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Illusion V. Reality

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…another type of epiphany watching re-run TV…(usually, as a non-sedentary person, it’s not long before i fall asleep watching most movies (new or recycled) or TV) last night  8/9/17 (while on vaca) happened upon the middle of an old Star Trek episode/movie…dealing with illusion v. reality…(topic “caught” my attention)

“Pike chose illusion, Kirk chose reality”…What do i choose: illusion or reality??

may be, at times, we-fragile-life choose both or may be?…we choose to escape/improve “reality” with illusion (or vacation or work)?? a reality make-up of sorts to beautify our dull/harsh surroundings…etc.

Is to ignore illusion courageously embracing reality?!

When i choose spiritual lenses…i see reality.  When i choose selfish lenses…i see illusion?

Long meditative/prayerful walks on the beach…(working?)…aka collecting shells of various odd shapes, sizes, broken or Not (for art projects)…i happen upon trash left behind…a plastic bottle, cup, popsicle stick here and there…i pick these up as well…so, the next fragile-life behind me can enJOY a clean beach walk/experience…nothing special on my part…from time to time, for whatever reason, we all drop things/or forget things, including me, without realizing, also, just wanting to compassionately leave the beach nice/clean/fresh/pristine as it should be!…beautiful!

What ticked me off yesterday…while walking barefoot…good thing watch were i am going…dog poop!…left behind.  Okay, so may be a wild/unleashed dog..unsupervised by Owner…ran off doing his/her duty…i commend all thoughtful dog owners who take the time and pick-up after and parents who don’t leave dirty diapers on beaches!:)…

who wants to step in poop?? while walking the beach?? not even dog owners wanna barefoot, unexpectedly step in it, right?!

May be ? we can all improve reality a bit…by being less selfish and more thoughtful of how our choices or our thoughtlessness affect Others. For example, while walking the beach…i enJOY the sounds of the waves crashing and birds chirping…personally, just like my feet don’t wanna step in poop…my ears don’t wanna hear…for example, people fighting and swearing/cursing each other out…leaving their poop/mess behind…floating in the wind…in ear shot of me.

Choosing peaceful thoughts, peaceful interactions, and peaceful communications…makes things clean/nice for everyone at the beach or elsewhere, huh?

Respect.

Compassion.

Reality is: we can choose not to be an irritant. Illusion: sand always stays on the beach. Reality: we can choose not to throw sand, and we can choose to rinse/wipe our feet when leaving beach.

Who wants sand in their eyes?? OUCH:(

Anyway, i am rambling now…SORRY (to irritate!) this post (and may be misc. etc.) has taken an unexpected turn (life sometimes does that, huh?)…i am heading in a direction “unintended”… i hope to explore further/get back on track…aka continue topic of reality v. illusion in another (spiritual) direction later on.

PEACE Reader:) hoping You enJOY a long, healthy, happy walk somewhere today in a clean, nature space!:)

 

8/10/17 @ 11:00 a.m.

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O. M. F. Optimization for Multiple Functioning

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Are You a “seeing skeleton” ?!

(not sure (and no time to research) IF i’ve already shared this here (aka this blog previously))…

Check it out at YOUR OWN RISK…of seeing/(understanding) better…

THE reef-dwelling brittle star has an amazing form of armor on its upper surface. This part of its skeleton is studded with microscopic lenses that turn the animal’s armor into a compound eye.

According to chemist Joanna Aizenberg, the brittle star’s dual-purpose shell “demonstrates an important principle: in biology, materials are often optimized for multiple functions.

[…]researchers have devised a simple, low-cost method of producing arrays of microlenses made of calcium carbonate. The many applications of these arrays include telecommunications, where they are used to conduct light signals through optical fibers. [excerpted past/recent reading/peering…The Seeing Skeleton of the Brittle Star–Was It Designed? (by God) AWAKE! May 2013]

Brittle thinking lacks tensile strength…(and now and again may be ? we all need an antacid;)  perhaps (a) 1 life lesson…we can make the most of things…efficiency and speed…is found in not sweating the small stuff (follow-through on the small stuff, (but don’t let it hinder progress long-term)) and …when we can effectively tackle the microscopic…may be we see/understand the macroscopic…

practical verse:

The person faithful in what is least is faithful also in much, and the person unrighteous in what is least is unrighteous also in much. (Luke 16:10)

Multiple/Flexible Functioning…optimizing wellness:  spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically…:)

 

7/19/17 @ 11:45 a.m.

