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A Mild Tongue

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A gentle tongue can break a bone.Prov. 25:15.

In my POV, the silent treatment is less effective than a mild tongue.  To effectuate positive change(s)…is ignoring the person and/or the problem (indefinitely) a mature course of action/non-action?! Gentle speech even when under provocation can have better results.

A mild* gentle answer turns away rage,

But a harsh* painful word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

(Sometimes, i analyze/wonder IF certain areas/aspects of my life/relationships would improve IF i was a better communicator?) Gentle and compassionate communication certainly contributes to PEACE!

We all contribute to (emotional) climate…may be the ultimate climate control is a mild tongue!:)

PEACE always Reader:)

i’ll contribute to the quiet/serenity and shut up now;)

6/2/17 @ 11:22 a.m.

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A Recent Public Conversation

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(with potential to help many? families/friends)…You:) Decide…

 

5/31/17 @ 2:52 p.m.

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drinking derision

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lapping it up??
or
laughing it up??

(what do you drink?..usually?…NOT a drinker!) but
OUCHYWAWA!!!

not afraid…what can man do to me? (throw sticks and stones, etc.)

(or not do to me)?

this aging-dying body/(yet growing-renewing-living mind)

this warm blooded (and warm hearted? so, i’ve been told)

be…ing…

believes in

bloodless surgery

figuratively and literally. (amazing what bloodless mind surgery can accomplish…opening minds to learn/live/change aka compassion education)

i

refuse.

i

don’t want blood (anybody’s) on my hands…or somebody’s/anybody’s precious-sacred-life-liquid running through my veins.

(how does that make me a murderer?…)

yet

that’s what i’ve been called vehemently/loudly!…because i refuse to accept blood. (but i don’t refuse the best possible/research/evidenced-based non-blood medical treatment) (no, i’m not sick…was asked hypotheticals)

usually…harsh words i don’t let stick…(you know: sticks and stones may break my bones, but names never hurt me…(too much))

i would shut up more or be more quiet..IF i really cared about how most people think of me/judge me…

for being a different thinker/doer/believer…

i’m not trying to defend myself…(just coping through writing this i guess)

not trying to call the fellow-fragile-life…a not nice name…just feel bad that this person…(a stranger to me really) thinks that…(comes to that conclusion)

it hit my compassion nerve!… for someone who “tries” (not saying succeeds)…the best i can..everyday to be as loving, compassionate and kind/forgiving…to not hurt/step on any fellow fragile life in any way…including what some call “pests” aka bugs…for me…being called a “murderer” cuts pretty deep: OUCH!! (i try hard “not to take” things personally..the good or the bad. Strive to keep emotional neutrality/balance.)

No, i will not donate blood nor transfuse..i just know/firmly believe there are healthier/better choices i can make to prolong life.  It’s a spiritual health choice first than a physical health choice second. (i wish, in that “brief” conversation, i was able to effectively explain why blood is too sacred, to me, to consume for any reason…i would rather die myself than take somebody’s precious blood.) It’s hard for some to understand that…i understand that. (May be ? for them blood is their only hope.)

What other man is like Job,Who drinks up derision like water? (Job 34:7)

commentary/highlights on this verse excerpted (w 06)

How was Job like a man “who drinks up derision like water”? In his distressed state, Job was inclined to take the ridicule of his three visitors as directed toward him, although they were really speaking against God. (Job 42:7) Thus, he was taking in derision like someone who drinks water with enjoyment.

(4/7/14@1:22a.m.)..p.s.oops, VERY tired..wrote/published this 4/5/16 early morning@1a.m…

p.p.s. double oopses!-lol:)..yes, today is May 5, 2016…right??..see what i mean about “trying”..;)

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Compassion Wear: a Smile? a T-shirt? Both?

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SMILE:) & Hi! Hey! Hi–how’s it going?!…living life as a friendly/(outgoing most days) kinda person can be challenging (and/or risky, eh?) in the land of the unfriendly!

Is readily forthcoming with a (sincere) smile an aggressive act?? (i don’t think so.) Is it off-putting?! (i don’t think so.) What do You think?

Don’t get me wrong: to me: my culture/background/education: a smile or slight grin is “compassion” wear…never without it. Usually, it’s met with a “positive” response :)…(i’m just kinda open-minded for interaction/communication with fellow-fragile-life…most days.) To me, it’s sorta a “respectful”  brief acknowledgement of (a) precious life crossing my path.

my smiles don’t discriminate…fragile-life is fragile-life. (For some context please see: Hello, Bonjour, Aloha! and Partners Communicating: Commendation and Counsel Compassionately)

i get (understand)…communication culture is different everywhere…people are busy,…or fearful or lack trust of so-called strangers…or unhappy or too stressed to smile, etc.  (Just wondering: As a whole is society becoming so self-absorbed and/or lacking trust whatsoever that we cannot offer each other a small token of compassion in the form of a small smile?!)

How many people did You smile at today? (i might just do that social experiment and keep track one day..of responses, etc. & who readily smiles at me before i smile at them…goofy, yeah -lol…my kind of fun!)

When You think about it–what we wear…a smile or not…what message does it convey??

anyway, speaking of outer wear…recently from a distance saw in an after-school crowd walking toward me as i was heading in the opposite direction picking up my kids..a person/adult with a t-shirt with bold lettering/colors that read: “I AM a CHILD of the REAL KING!” (talk about messaging? self-branding? advertising? christian? whatever you wanna call it?;)

WOW!!:)…surely, this royal person “might” exhibit some royal “manners” and actually initiate a smile/and/or return a smile..at me?!-lol…alas, NO smile!..i guess, only the (so-called) real children of the real king…get a “real” t-shirt & this “real” person was not wearing that particular identification t-shirt that day.

Royals and Nons need some honey and smiles (aka compassion), huh?!:)

* honey:

The energy-giving property of honey is illustrated in the case of King Saul’s son Jonathan who, exhausted from battle, tasted some honey. Immediately his eyes “began to beam.” (1Sa 14:25-30) This energy food is listed among the provisions God supplied for his people in the wilderness. There, where few trees existed, the people were able to get honey to eat “out of a crag,” that is, from the honeycombs that the bees built in rocky places.—De 32:13.

IllustrativeUse. The curative properties of honey are compared to pleasant sayings and wisdom, not only because of its sweetness and fine taste but also because of its health-giving qualities. Pleasant sayings are healthful spiritually, just as honey is good for the physical body. The writer of Proverbs says: “Pleasant sayings are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and a healing to the bones.”—Pr 16:24; 24:13, 14. (excerpted: Honey, Honeycomb Insight Vol. 1)

(published 4/10/15 @9:51 p.m.)

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