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Obnoxious Parent(?) (.) (!)

Breathing-Fragile-Life caregiving choice communication conscientious-ness education family Joan Winifred music parenting

Decided to try a FUN (my definition of “fun”) (short) social experiment today (which I’ve tried before and will do again)…ON PURPOSE.
Picked up my youngests, middle-school aged kids from school (this is not endorsement of public middle school) part-way. Hey, I had to walk to and fro school for miles in frigid-snowy weather. Am I conditioning cold-weather-wimps raising my kids here in FL (though, we experience the other weather extreme: VERY HOT and learning to work/function without AC; oh Ya, we have torrential-rainy-season and hurricanes, okay, may be? I was a little “harsh” with the “wimp” word.) ? (Plus, this world is scary place raising PYT’s aka pretty young things and keeping them safe!)(Plus, modern-research shows and ancient-text, e.g., Jesus (Sage of Compassion) and Crew traveled by sandal from village to village) walking and talking “outside” is a healthy brain activity; especially after being cooped up at various body-mind constrictive desks inside for hours being schooled or is it indoctrinated? Educated? Depends!;))

So, to aggravate my little/young girls (and potentially embarrass, ya right!:)) or play with their minds, I play LOUDLY (well, my level of geeky, loud, sound as a person who tries my best/practices consideration for Others conscientiously) classical Music lol:) e.g.,

My experiment is two-fold… hoping some good, wholesome, beautiful music will gently float in the wind and open/expose the ears of any kids walking by my parked car… whose ears/minds may be regularly assaulted by offensive, profanity-laden NOISE!!

As soon as they enter car, seemingly unfazed by music, oh well, though one girl tries quickly to change station without my detection. The other girl proceeds to tell me that an “old” man (her definition of old is anyone over 25 whereas mine is anyone nearing 90 lol;)) was passing out Bibles to walking kids and that a friend (aka school acquaintance) threw a Bible in the nearby canal. “Oh really!” Hmmm, “wait till that same so-called friend tosses you into a canal!” is my initial response, acknowledging that we are Bible readers, respecters, and promoters of Bible principles by the way we choose to live/speak. “So, what did You say to the Man?” I asked (cause obviously they are not carrying any Bibles, just wearing their back packs). My daughters inform me they POLITELY said, “No Thank You, we have our own religion.”

My initial (give the person benefit of doubt) thought about the man is Wow! somebody else out there is potentially trying to expose kids’ minds to something wholesome/good after school! However, it’s important to get parental permission, huh? before giving something to minors!! Did he ask the kids IF their parents allowed them to choose their own reading material?? Happy my kids were polite and safe by choosing not to take something from someone they don’t know well enough without parental consent as minors… but, I would of preferred them saying something like: Thank You, we have our favorite translation that we enjoy reading already!…(In ear shot of the Other kids.) Next time, they will be better prepared; hopefully.

Thoughts from me, an obnoxious parent who is passively sharing/soft-selling wholesome music from my car…and who hasn’t completely relinquished/abdicated or been forced without any fight, or programmed to hand over my parental privileges/responsibilities to Anyone… including governments, teachers, TV’s, phones, devices, internet, etc. and actually attempts to teach, instruct, meaningfully converse/spend time with my kids; trying to share some words of wisdom, safety, etc…Car time can be prime opportunity for “meaningful” deep, spiritual conversations with my kids. Especially since, they wanna get somewhere physically and I’m driving and they’re buckled in seats and I’ve trained them (through the years) that unless their minds are willing to travel with me first… via positive communication… then their bodies will not get to where they wanna go second… i.e. friends’ house, park, party, etc. (Frequent, short-poignant, and fun lectures (i mean “talks”-lol;) at various times; both inside and outside, relaxed and formal…seem to positively work for me and my kids.)

When, they come home from school… the routine, usually insist that they change immediately out of school clothes and when I remember, spray disinfectant on back packs… and remind wash hands before they eat. (They are usually starving after school.) (Hubby usually makes something nutritious for their arrival before heading back to work.)

What about disinfecting their minds?! (aka keeping their minds healthy (clean) in and out of school, huh?)

An obnoxious parent’s work never done?!;)

Peace to All You (so-called) Obnoxious Parents/Readers:)…trying Your best to help Your Kids do Their best in life. 🙂

3/06/18 @ 7:42 p.m.

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Cheering UP

Breathing-Fragile-Life caregiving comfort compassion conscientious-ness exercise healing Joan Winifred

“Strengthen the hands that hang down and the feeble knees, and keep making straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but, rather, may be healed.”

“Pursue peace with all people. […] (Hebrews 12:12-14)

PRO…verbing…(compassion exercise, huh?) every day opportunities abound and are found… around..

Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, But a good word cheers it up. (Proverb 12:25)

Being aware (and remaining aware) of what people/fellow-breathing-fragile-life need… is necessary to be of any help.

(A SMILE, a KIND word, practical assistance, etc.)

“trying” to help… is a self-sacrificing-life-style for some of us (dedicated to compassion)…however, all of us, at one time or another, need help in one form or another.

How can I help today?

What help do I need today?

 

1/19/18 @ 5:23 p.m.

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Ears

Breathing-Fragile-Life caregiving comfort compassion Joan Winifred

My kitty-cat’s ears are cold! (poor smudgey wudgey!)
i have the privileged task of… like lol 🙂 How do you warm-up a cat’s ears??!… no, this is a “serious” question–though i am chuckling while typing this. 🙂

(topic of needed research, huh?… not a “typical” concern here in usually balmy Florida)

The poor animals/children here are not physically equipped for these sudden-snap cold temps.