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How Do You…

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know (for sure)??

how can i/(You) tell…

IF

am FULLY

aware of

completely conscious of

a (my)

“spiritual”

“need” (need is different from want)

and whether or

not

that/this

need

is

being

appropriately filled???

 

Do

i

(pretty much)

know

when

i

am

hungry,

right?!

How

do

i know

IF

am

feeding/filling

this

spiritual

hunger/need

appropriately??!

and

nutritiously??!

 

7/12/17@ 8:01 p.m.

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Marching/Stomping of AGAPE Ants

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You know?…what it’s like to bear the unrelenting unfriendliness (of your silence, etc.)–it’s like unforgiving, it’s like ant stomping… a meaningless little ant in your big feet path is all i am to You–(i know that: I think! i know that)… it’s sad and heartbreaking and reality awakening (and innocent and naïve and tragic and stupid and)…

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i know… when given the chance, the choice…IF i “crossed” You….I’d most likely be stomped out without even a second thought or a simple hello…. Oh! cause i intentionally/unintentionally got in the way of “whatever”… you know?
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People who want what they want (when they want it) and are accustomed to getting it when they want it… and “exactly” how they want it… stop at nothing– rushing to have it… and don’t recognize/acknowledge ants like me under foot–you know?… crushed in a s-p-l-i-t- -second… unless per chance, you know,  you’re noted (prized) for your outer shell and appreciated for your inner mushiness/squishiness.

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Fear, you know, is not my motivation (agape is)…i live in the uncomfortable (compassion) zone of the locusts, gnats, mosquitos and ants. The land of the teeny, unappreciated, hated, so-called “pests” of existence… “who” only get so-called “attention” cause of making you bleed, itch and scratch away… at your treasured skin, your cherished beliefs, your fictional facts and your factual fiction…

agape ants must march on despite/aka forgiving! the crunch…o-wwww-uch!!! You know: Happy Marching/Happy Stomping??… thus, the/my walk of forgiveness… ever onward i  go, YOU:) KNOW……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………:)

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Compassion Education: STOP(S) Domestic Violence!

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What ticks You off?? (me?) This: the following (statistics/World Values Survey) provoked this post (published 3/19/14 @ 4:04 p.m.):

“in 29 countries around the world, one-third or more of men say it can be acceptable for a husband to “beat his wife.” Perhaps more surprising: In 19 countries, one-third or more of women agree that a husband who beats his wife may be justified, at least some of the time.”

“The data come from polling performed from 2010 through 2014 for the World Values Survey — an extensive study of attitudes in almost 100 countries, conducted on an ongoing basis since 1981. The study is led by an international network of researchers based in Stockholm.”

“The cultural acceptance of spousal abuse can be so pervasive that in some countries, large majorities of women say it’s acceptable. In Rwanda, 96 percent of women say the practice can be justified, according to the World Values Survey. About two-thirds of women in India and South Africa feel the same way. The attitude is also held by large shares of women in countries across the religious and cultural spectra — China, Egypt, Iraq, Nigeria, Peru, the Philippines and Uzbekistan, to cite a few.”

More than 1 in 4 women worldwide have experienced physical or sexual violence at the hand of a husband or intimate partner, the World Health Organization reported in 2013. In sub-Saharan Africa, the share is about 2 in 3, and in North America, it’s 1 in 5. Excerpted NPR: Alarming Number Of Women Think Spousal Abuse Is Sometimes OK

Poetry can be a reflection of values. The First Man/Husband, Adam, spoke this poem about the First Woman/Wife, Eve: Genesis 2:15-25:

Jehovah God took the man and settled him in the garden of Eʹden to cultivate it and to take care of it.16 Jehovah God also gave this command to the man: “From every tree of the garden you may eat to satisfaction.17 But as for the tree of the knowledge of good and bad, you must not eat from it, for in the day you eat from it you will certainly die.”

18 Then Jehovah God said: “It is not good for the man to continue to be alone. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him.”19 Now Jehovah God had been forming from the ground every wild animal of the field and every flying creature of the heavens, and he began bringing them to the man to see what he would call each one; and whatever the man would call each living creature, that became its name.20 So the man named all the domestic animals and the flying creatures of the heavens and every wild animal of the field, but for man there was no helper as a complement of him. 21 So Jehovah God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep, and while he was sleeping, he took one of his ribs and then closed up the flesh over its place. 22 And Jehovah God built the rib that he had taken from the man into a woman, and he brought her to the man.

23 Then the man said:

“This is at last bone of my bones

And flesh of my flesh.

