Do set a watch over the door of my lips. (Song/Psalm 141:3)
practical commentary i enJOYed reading re: said verse: & Job’s ‘Job’…aka integrity-keeping example: (btw: “Yahweh” Hebrew and English “Jehovah” God’s revealed ‘personal’ name found in the Bible.)
Strike his bone and flesh, and he will surely curse you to your very face.—Job 2:5.
The Devil’s challenge no doubt aroused indignation, anger, and contempt among heavenly creatures loyal to God. Jehovah, however, did not react hastily. His response was measured and entirely fitting. He has been slow to anger and has been just in dealing with Satan’s revolt. (Ex. 34:6; Job 2:2-6) Why? Jehovah has allowed time to pass because he does not want anyone to be destroyed but “desires all to attain to repentance.” (2 Pet. 3:9) Jehovah’s exercise of self-control teaches us that we too ought to weigh our words and consider our steps carefully; we should not rush into things. When you face an important issue, give yourself the time you need to act wisely. Pray for wisdom to say or do the right thing. (Ps. 141:3) In the heat of the moment, it is all too easy to react emotionally. Many of us have lived to regret hasty words or rash actions!—Prov. 14:29; 15:28; 19:2.
[excerpted: Cultivate Self-Control w September 2017]
Avoiding (heated) hasty words & rash (dash) actions is a wise/integrity-keeping course in any situation (including unexpected events), eh?!
The way we listen…(or not) or rather the “quality” of our hearing?…it’s not just the working mechanisms of non-deaf ears…it’s the focus of our hearing…how we listen…perhaps, IS how we speak/respond.
We discussed in our previous compassion conversation the role our limbic system plays in assigning emotional priority to auditory input and how our desire(s) determines our listening. Basically, we listen (pay attention/heed) to what we “want” to hear–what has Top Emotional Priority to us individually.
To examine our listening skills, perhaps, we should examine our emotional priorities?! Because listening is learning and unless we can broaden our emotional priority (to include concern for others)…our learning (i.e. compassion) and listening will be limited at best.
Are our desires selfish? Unselfish? For example, if #1 (me) is my top emotional priority then i listen/pay attention/learn and/or practice what will benefit #1! or if my top emotional priority is unselfish and/or concern for other fragile-breathing life…i listen (pay attention and learn and/or practice) what will benefit not just myself, but all breathing-fragile life! [compassion-conversation-2]
Does the heart hearing offer the mind-mouth’s musings?
Talking is one means of learning. Listening is probably a better way of learning! Yeah, you’re correct, I need to listen more, eh? 🙂
Researchers have found that while the limbic system of our brain helps us focus on one thing while sustaining ability to hear various sounds–differentiating between many sounds becomes difficult when it involves simultaneously listening to human speech. When 2 voices compete for your ear to whom do you listen?!
I read this eye-opener point or rather ear-opener: “What we desire influences the way we hear!” What do you desire? We select the speech we listen to/focus on depending on which one (person) we “want” to hear!
Do you pay attention?…
Part of our regulatory auditory mechanism, which tunes and de-tunes our attention process, is the limbic system. It is responsible for assigning more or less attention to a given auditory input. So, if there are multiple auditory inputs, the input most relevant to our conscious and subconscious mechanism receives top priority. When the limbic system detects new and/or more relevant information, it passes it on to the auditory cortex for processing. At the same time, a certain emotional association is assigned to it. ~The Hearing Journal/Role of Limbic System by Natan Bauman, PhD
Getting our emotions and/or desires under control or not, could hinder or help our learning!:) Let’s hope the voice that wins our listening (and/or affection) is a wise one and not a stupid one!:) Let’s hope this person (voice) is a “true” friend out for our best interests and not for his/her own! Is a True Friend a people-pleaser, ear-pleaser or neither-pleaser?! May be, we should “listen” to the unexpected/unsolicited voices that cross our path?! New, fresh voices could teach new, fresh things. (Of course, be careful/discerning.) [1-compassion-conversation]
i think this is an important point for teachers and students/students and teachers…love…teaching/talking with love and learning/listening with love…enhances the quality, speed? perhaps, pace of learning. When student cares and teacher cares–agape for fellow-fragile-life and when both care enough/enJOY/like/love topic under consideration…”real” progress is made (in pov).
Does a great teacher have great love??
“Never has another man spoken like this.”—JOHN 7:46.