He’s purring and i am massaging his ears… my middle daughter wrapped his head in tissue… my oldest daughter, who loves to sew and knit,…will ask her to make him a kitty-friendly hat!!🙂

1/4/18 @ 11:32 a.m.

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Prepare and Don’t Panic!

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My thoughts and prayers are with those dealing with/experiencing Category 5 Hurricane Irma at the moment of this writing! And, of course, with all Others in the potential “perhaps” zone of catastrophic path of the unknown impact! And with All those dealing with a disaster of one name/sort or another in one place or another!

My Brother and Sister-in-law are in Haiti…my immediate Family and Friends are here close to my vicinity in FL. I think this whole state is a flood zone. We happen to live in flat land…our place of literal/bodily dwelling doesn’t flood…usually, but surrounding us does…go figure?….of course, with potential of spillage or depending on rainfall, etc. that could change fast.

During rainy season, i live in crocs. {i haven’t gotten around to getting rubber boats -ha, i meant to type boots:)…it’s hot to wear boots in high 80’s/90’s, but i think, it’s “probably” time. The super big puddles/rivers and washed out streets…picking kids up from school has had me considering a boots investment for a while now. Rubber boots may be sold out ? IDK and rainy season is almost finished…Hurricane season ends in November.} Boots haven’t been a necessity…for me (till now? in the “perhaps” zone)

My kids are prepping their to-go bags/carry-ons as i type on this laptop…and my 12 year old just announced -lol that IF we leave, (cause of flooding), she is NOT taking her homework binder!!;) This is ironic coming from a kid who always does her homework no matter what and is thoughtful, super-responsible with follow-through! She’s also singing “it’s the end of the world as we know it–AND I FEEL FINE!!” (School officials will inform Wednesday at noon about school cancellations, etc.) My 14 year old is considering what artwork to bring…and to wrap in plastic. And of course, the cats are their priority! i am chuckling cause now–the kids are asking/aka testing me about a particular privilege–i feel they are not old enough for yet…and under usual conditions the answer would be NO! …smartie pants, my answer is still NO!…:) My 12 year old is now stating IF You love me, you will answer this question…and i quickly piped up Yes! (meaning: of course i love you and i’m listening while my head is down typing), and so–now she laughingly informs me: I have to buy her a rat cause i said ‘Yes’…(what she really means is gerbil; that’s what she calls a gerbil and all in rodent family and she knows my yes means yes and my no, no. Plus she knows, i don’t care much for rats!), but she loves all animals in any family type and would be perfectly fine with a real rat (from the pet store). (Not me though, i do not want rats for pets from a store or anywhere, thank you; still working on fully appreciating this fellow-fragile-life/creature; obviously.)

Now the kids are goofing around making up…& singing country songs…”Two tear drops floating down the river…” and talking/chattering non-stop; wonder where/who they get that from?! 😉

This is suppose to be a serious post about preparation(s) and a kid is now tickling my nose/trying to stick a piece of twirled plastic up my nose so, i’ll sneeze…while my eyes are distracted on this screen.  STOP IT! Cut it out! She is relentlessly aggravating me for a laugh…we are having fun and laughing/playing and not panicking while prepping for a potentially very-serious-weather-life-altering-event.

My son quietly informs that: IF our house gets wrecked, his only regret is not painting his room…blue.

okay back to business…little girls have left room..i better type fast to finish this before the unrelenting interruptions start up again…i LOVE my kids!…and especially love their creative teaching techniques…teaching me patience, and other qualities (like staying calm in emergencies and listening completely before replying) i need to work on–or things i need to change…lol;)…especially my snarky sarcasm that surfaces from time-to-time.

“PREPARATION is Your MOST IMPORTANT KEY TO SURVIVAL!” – Awake! No. 5 “When Disaster Strikes–Steps That Can Save Lives”….

No one is immune to disaster. But what does preparation involve?

  • Prepare mentally. Acknowledge the fact that disasters happen and that you and your loved ones are potentially at risk. It is too late to prepare after disaster strikes.

  • Learn about disasters that can happen in your area. Know where shelters are. Consider whether the construction of your home and its location are as safe as possible. Remove fire hazards. Install smoke detectors, and change their batteries at least once a year, if not more often.

  • Prepare emergency supplies. Power, water, phone, and transportation services can fail. If you own a car, try to keep the fuel tank at least half full, and always have food, water, and an emergency kit in your home.​

  • Have access to the phone numbers of friends, both near and far.

  • Make and rehearse an escape plan. Know the nearest exits in your building, as well as the emergency plan of your children’s school. Set up family meeting places​—such as a school or a library—​one nearby and another outside your neighborhood. Authorities recommend that you practice walking with your family to those meeting points.

  • Plan to help others, including the elderly and the infirm.

i’ve been living in the “perhaps” zone concerning various life things/circumstances, etc…for a while now…this training has prepped/disciplined/taught my mind and heart to be prepared..for whatever occurs….{at least, i think/hope anyway.}

Reader:)…are You prepared? Physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually?? (for disaster or whatever?)

Don’t Panic! BE PREPARED! BE SAFE and ACCURATELY INFORMED!:)

PEACE!:)

9/5/17 @ 10:35 p.m.

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