This one will be called Woman,

Because from man she was taken.”

24 That is why a man will leave his father and his mother and he will stick to*(remain with) his wife, and they will become one flesh. 25 And both of them continued to be naked,the man and his wife; yet they were not ashamed.

Read this sweet/logical way of putting the male/female relationship into words:

Man and woman have always yearned to be together. This originated with God. Man and woman are designed to occupy dignified roles in God’s arrangement. (excerpted: Man and Woman–Made for Each Other)

However, this is what we see in many instances/relationships:

Today, however, families are breaking apart, and the relationship between man and woman is often abusive or governed by selfishness. A spirit of competition between the sexes has contributed to conflict and discord. All of this is contrary to God’s purpose for man and woman. Man was designed to fill a wonderful role on earth. Woman was to occupy a unique and worthy place at man’s side. They were to work together in harmony. (excerpted: Man and Woman–Made for Each Other)

A lack of love and a lack of respect…poison to relationships!..(which often leads to all kinds of abuses.)

When both men and women (are willing to) learn unselfishness and compassion…they (can) cultivate qualities within themselves (with (God’s) help) such as: (my highlights)

“They have learned to convey their thoughts and feelings to each other honestly, yet kindly, by cultivating and displaying insight, love, deep respect, and humility. When these fundamental qualities characterize a marriage, the lines of communication are always open.”

i enJOYed reading this practical/logical counsel for both male/female to treat each other in the manner they would like to be treated (or spoken to):

[…] likely you want to be treated with dignity and respect. You appreciate it when others listen to you and care about how you feel. But have you ever heard a person say, “I am going to do to him what he did to me”? Sometimes this reaction is understandable. However, the Bible tells us: “Do not say: ‘I will do to him just as he has done to me.’” (Proverbs 24:29) Jesus taught people the best way to handle difficult situations. What Jesus said is often called the Golden Rule: “Just as you want men to do to you, do the same way to them.” (Luke 6:31) Jesus meant that we should treat people the way we would like to be treated, not the way they treat us. This means that we need to put into our marriage what we hope to get out of it.

15 Couples strengthen their relationship when they truly care about each other’s feelings. “We have tried to put the Golden Rule into practice,” says a husband in South Africa. “True, there are times when we’re upset, but we have worked hard to treat each other the way we would like to be treated—with respect and dignity.”

16 Do not reveal your mate’s weaknesses to others or keep complaining about traits that upset you, not even as a joke. Remember that marriage is not a competition to prove who is stronger, who can shout louder, or who can say something that hurts the most. True, all of us are imperfect and sometimes upset others. But there is never a good reason for a couple to make each other feel ashamed, to use hurtful words when speaking to each other or, worse, to push or hit each other.—Read Proverbs 17:27; 31:26.

17 In some cultures, men bully or hit their wives to prove that they are strong. But the Bible says: “The one slow to anger is better than a mighty man, and the one controlling his temper than one conquering a city.” (Proverbs 16:32) A person needs great inner strength to show self-control as did Jesus Christ, the greatest man who ever lived. A man who bullies or hits his wife is a weak man who will lose his relationship with Jehovah. The psalmist David, who was a strong and courageous man, said: “Be agitated, but do not sin. Have your say in your heart, upon your bed, and keep silent.”—Psalm 4:4. (Build a Strong & Happy Marriage w15 1/15 pp. 15-20)

Sadly, some have been educated to believe/practice that aggression/violence/abuse/dominance is strength. “A man who bullies or hits his wife is weak […]” (i’d say the same about a woman who bullies or hits is weak.) Boys and girls both need compassion education aka lessons/examples (worthy of imitation) of true love/agape, forgiveness and kindness, self-control in the home at an early age (and beyond)…for the culture of hate/violence/abuse to stop! All of us, young-old, male-female need to learn and appreciate the value of compassion!:)

PLEASE people, can’t we all show love and respect, forgiveness to each other every day?:) All of us, including myself very much, can improve…making more compassionate choices of speech and action. We may not agree or understand each other completely/fully…our thinking/belief system(s), vocabulary, etc…however, all beautiful-breathing-fragile-life on this beautiful planet deserves dignity, respect, love, education, patience, compassion.

(i was thinking/meditating about “humility”…a humble person isn’t insulting and doesn’t get insulted easily.) Taking ourselves a little less seriously…laughing it off helps, huh? (a value of mine: laughter & Chato makes me laugh!:)

A humble person is willing to see where they need to tweak/adjust, a humble person is willing to accept help…(in its various forms) and from whomever. (It takes courage, choice, compassion to accept change and/or take action and/or accept help.)