The Bible gives us glimpses of the impact he made on those who met him. For instance, Gospel writer Luke relates that people in Jesus’ hometown “began . . . to marvel at the winsome words proceeding out of his mouth.” Matthew reports that those who listened to Jesus as he taught in the Sermon on the Mount “were astounded at his way of teaching.” And John observes that the officers who were sent to arrest Jesus returned empty-handed, saying: “Never has another man spoken like this.”—Luke 4:22; Matt. 7:28; John 7:46.
Those officers were not mistaken. Jesus was unquestionably the greatest Teacher who ever lived. He taught with clarity, simplicity, and irrefutable logic. He skillfully used illustrations and questions. He adapted his teaching to those to whom he spoke, whether they were of high station or low. The truths he taught were easy to grasp yet truly profound. However, these things alone did not make Jesus the great Teacher that he was.
Teachers of the terrible…(aka “terrible” and not terrific teachers)…
LACK GENUINE LOVE!
Among the scribes and Pharisees, there were doubtless intelligent men who possessed knowledge and the skills to impart it. What made Jesus’ way of teaching so different from theirs? The religious leaders of the day had no love for the common people. Rather, they despised them, viewing them as “accursed people.” (John 7:49) In contrast, Jesus was moved with pity for them, since they were “skinned and thrown about like sheep without a shepherd.” (Matt. 9:36) He was warm, sympathetic, and kind. Further, the religious leaders had no true love for God. (John 5:42) Jesus, however, loved his Father and delighted to do his will. The religious leaders twisted God’s words to serve their own ends, but Jesus loved “the word of God”—he taught it, explained it, defended it, and lived by it. (Luke 11:28) Yes, love permeated the very being of the Christ, governing what he taught, how he dealt with people, and how he instructed them.
We enjoy talking about the things we love. When we speak about something dear to our heart, we become animated and our whole demeanor reflects enthusiasm and warmth. This is especially true when we talk about a person whom we love. Usually, we are eager to share with others what we know about that person. We praise, honor, and defend him. We do that because we want others to feel as attracted to that person and his qualities as we are.
After all, true worship is based on love for God. (Matt. 22:36-38) Jesus set a perfect example. He loved Jehovah with his whole heart, mind, soul, and strength. Having spent perhaps billions of years in heaven with his heavenly Father, Jesus knew him well. The result? “I love the Father,” Jesus said. (John 14:31) That love was reflected in everything Jesus said and did. It motivated him always to do the things pleasing to God. (John 8:29) It impelled him to denounce the religious leaders, who hypocritically claimed to represent God. It also moved him to speak about Jehovah and to help others to know and love God. [excerpted: Imitate Jesus–Teach With Love w July 2009]
photo yesterday, Sunday of a tangible generous Gift (a rare treasure from my only female Cousin; one of her most cherished possessions according to Her); am missing the loss/all losses, etc.) i call it/gift– the “flask of Hope” “Judah” this side is a carving of a Lion. Most things i wear hold a significant/symbolic meaning to me: a tangible/visual reminder of an intangible value.
There is the tangible need and the intangible. To me, the most important: our spiritual need. When this is not met, terrible stunting occurs…and MUCH suffering and pain.:(
From my POV:
the terrible(s) = spiritual starvation
the terrific(s) = spiritual abundance
the horrific(s) of humanity aka horrific multi-level suffering of humans/life need to be addressed 1. spiritually then/(and) 2. physically.
(i.e. teach (process) to fish not just give 1 actual fish. Feed for a day or feed for a lifetime. Have a lifetime/expand a lifetime. Spiritual food/physical food essential. Basics.)
the terrific(s) of humanity aka terrific multi-level sweetness of humans/life is result of both spiritual/physical needs met…synchronicity?
Seems to me: cannot address tangible and ignore intangible. Seems to me: tangible problems are rooted in the intangible.
Thanks:) for making my post a part of Your day. Yes, I am a Mother…of four offspring…specifically teenagers! Some musings to follow. (My time constraints–today–do not allow for me to give the necessary attention/focus to writing all of these musings swirling in my mind. I may or may not turn this post into a series of connected content.)
From my limited-personal-point-of-view: it seems a lot of us, Earthlings, like to label/identify ourselves by our higher and/or highest values of which we feel proud…(parents or not or mature or not/younger and older alike). The parenting project/my particular parenting project is a shared endeavor with my husband of 27 years (we became parents by surprise about 8 years in)…an/one important work of mine in progress which initially seemed entailed 20 years…on average?! is one I DO NOT WANT TO FAIL!;(
Like any on the job training (kind of) position…there is learning curve and ups and downs, eh? The first kid is the guinea pig. I was the guinea pig in my family. What has helped guide this daunting process, for me, has been timeless and relevant ancient wisdom (e.g., Biblical).
