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snoozing and losing

snooze much–lose much??

snooze little–lose little??

NO Snoozing–NO Losing?! 🙂

(Not talking physical sleep; spiritual slumber is harmful whereas physical sleep restorative.)

An observation: imperfect: mine:

Some of us lose out on a lot spiritually sleep walking through much of our lives. We are caught unawares and unwise. With our mind’s eyes shut/closed…We fail to prioritize the most important components of life which would bring us the deepest satisfaction and happiness…and JOY. (My P.O.V.)

I don’t get enough physical sleep mostly due to forces beyond my control, (that’s my excuse and i’m sticking with it for now;) i.e. sick kid(s)/family member(s), etc. And force within my self-control…UP too late learning)…attempting to know what i don’t now know.

Wish i could sleep when i want/need to sleep. Life doesn’t always cooperate, eh?;)

In my personal readings of the Bible…there are warnings to stay on the watch; pay attention—CARE fully. Caring does have something to do with it; for sure. Caring about the correct things…aka what is truly worthy of care/concern.

I CARE ABOUT LIFE! ALL LIFE.

At my mind gym…we had a special visitor this week..who briefly spoke about […] which got my mind churning about “criteria”  for my choices…is the slight inspiration for this post. He brought up 3 topics for consideration which are very practical—for all of us—to deeply consider individually.

  1. morality
  2.  doctrine
  3.  organization

Personally, my base line morality is: RESPECT FOR LIFE. Which is a BIG blanket…comfy! covers;)…many “specifics” in life including bed and bedding. lol:)

Usually, keeps me warm and my conscience feeling healthy…(aka  one thing NOT keeping me up at night.)

my choices, my refrains, my symbolic gestures, etc…i always wear my seat belt and drive the speed limit. I stopped skiing, at Hubby’s request, due to fear of m.a.j.o.r. injuries. Am much better at ice skating, and enJOY that Winter sport; less spills for me. I respect the sacredness of blood, so i don’t consume this life force in any form. I respect young life, so no abortion. I respect old life, so i respect authority; accept counsel from my parents, grandparents and feel elderly ones are a source of wisdom and should be loved and taken care. I respect male life and female life and innate differences are valued by me which entails/encompasses cooperation, peace.

Also, “Potential” is a value…potential life–should be protected/respected…which means, to me, sex inside marriage. Young/new life is worthy of loving-protective-stable male/female teachers, (e.g., parents aka more experienced life helping inexperienced life succeed with pertinent life lessons).

I believe both males and females aka “parents” “generators” of life: sperm/egg …have much to bring of VALUE to the working/functioning table of life–from which–young/less-experienced/newer on the scene/life can learn/need to learn.

I respect animal life, though, i do eat meat in moderation. (So, this shows/indicates: I elevate/value human/fellow-breathing-fragile-life-species/capacities/potentials over animal/fellow-breathing-fragile-life-species to some degree. I do love animals, too. Especially, the tasty kind, just joking!lol or the fluffy/cute kind!:) I am SERIOUSLY disgusted by wanton abuses and merciless murders of precious life in general. I reject violence. I reject war. I save bugs and don’t stomp on them…cause hey, i am a bug myself. Have annoyed many in my lifetime; i’m sure.:) and maybe?? You Reader:)…find this post pestering?!! OOPS.

I “attempt” to live Agape Love to the best of my very-imperfect abilities in my dealings/interactions/communications with all my fellow-life out of respect & love of life.

I’m glad to be alive! And I Do Respect Others have differing values/criteria and respect they make different choices than me.  I am just “explaining” my personal values/choices and connections…which seem tied & teethered appropriately/logically within frame of Respect For Life moral value.

I don’t mean to be mean…and/or turn this into a long list of do nots…just “brief” examples of how my ‘base’ morality flows: Valuing: “Respect For Life” touches/connects/knots various choices together i personally make.

Doctrine: TRUTH. I investigate/”care” FULLY (cause i care fully) examine everything–of interest–to be sure my knowledge (or acceptance thereof) is reasonably ‘accurate’ on a given topic including religion. (And whether or not Respect For Life is demonstrated/manifested..and how, when, why, where.)

True and false exist. Many of us fail to take the necessary time and/or are mentally lazy, don’t care, and sleepily accept/eat/fall for false notions, outright-obnoxious lies, and incomplete information or mis/disinformation which is distracting, damaging, and/or deadly!:(

Hey, i wanna keep living, THANKS!:)

From my perspective: means Trusting Truth & Respecting Life.

My Respect For Life informs: I don’t want to “stupidly” cut life short or snooze and lose!! or booze..nope, not an over-drinker…my respect for life takes me down the route of m.o.d.e.r.a.t.i.o.n.