It’s so commendable/inspiring/(encouraging to me) when i learn/hear/see “positive” changes some have made in their lives that have benefitted themselves (and their families) tremendously: the following video caught my attention:

Am i Happy??

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Mushy, Moshy Minds and Violent Sneezes

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i am sick. The kind of sick that takes you down (and away, sadly, from all your work/responsibilities). (Which isn’t easy for somebody like me who enJOYS work & usually pushes through/works through it/sickness/stresses.) Keeps you in bed 2 days straight with fever, aches/pains/chills/shakes and violent sneezes (and coughs)…jarring and contracting and leaving my entire 117 lb. body listless. These violent sneezes (that my kids describe as shrilly screams)…are like seizures that take over and i can’t help but surrender to…the rapid-fire like a machine gun…that hasn’t run out of ammo for 2 days.

Today, i’m feeling better: THANK GOD!:) i’m NOT sneezing as frequently, i’m coughing: OUCH!…just hurting…and THANKFUL!:) No matter what any of us go through..it’s temporary & there are always things for which to be thankful and grateful.

Here’s my short sneezy list:

1. TREES! aka box of tissues…(trying not to use too many).

2. My comfy bed & pillow on which to be sick! (i know there are many out there that don’t have a bed or pillow nor any comfort nor any tissues. i.e. Jarina & Daughter: The Homeless & The Car-less & The Less/Lessness of Life.)

3. My kids’ ages and that They and Daddy can get a long (a little while) without my total involvement/participation in everything they do. (I’ve endured/managed caring for babies/young ones while being very sick in the past.) THANKFUL for Hubby & Kids helping me & letting me rest (aka leaving me be a little). (Sometimes, it’s difficult to be loved…(and/or hated, eh?) some one always demands/wants/needs something from you most moments…you’re presence, time, energy, thoughts, involvement, etc.)

4. Comforting words: promises from a person who is incapable of lieing (aka Yahweh/God of unending Compassion)

“And no resident will say: “I am sick.” The people dwelling in the land will be pardoned for their error.” (Isaiah 33:24)
and is based on a hope of the everlasting life that God, who cannot lie, promised long ago;” (Titus 1:2)

p.s. IF my decision making is wishy-washy is that indicative of a mushy-moshy mind?!

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Species’ Skills: Music & Movement

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Awe-inspiring species’ skills…(music & movement)

Michael Dickinson, a professor of biology and insect flight expert at the University of Washington…”The whole question of how these little wings generate enough force to keep the insect in the air is resolved,”

Dickinson published a 2005 study in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences on the flight of the bumblebee after gathering data using high-speed photography of actual flying bees and force sensors on a larger-than-life robotic bee wing flapping around in mineral oil. He says the big misconception about insect flight and perhaps what tripped up Magnan is the belief that bumblebees flap their wings up and down. “Actually, with rare exceptions, they flap their wings back and forth,” Magnan said. ~excerpt Explained: The Physics-Defying Flight of the Bumblebee

Who taught the bumblebee his cool moves?:) check it out: celestial choreography

Our awe can only increase when we contemplate the size of galaxies. The Milky Way galaxy has been estimated to measure some 100,000 light-years across. Picture a beam of light traveling at the tremendous speed of 186,000 miles each second (300,000 km/sec). It would take that beam 100,000 years to traverse our galaxy! And some galaxies are many times the size of ours. The Bible says that Jehovah is “stretching out” these vast heavens as if they were mere fabric. (Psalm 104:2) He also orders the movements of these creations. From the smallest speck of interstellar dust to the mightiest galaxy, everything moves according to physical laws that God has formulated and put into effect. (Job 38:31-33) Thus, scientists have likened the precise movements of the celestial bodies to the choreography of an elaborate ballet! Think, then, of the One who has created these things. Do you not stand in awe of the God having such immense creative power? `excerpt: Creative Power–The Maker of Heaven and Earth

Is everything/universe/planet(s)/species, species’ skills, etc. (basically/simply): Divine Mind Music (aka Yahweh wisdom) at play (dance/work/set in motion)?

 

(published 1/7/15@9:47 a.m.)

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Thinking about: What, Where and Who?

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I was thinking about…

THINKING about

–You :)–

and then thought

NO!