In some ways, these are abnormal times in which we all live with normal parenting concerns/anxieties…aka trying to survive/thrive..do your best with what you got to work with. Do abnormal times call for unconventional or conventional parenting skills??…the parenting plan/purpose–well-adjusted, healthy-well-functioning physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually high-functioning mature, superlatively-educated, selfless, interdependent adult whom will contribute positively to community/society/brotherhood of humanity…may take longer than 20 years..eh?!;)
Seriously, at 49 years, i still have lots to learn…as Mother, Wife, Friend, Human, (etc. the uncapitalized..(pun? intended))…whatever other label(s) suit(?) me. My clothing of choice is agape love…as well as trying to dress in mildness and humility, meekness and self-control. (Writings, interactions and communications with kids and adults is like weather! You/One can be the hurricane, tornado, windstorm, rainstorm, dark cloud or ray of sunshine, rainbow, cool breeze, gentle/refreshing dew drop.)
the Doo-Wop…music to any situation…or writing…we all can add love.:) Musical tastes differ…as well as parenting styles.
IDK, may be? we all need a “monotone” message of “love” to keep humanity on happy track.
Is parenting more effective when it/(the process) is a selfless-labor-of-love?!…and not excluding tough love neither.
At times–it’s quite difficult to put your own feelings/preferences aside–as Mother–in pursuit of best interests for my child. To be an effective/good? mother means i need to be less selfish. My kids’ need to learn/grow…and say about environment/ecosystem here in Florida. I hate snakes, my kids don’t. Will i allow my hate for snakes to override/ruin their relationship with snakes?
My peculiar set of worries/anxieties…of course, the parenting course…have impacted my teens. Am trying to keep it to a minimum. Striking the balance of helping them be aware of danger of i.e. snakes (including more important concerns)…respecting…snakes, life, love, family, community…choices and consequences, etc. both positives and negatives..at the same time acknowledging, we, parents cannot take (a) kid(s) and drop him/her off at the ocean without any preparation or swimming lessons…and expect them to float and not drown nor be eaten/bitten by sharks!!
So many (mind boggling?) variables can shape our parenting styles. I tend to declutter or edit (meaning i despise complicated so-called solutions to simple problems)…living and parenting, to me, boils down to learning (simply?!;)) to be less selfish everyday! When each of us, parent and child, learn to put others’ interests ahead of our own…we tend to make wiser-longer-sighted-positive choices…that benefit more than self…in the moment. (A life time is more than moments…or more moments make up a life span.)
As a spiritually-minded parent, I have always tried putting spiritual things/endeavors first…meaning also: have attempted to instill “spiritual” over material values in my kids…this excerpted reading explains some of my reasons why much better than i can articulate:
17. Why is the life of those who make no room for the Creator not truly meaningful?
17 Contrast this with what people have who, even though not being morally corrupt, make no room for the Creator in their lives. They may have the honor and the material possessions that they desire, perhaps find a measure of satisfaction in helping the needy and enjoy cultural activities and wholesome pleasures. Yet, they must admit the inescapable fact that nothing in this world has any real permanence. No one is immune to accidents, disease or death. Possessions will neither protect against these things nor can they be taken along when life ends. (Psalm 49:6-20; Ecclesiastes 5:13-15; 8:8) Well-meaning efforts to help fellow humans may come to frustration because of unfavorable circumstances. So it might well be asked: How meaningful can a life be if the ultimate future it offers is just the grave? How can it be good if it actually works against a person’s eternal future?—Compare Ecclesiastes 1:11, 15, 18; 2:10, 11; 9:11, 12. [excerpted reading: Making the Right Choice: Choosing the Best Way of Life, Chapter 1, pp. 11-12]
Do nothing out of contentiousness or out of egotism, but with humility*(or lowliness of mind) consider others superior to you, 4 as you look out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3, 4)
Questions for reflections:
as parent, partner, friend, fellow-breathing-fragile-life aka human:
am i contentious or egotistical?
am i humble?
am i willing to learn from Others (including younger life and older life)…meaning do i have the mindset that Others are superior to me?
am i just looking out for my own best interests?
am i looking out for the best interests of Others?
how will being less selfish help…any/all situations/interactions/communications/relationships/circumstances??