clothes/pants now.  i gotta thing for pockets…(since spraining my ankle a while back:World Mental Health Day: When the Caregiver is a Child)…and how fortunate am i to have: “Very” generous friends that constantly pass on/give me stuff…like these a&f pants: navy blue, khaki, front-hand and side-button and back-side…perfect pockets (6 of ’em) lol. Usually, i’m in skirts and dresses/dress clothes A LOT/frequently/most days.  (odd i know)…to be raving on about my pocket pants. Now what’s in my pockets?…(hmmmmm, me to know;) Yeah, i’m a geek..uh-huh, do own a “pocket” bible.

We all need a rainy day “pick up” aka a particular procedure that keeps us safe say…from drowning in disappointment. From time to time who hasn’t felt disappointed with themselves/(i.e.unfinished, mountainous, projects hanging over my head) or disappointed with somebody else or over something??

Excerpts:  You can be Happy despite disappointments w08: (my highlights)

Jehovah God focused, not on the problem, but on the solution.

God’s Word encourages us to focus on positive things rather than on what might have been or what we should have done. It says: “Whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well spoken of, whatever virtue there is and whatever praiseworthy thing there is, continue considering these things.”—Philippians 4:8.

Many of us tend to exaggerate the negative when we experience disappointment.

It is easy for us to react with bitter resentment when people disappoint us.

Disappointments can be viewed as necessary experience along the way to ultimate success.

“Time and unforeseen occurrence” befall us all, states God’s Word. (Ecclesiastes 9:11) All of a sudden, a crime, an accident, or a disease can bring great distress—and disappointment. The Bible also says: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick.” (Proverbs 13:12) Eager anticipation of something good fills us with joy, but if it is not soon realized, we may feel a depressing sense of letdown.

Similarly, faithful King Jehoshaphat erred when he formed an alliance with God’s enemies. Jehovah’s prophet said: “For this there is indignation against you from the person of Jehovah. Nevertheless, there are good things that have been found with you.” (2 Chronicles 19:2, 3) Jehovah recognized that one mistake did not make Jehoshaphat a traitor. In the same way, we can avoid losing friends if we do not overreact when they err. Friends who disappoint us may still have fine qualities.

Other “reasonable” readings:

With the fast pace of life today, the more we try to keep up, the further we seem to fall behind. Demands on our time and energy can be unrelenting, and when we fail to get done what we set out to do, there is a tendency to come down on ourselves. We could even begin to feel as though we are letting others down.

Unreasonably high expectations easily turn into perfectionism, and this can be most frustrating. Ben, a young married man, confesses: “When I examine my actions, thoughts, or feelings, I always see how they could have been better. I am constantly looking for perfection, and this leads to impatience, frustration, and disappointment.” Gail, a Christian wife, says: “Perfectionist thinking does not allow for failure. We want to be supermoms and superwives. We have to be productive to be happy, so wasted effort irritates us.”

Yet another factor that can lead to personal disappointment is deteriorating health and old age. Diminished mobility and energy magnify our limitations and add to feelings of frustration. “I felt impatient with myself for not being able to accomplish things that were so easy and natural before I got sick,” acknowledges Elizabeth.

The foregoing is a sampling of what can trigger feelings of disappointment. Left unchecked, such feelings can even lead us to believe that we are not appreciated by others.

[..]remember that Jehovah is reasonable and understanding. Psalm 103:14 reminds us: “He himself well knows the formation of us, remembering that we are dust.” Knowing our capabilities and limitations, Jehovah expects from us only what we are able to give. And one thing he does ask of us is “to be modest in walking with [our] God.”—Micah 6:8.

The consequences of perfectionist thinking are well summed up in the adage: “To expect life to be tailored to our specifications is to invite frustration.” To avoid this, an adjustment in thinking is required. Humility and modesty—having a realistic view of our limitations—will most certainly nurture in us balanced and reasonable expectations.

Cultivating reasonable expectations can help us cope with frustrations and disappointments. Excerpts: Why Be Reasonable in Our Expectations? w00

i was taught expect nothing–appreciate everything!:) Just making rainy day (positive pick up) thinking adjustments…like changing my wet clothes…for dry, fun ones.

Focusing on the Positives:

YAY!:) and i was on time today like all day!…(despite it all, eh?)

(published 3.27.15 @8:49 p.m.)