Why let myself/my mind/my heart…..go……………………………………………………….there/their

to (a) place(s)

i “may” never come back from

A L I V E

(emotionally or otherwise)

though

believe me please (aka it’s true)

when

i

say

I WOULD DIE FOR YOU and

probably/potentially (already) am

s~l~o~w~l~y (and otherwise)

of (a)

broken/mostly MENDED Heart…

THANK GOD…i am FIXED!…as in: (according to an on-line identity/description/definition of “fixed”)

fastened, attached, or placed so as to be firm and not readily movable; firmly implanted;
rendered stable or permanent, as color.
set or intent upon something; steadily directed: a fixed stare.
definitely and permanently placed: a fixed buoy; a fixed line of defense.
not fluctuating or varying; definite: a fixed purpose.
(You know: “eyes on the prize”)

i can only

L O V E

for now…(and)

HOPE  FULLY

in fixing/healing

You/Others…then!

when

i’m a fully functioning mind:  (aka absolute compassion (among other things))

(!HALLELUJAH!)

this is what i’m thinking:

“Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste/pure, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well-spoken-of, whatever things are virtuous, and whatever things are praiseworthy, continue considering/or thinking about/meditating on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)

Plus, the fresh air and sunshine is my disinfectant/(healer) as well:  recently read this in Awake! March 2015 excerpt: (my highlights)

 The World Health Organization (WHO) recognizes that natural ventilation, which includes outside air flowing through a building, is important for infection control. Indeed, WHO guidelines published in 2009 encourage use of such natural ventilation as an effective measure in reducing the risk of infection at health-care facilities.

Studies conducted at a United Kingdom Ministry of Defence site provide some answers. Scientists there were trying to establish how long the air would remain dangerous if a biological weapon armed with harmful bacteria were exploded over London. To determine the viability of airborne pathogens, the researchers anchored E. coli microorganisms to threads of spider silk and exposed them to the open air. The experiment was performed at night, since it was known that sunlight kills these bacteria. What were the results?

Some two hours later, nearly all the bacteria were dead. Yet, when the bacteria were kept in a closed box in the same location and at the same temperature and humidity, most of them were still alive past the two-hour mark. Why? Evidently, something about being in the open air kills germs. This so-called open-air factor has not been clearly identified. However, researchers point to a compound that occurs naturally in open air and that “acts as a natural disinfectant against pathogens or germs that lurk in the atmosphere.”

Sunlight also has natural disinfecting properties. The Journal of Hospital Infection explains that “the majority of microbes that cause airborne infections cannot tolerate sunlight.

 My beloved/(country) grandma, resting in PEACE, Ella Mae Love-Wil—-, liked/sang this song & it (always) reminds me of Her (and Other Loved Ones! and my (long-gone) city youth and past New Hampshire Mountain family (camping) vacations)!

 

 

(published 12/30/14 @ 11:43 a.m.)

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under? OVER?…Level-Headed?

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Under, Over, Center…leveled? balanced?
Plumb? (1 on-line description:  “exactly vertical or true”)
Under or Over…confidence can be dangerous/deadly! If any of us are either extreme…underrating ourselves or overrating ourselves…leads to unhealthy choices/actions…(because we are not being level-headed) aka choices/actions that are off…off balance.
i LOVE the book of Proverbs…for its practicality:
“When presumptuousness comes, dishonor will follow, But wisdom is with the modest ones” Proverbs 11:2…(for me: when in doubt, i sit it out.)
 
…also for me, i try to embrace modesty (as attitude, etc)…not just talking the way i choose to dress (modesty is sorta a protest against sexual objectification of Fragile-Life i.e. women/men)…it saddens me how some self-objectify…may be ? because of under or over confidence…can’t help but…ask: who really wants to be the “butt” of any jokes??
Life is like ice skating…(i enJOY/appreciate the beauty/discipline of this sport..and LOVE to watch it (& was AMAZED by Gordeeva & Grinkov & their skill):
“A world-class athlete, in full command of his skill and to all outward appearances in excellent physical condition, suddenly collapsed during a practice session and died. The athlete was Sergei Grinkov, a two-time Olympic gold medalist ice skater, whose career was cut short just as it started to blossom—when he was only 28 years old. What a tragedy! The cause? A heart attack. It was said that his death was totally unexpected because there was no sign of any kind to indicate that he was suffering from heart disease. Yet, examiners found that he had an enlarged heart and severely blocked coronary arteries.” (w/01 You can avoid a Spiritual Heart Attack)
“Consequently let him that thinks he is standing beware that he does not fall.” (1Corinthians 10:12)
Finding Your Balance? (Keep it.) 🙂
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