(So, i’ve never smoked and never will. I “try” not to make rash/dash…overly-emotional decisions before gathering adequate/enough evidence of accuracy. Which takes time and patience/tenacity /endurance/care…courage.)

Wonder why i’m TIRED!;)

Plus, i’ve found: Truly Respecting Life not only eloooooongates, but ELEVATES quality of living/life.🙂

Organization: When analyzing ANY/ALL organization(s): i.e., government, business, religion, education, club, etc. and/or whether to support or join:

My Morality: “Respect For Life” and Doctrine: “Truth” come into play major.

Does this organization/religion/business/club: Respect Life or Take Life?? What about Truth?? Does this particular organization: teach, implement, practice what is TRUE??! And to a reasonable degree??

to me: it’s not that overly-complicated…trusting truth and respecting life…are simply logical and beneficial🙂…and for myself and for Others

I really appreciate when Others have Respect For Life/my life!!:)

I am spiritually awake to:

  1. Respect For Life (and to what degree/how deeply)?!
  2.  Doctrine: Truth. Is this (?) True/Accurate: (on the surface or deeply)?!
  3. IF ANY ORGANIZATION does not adhere to morality and doctrine 1 + 2 = criteria/test…i take notice. I reject. I abstain.

{Yes, I have other (numbers/values) that can/may be added to my analysis/equation formula…not enumerated above…for the sake of keeping this post: short/concise/simple/succinct as possible.}

And when in doubt, i sit it out…or i research more and remain neutral/non-participatory..because of my deep love & respect for the precious gift of life! 🙂

I accept/realize not everyone sees things/investigates—like me—through this spiritual lens of Respecting Life & Trusting Truth…so, they will view and do differently than me. That is their prerogative!

And whatever our particular prerogatives/our choices–we all live with our own consequences!

Actually, these two values R.L. & T.T. help me feel better/more positively about my very imperfect/very much a work in progress: ever learning/changing self.

THANKS Reader for understanding.

Another “personal” observation: acquired over time: My Day seems to go Okay when i continue Respecting Life & Trusting Truth!:) and these values have been with me since Youth..(i’ll be 50 March 2019)…

Partly because of my Parents. Partly because of my (Bible & Other) education. Partly because of my association. Partly because…

 

 

(2/1/15 @ 3:04p.m.)

Peace/Respect to You Reader:)

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Musings of a Mother

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Peaceful Greeting(s) Fellow-Earthling(s):)

Thanks:) for making my post a part of Your day. Yes, I am a Mother…of four offspring…specifically teenagers! Some musings to follow. (My time constraints–today–do not allow for me to give the necessary attention/focus to writing all of these musings swirling in my mind. I may or may not turn this post into a series of connected content.)

From my limited-personal-point-of-view: it seems a lot of us, Earthlings, like to label/identify ourselves by our higher and/or highest values of which we feel proud…(parents or not or mature or not/younger and older alike). The parenting project/my particular parenting project is a shared endeavor with my husband of 27 years (we became parents by surprise about 8 years in)…an/one important work of mine in progress which initially seemed entailed 20 years…on average?! is one I DO NOT WANT TO FAIL!;(

Like any on the job training (kind of) position…there is learning curve and ups and downs, eh? The first kid is the guinea pig. I was the guinea pig in my family. What has helped guide this daunting process, for me, has been timeless and relevant ancient wisdom (e.g., Biblical).

In some ways, these are abnormal times in which we all live with normal parenting concerns/anxieties…aka trying to survive/thrive..do your best with what you got to work with. Do abnormal times call for unconventional or conventional parenting skills??…the parenting plan/purpose–well-adjusted, healthy-well-functioning physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually high-functioning mature, superlatively-educated, selfless, interdependent adult whom will contribute positively to community/society/brotherhood of humanity…may take longer than 20 years..eh?!;)

Seriously, at 49 years, i still have lots to learn…as Mother, Wife, Friend, Human, (etc. the uncapitalized..(pun? intended))…whatever other label(s) suit(?) me. My clothing of choice is agape love…as well as trying to dress in mildness and humility, meekness and self-control. (Writings, interactions and communications with kids and adults is like weather! You/One can be the hurricane, tornado, windstorm, rainstorm, dark cloud or ray of sunshine, rainbow, cool breeze, gentle/refreshing dew drop.)

the Doo-Wop…music to any situation…or writing…we all can add love.:) Musical tastes differ…as well as parenting styles.

IDK, may be? we all need a “monotone” message of “love” to keep humanity on happy track.

Is parenting more effective when it/(the process) is a selfless-labor-of-love?!…and not excluding tough love neither.

