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Musings of a Mother

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Peaceful Greeting(s) Fellow-Earthling(s):)

Thanks:) for making my post a part of Your day. Yes, I am a Mother…of four offspring…specifically teenagers! Some musings to follow. (My time constraints–today–do not allow for me to give the necessary attention/focus to writing all of these musings swirling in my mind. I may or may not turn this post into a series of connected content.)

From my limited-personal-point-of-view: it seems a lot of us, Earthlings, like to label/identify ourselves by our higher and/or highest values of which we feel proud…(parents or not or mature or not/younger and older alike). The parenting project/my particular parenting project is a shared endeavor with my husband of 27 years (we became parents by surprise about 8 years in)…an/one important work of mine in progress which initially seemed entailed 20 years…on average?! is one I DO NOT WANT TO FAIL!;(

Like any on the job training (kind of) position…there is learning curve and ups and downs, eh? The first kid is the guinea pig. I was the guinea pig in my family. What has helped guide this daunting process, for me, has been timeless and relevant ancient wisdom (e.g., Biblical).

In some ways, these are abnormal times in which we all live with normal parenting concerns/anxieties…aka trying to survive/thrive..do your best with what you got to work with. Do abnormal times call for unconventional or conventional parenting skills??…the parenting plan/purpose–well-adjusted, healthy-well-functioning physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually high-functioning mature, superlatively-educated, selfless, interdependent adult whom will contribute positively to community/society/brotherhood of humanity…may take longer than 20 years..eh?!;)

Seriously, at 49 years, i still have lots to learn…as Mother, Wife, Friend, Human, (etc. the uncapitalized..(pun? intended))…whatever other label(s) suit(?) me. My clothing of choice is agape love…as well as trying to dress in mildness and humility, meekness and self-control. (Writings, interactions and communications with kids and adults is like weather! You/One can be the hurricane, tornado, windstorm, rainstorm, dark cloud or ray of sunshine, rainbow, cool breeze, gentle/refreshing dew drop.)

the Doo-Wop…music to any situation…or writing…we all can add love.:) Musical tastes differ…as well as parenting styles.

IDK, may be? we all need a “monotone” message of “love” to keep humanity on happy track.

Is parenting more effective when it/(the process) is a selfless-labor-of-love?!…and not excluding tough love neither.

At times–it’s quite difficult to put your own feelings/preferences aside–as Mother–in pursuit of best interests for my child. To be an effective/good? mother means i need to be less selfish. My kids’ need to learn/grow…and say about environment/ecosystem here in Florida. I hate snakes, my kids don’t. Will i allow my hate for snakes to override/ruin their relationship with snakes?

My peculiar set of worries/anxieties…of course, the parenting course…have impacted my teens. Am trying to keep it to a minimum. Striking the balance of helping them be aware of danger of i.e. snakes (including more important concerns)…respecting…snakes, life, love, family, community…choices and consequences, etc. both positives and negatives..at the same time acknowledging, we, parents cannot take (a) kid(s) and drop him/her off at the ocean without any preparation or swimming lessons…and expect them to float and not drown nor be eaten/bitten by sharks!!

Is parenting primarily life guard?! 

So many (mind boggling?) variables can shape our parenting styles. I tend to declutter or edit (meaning i despise complicated so-called solutions to simple problems)…living and parenting, to me, boils down to learning (simply?!;)) to be less selfish everyday! When each of us, parent and child, learn to put others’ interests ahead of our own…we tend to make wiser-longer-sighted-positive choices…that benefit more than self…in the moment. (A life time is more than moments…or more moments make up a life span.)

As a spiritually-minded parent, I have always tried putting spiritual things/endeavors first…meaning also: have attempted to instill “spiritual” over material values in my kids…this excerpted reading explains some of my reasons why much better than i can articulate:

17. Why is the life of those who make no room for the Creator not truly meaningful?

17 Contrast this with what people have who, even though not being morally corrupt, make no room for the Creator in their lives. They may have the honor and the material possessions that they desire, perhaps find a measure of satisfaction in helping the needy and enjoy cultural activities and wholesome pleasures. Yet, they must admit the inescapable fact that nothing in this world has any real permanence. No one is immune to accidents, disease or death. Possessions will neither protect against these things nor can they be taken along when life ends. (Psalm 49:6-20; Ecclesiastes 5:13-15; 8:8) Well-meaning efforts to help fellow humans may come to frustration because of unfavorable circumstances. So it might well be asked: How meaningful can a life be if the ultimate future it offers is just the grave? How can it be good if it actually works against a person’s eternal future?​—Compare Ecclesiastes 1:11, 15, 18; 2:10, 11; 9:11, 12. [excerpted reading: Making the Right Choice: Choosing the Best Way of Life, Chapter 1, pp. 11-12]

Sticky note Scripture:

Do nothing out of contentiousness or out of egotism, but with humility*(or lowliness of mind) consider others superior to you, 4 as you look out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3, 4)

Questions for reflections:

as parent, partner, friend, fellow-breathing-fragile-life aka human:

am i contentious or egotistical?

am i humble?

am i willing to learn from Others (including younger life and older life)…meaning do i have the mindset that Others are superior to me?

am i just looking out for my own best interests?

am i looking out for the best interests of Others?

how will being less selfish help…any/all situations/interactions/communications/relationships/circumstances??

 

11/03/18 @ 2:28 p.m.