At times–it’s quite difficult to put your own feelings/preferences aside–as Mother–in pursuit of best interests for my child. To be an effective/good? mother means i need to be less selfish. My kids’ need to learn/grow…and say about environment/ecosystem here in Florida. I hate snakes, my kids don’t. Will i allow my hate for snakes to override/ruin their relationship with snakes?

My peculiar set of worries/anxieties…of course, the parenting course…have impacted my teens. Am trying to keep it to a minimum. Striking the balance of helping them be aware of danger of i.e. snakes (including more important concerns)…respecting…snakes, life, love, family, community…choices and consequences, etc. both positives and negatives..at the same time acknowledging, we, parents cannot take (a) kid(s) and drop him/her off at the ocean without any preparation or swimming lessons…and expect them to float and not drown nor be eaten/bitten by sharks!!

Is parenting primarily life guard?! 

So many (mind boggling?) variables can shape our parenting styles. I tend to declutter or edit (meaning i despise complicated so-called solutions to simple problems)…living and parenting, to me, boils down to learning (simply?!;)) to be less selfish everyday! When each of us, parent and child, learn to put others’ interests ahead of our own…we tend to make wiser-longer-sighted-positive choices…that benefit more than self…in the moment. (A life time is more than moments…or more moments make up a life span.)

As a spiritually-minded parent, I have always tried putting spiritual things/endeavors first…meaning also: have attempted to instill “spiritual” over material values in my kids…this excerpted reading explains some of my reasons why much better than i can articulate:

17. Why is the life of those who make no room for the Creator not truly meaningful?

17 Contrast this with what people have who, even though not being morally corrupt, make no room for the Creator in their lives. They may have the honor and the material possessions that they desire, perhaps find a measure of satisfaction in helping the needy and enjoy cultural activities and wholesome pleasures. Yet, they must admit the inescapable fact that nothing in this world has any real permanence. No one is immune to accidents, disease or death. Possessions will neither protect against these things nor can they be taken along when life ends. (Psalm 49:6-20; Ecclesiastes 5:13-15; 8:8) Well-meaning efforts to help fellow humans may come to frustration because of unfavorable circumstances. So it might well be asked: How meaningful can a life be if the ultimate future it offers is just the grave? How can it be good if it actually works against a person’s eternal future?​—Compare Ecclesiastes 1:11, 15, 18; 2:10, 11; 9:11, 12. [excerpted reading: Making the Right Choice: Choosing the Best Way of Life, Chapter 1, pp. 11-12]

Sticky note Scripture:

Do nothing out of contentiousness or out of egotism, but with humility*(or lowliness of mind) consider others superior to you, 4 as you look out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3, 4)

Questions for reflections:

as parent, partner, friend, fellow-breathing-fragile-life aka human:

am i contentious or egotistical?

am i humble?

am i willing to learn from Others (including younger life and older life)…meaning do i have the mindset that Others are superior to me?

am i just looking out for my own best interests?

am i looking out for the best interests of Others?

how will being less selfish help…any/all situations/interactions/communications/relationships/circumstances??

 

11/03/18 @ 2:28 p.m.

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“a” ‘better place to play’ : patience, please

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Wearing? Patience.

We all wear our values on full display, eh?!

A quality I/i am continually working on is patience…leads to harmony.

It’s a less angry/stressful/aggravating/agonizing/arrogant place to play.

More Peace🙂 easily found at the patience playgroundlot(s) less punching and petty bickering over empty words.

Patience (olive green) at play is energizing and not exhausting!

practical points on Patience:)

We are surrounded by a world in which people are often lovers of themselves, not open to any agreement, and without self-control. Those who display such characteristics are frequently anything but patient. […]

In the Biblical sense of the word, patience is more than simply putting up with a trying situation. A person with godly patience endures with a purpose. He sees beyond his own needs and considers the welfare of the one causing a disagreeable situation. For this reason, when a patient person is wronged or provoked, he refuses to give up hope for improvement in the disturbed relationship. Little wonder, then, that the Bible lists being “patient” as the first of many fine qualities that stem from love. (1 Cor. 13:4)

from my (albeit limited/imperfect) point of view: the more patience shown…indicative of depth of love; love indicative of understanding/appreciation; the more we love someone the more willing we are to be patient with/in our dealings/interactions/communications.

Patience is a wise course in numerous situations/circumstances (on & off line).

For example, please, notice these further excerpted readings:

Many everyday situations may test our patience. For example, if you feel that you have something important to say, you may need to exercise patience in order to avoid interrupting others. (Jas. 1:19) You might also need to show patience when associating with […] whose habits irritate you. Instead of overreacting to such things, you are wise to consider how [Yahweh]/ Jehovah and Jesus react to our weaknesses. They do not focus a critical eye on our minor failings. Rather, they see our good qualities and patiently observe our efforts to improve.​—1 Tim. 1:16; 1 Pet. 3:12.