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Halloween 2018

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the irony of: me enJOYing big CHUNKS of chocolate as i type this post protest (chose word cause it’s more poetic aka it tastes good to my ears and word palate…though, for the record, i don’t personally/bodily/literally participate in actual/concrete “protests” for political neutrality purposes/reasons)…

NOPE…i do–by (well-informed) conscious choice–refrain/avoid any and all Halloween rituals!…and will, most likely, boycott candy consumption tomorrow. LOL so, i’m “bingeing” ? 😉 on Godiva Dark Chocolate Almond and Hershey’s Dark Chocolate sans Almond…(gifts from Hubby and not endorsements by me of said brands) tonight–dressed as my boring/(non-fun) freckled self without mask/make-up–this makes my corny self chuckle.

Would You Agree? (at crucial times) Truth is NO laughing matter…BOO< BOO< BOO to You joanie!!!

Have You read my confessions??

2013, 14, 15, 16 Confessions of a Chocolate Lover

Sam What?

No, NOT a fan Man of Mass Mind Manipulation of Nations..no, thanks!

“You must not walk in the statutes of the nations.” “Do not learn the way of the nations at all.” (Lev. 20:23; Jer. 10:2)

reformation(s)…removing varnish..and tarnish?!

Halloween’s roots, although not found in the Bible, can be traced back to a pagan origin. The pre-Christian Egyptians, Greeks and Romans all celebrated a festival for the dead. These ancients believed that on these occasions the spirits of the dead returned; therefore food was left for them and lamps were kept burning so they would not lose their way.

The Celtic order of Druids worshiped Samhain, lord of the dead, as well as a sun-god to whom the horse was sacred. On November 1, which was also their New Year, they held a joint festival in honor of these gods. It was believed that the souls of those who had died the previous year because of their sins were confined to the bodies of lower animals, and at the time of this festival Samhain assembled them together, and they were released to go to the Druid heaven. On the eve of the feast of Samhain the pagan Celts used to keep bonfires burning, believing that this would protect them from evil spirits.

The many features of today’s Halloween and Day of the Dead celebrations can be traced directly back to paganism. The ancients associated this time of the year with the supernatural and with the thronging of dead spirits, so it was right in line with Catholic church policy to adopt this date for their All Saints’ and All Souls’ Day. The people were thus able to keep their pagan customs and beliefs and still celebrate what are called Christian festivals of the highest rank. But the varnish applied by Christendom to these pagan feasts is so thin that there is no questioning the fact that Halloween is rooted in paganism.

It is interesting to note that the Protestant Reformation was touched off on Halloween night. How so? Martin Luther, knowing it was the custom of the people to flock to the Palace Church in Wittenberg, Germany, on the eve of All Saints, picked that night to nail his ninety-five theses to its door. On reading them, the people’s smoldering resentment against the Catholic church burst into flames. Many pagan practices were cast off by the reformers, the celebration of All hallows Eve being one of them. [excerpted reading: w 11/1/1960 What Does Halloween Mean to You?]

{often wondered, but haven’t taken time to research…any? existing/trustworthy stats/data on

crime/violence/vandalism/aggression/bullying/suicide spiking/attributed to Halloween night.}

an observation–without hard evidence–from a non-participant/outsider…each year seemingly incrementally escalating of advertising and costumes, etc. seem much more outlandish and gory…over-the-top bloody-scary to me than in previous years.

Healthy Teeth to You:)…aka no rotten rituals…aka Understanding Truth about ideas/practices/origins/masks-disguises of dictators dictating cultural/religious holidays/dogmas…indoctrination(s).

freely enjoying my chocolate consumption in moderation as myself 🙂

10/20/18 @ 8:07 p.m.

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Neither/Nor

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Make me neither rich nor poor
Make me neither beautiful nor ugly
Make me neither smart nor stupid
Make me neither sharp nor dull
Make me neither clever nor dim
Make me neither strong nor weak
Make neither warm nor cold
Make me neither happy nor sad
Make me neither bitter nor sweet
Make me neither big nor little
Make me neither fat nor skinny
Make me neither haughty nor humble

Make me?! Neither nor/nor neither
Make me neither hate nor love
(You cannot make me)

“So that I do not become satisfied and deny you and say, “Who is (Yahweh)
Jehovah?” Nor let me become poor and steal and dishonor (assail) the name of my God.” PROverb 30:9

Make me neither too rich nor too poor
Make me neither too beautiful nor too ugly
Make me neither too smart nor too stupid
Make me neither too sharp nor too dull
Make me neither too clever nor too dim
Make me neither too strong nor too weak
Make neither too warm nor too cold
Make me neither too happy nor too sad
Make me neither too bitter nor too sweet
Make me neither too big nor too little
Make me neither too fat nor too skinny
Make me neither too haughty nor too humble

(Make me neither too balanced nor too wobbly)

Make me?! too neither nor/nor neither too

 

my heart:

Whoever trusts in his own heart is stupid.​—Prov. 28:26.

read commentary:
A popular philosophy or common adage is: Follow your heart. But doing that can be dangerous. And in a sense, doing so is unscriptural. The Bible warns us not to let our imperfect heart or mere sentiment rule when we are making decisions. And Bible accounts show the sad consequences of following one’s heart. The core problem is that in imperfect humans, “the heart is more treacherous than anything else and is desperate.” (Jer. 3:17; 13:10; 17:9; 1 Ki. 11:9) So, what could it mean for us if we simply follow our heart and let our emotions dictate our thinking and actions? For example, what might happen if we make decisions when we are angry? The answer may be obvious if we have done this in times past. (Prov. 14:17; 29:22) Or is it likely that we will make sound decisions when we are discouraged? (Num. 32:6-12; Prov. 24:10) [excerpted reading: w 17.03 2:12, 13]

emotions (and? neither/nor)…can be deceptive.

am fighting deception everyday!!

 

10/29/18 @ 12:30 p.m.

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