Another situation that may test our patience is when someone suggests that we said or did something wrong. All too often, we may be quick to take offense and justify ourselves. However, God’s Word recommends a different response. It states: “Better to be patient than to be haughty in spirit. Do not be quick to take offense, for the taking of offense lodges in the bosom of fools.” (Eccl. 7:8, 9) Hence, even if an accusation is completely untrue, we should patiently weigh our response. Jesus followed that principle when others unjustly ridiculed him.​—Matt. 11:19.

[excerpted aforementioned readings: w 9/2018: Patience–Endurance with a Purpose]

am working on being more and more patient and…enduring with a purpose

and

obviously…

not interrupting as a talker😉

am i patient listener?!

a patient person/friend/parent/partner/fellow-fragile-life inhabiting Earth?

am i patiently purposeful?

10/09/18 @ 3:28 p.m.

Life seems an easier going with patience & purpose🙂

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Ca(i)n and Ab(e)l(e)

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Can?? IF wanted (to)
and
able?? can
or
Cain
and Abel…the so-called good bro; the so-called bad bro

What is the distinction between can? and able?…similar meanings/similar capacities, eh?!

(We are both…can & able or able and can)

Cain…can/could but didn’t! and Abel would/did…
Cain can be good
Abel…was!…good.

(choices and delusions, insights and know-hows)

at the mind gym…My more-experienced-in-life Friend, Joyce:)…”JOY” ful, smart, sweet, sassy 80 something year old…whom i deeply respect, admire and love…an amazing positive-capable-example. The spiritual (and other) epitome of Wife, Mother, Grandmother, Worker, Smart Lady…has helped countless people through the years (including my family) these few words cannot adequately sum up her goodness/value/worth on so many exemplary levels.

Yet she shockingly, humbly tells me she’s Cain–we are all Cain. Why? How? “Can” that be Joyce??!

this was her response to me (above-mentioned) after we discussed the following readings/excerpts… (of note: “Yahweh” Hebrew for God’s name..”Jehovah” is the English language equivalent of said name…found 7,000 times in the Bible: (my highlights))

3. Why did Jehovah (aka Yahweh) reach out to Cain, and what did He tell him?

Consider the case of Cain. He did not profess to worship any other god but Jehovah. Cain’s worship, however, was not acceptable to God. There were seeds of wickedness growing deep within his heart. (1 John 3:12) Jehovah reached out to Cain and told him: “If you turn to doing good, will you not be restored to favor? But if you do not turn to doing good, sin is crouching at the door, and its craving is to dominate you; but will you get the mastery over it?” (Gen. 4:6, 7) Jehovah was, in effect, telling Cain, “If you repent and take a firm stand on my side, I will, in turn, be on your side.”

4. Given the opportunity to be on Jehovah’s side, what did Cain do?

If only Cain would correct his thinking, Jehovah would restore him to favor. But Cain did not listen to the counsel. Wrong thinking and selfish desire led him to wrong actions. (Jas. 1:14, 15) In his youth, Cain may never have imagined that he would take a stand against Jehovah. In time, however, he did the unimaginable​—he rebelled against God and killed his own brother!

5. What kind of thinking could cause us to lose Jehovah’s favor?

Like Cain, a Christian today could be following the wrong path even while professing to worship Jehovah. (Jude 11) For instance, one could nurture immoral fantasies, greedy thoughts, or hateful feelings toward a fellow Christian. (1 John 2:15-17; 3:15) This thinking can lead to sinful actions. […]. Other humans may not be aware of our thoughts and conduct, but Jehovah sees all things and knows if we are not wholeheartedly on his side.​—Read Jeremiah 17:9, 10

[Who Is On Jehovah’s Side? excerpted reading W July 2018]

my imperfect thoughts about above reading:

a lot of us may think or say “we’re good”… could mean “all set”  “good to go”, etc. or “doing good” (our personal definition of good, eh?) …or on the right/correct/logical/reasonable/sensible side of things…history, controversy, religion, knowledge, you name it, etc. We have a “good” education.  Yet…we could be fooling ourselves (and Others)…most of us profess something…”good” “right”…

i am no judge…but God/Yahweh/Jehovah…knows; for sure.

And IF all of us openly/humbly accept wise counsel…we become able (or Abel-Like) …aka we don’t kill our Brother…or Others.

Questions for Reflections:

am i on the side of (genuine) good?

am i on God’s good side?

who actually determines “good” ? “bad” ?

am i winning my personal/individual spiritual battle for good?

what can i do?

what am i able to do?

10/04/18 @ 11:58 a.m.

You Dear Reader:)…can…You are Able…((to) BE GOOD) :)…(and so can i)

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