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Happy Reading Reader:)
just a quick FYi…am not sure what is going on with my website. (1) My hope is to continue writing/talking/learning…here and

(2) elsewhere. (?)

WHY??? would anyone want to hack my site?! i am no mind reader nor heart reader. So, my desire is to continue writing, however, under secure measures would be the ideal.

Life is like that…the ideal and the not-so ideal, eh?…the theory and the practice. Oh, what am i gonna stop living cause living is not ideal?!

oh Yeah, i work very hard at practicing what i preach…aka speaking and living the TRUTH!…even in uncertain or difficult times.

Spiritual Topics and spirituality are my main focus…my personal spiritual growth is of the utmost concern to me…even greater than say my physical health and well-being. What i’ve learned through my years of living on this beautiful planet Earth is…my spiritual well-being and health…positively trickles down/up to my physical, mental, and emotional well-being. So, i give my spiritual needs TOP priority in my self-care.
That means self-d.i.s.c.i.p.l.i.n.e…study, meditation, research daily…am too much of a geek to admit here…( )
Various minds work at various times and at various lengths…mind laziness is deadly…IF YOU ask me. Yep, i know You didn’t ask…
oh well…i spoke up anyway.

My spiritual self-care:
It has helped me pursue and maintain a modesty…a moderate life-style of living and loving. I’ve never smoked. I’ve never gotten drunk. ever. (well, not off alcohol—off love, lol:) I don’t over-eat. Etc., Etc., Etc.,…guess, that makes me very boring!!;)…or very healthy??;)

um, this quick post is getting a little rambly…(a made up word?)…You know what use to bug me as a talker…in school or elsewhere…people equating quiet kids as being well-behaved or “good” and us talkers…getting in trouble in school, etc. for not shutting up enough…as “bad” or misbehaving…what?! cause you THINK OUT LOUD!!! ugh.

Look out for the quiet sneaks…may be?! 😉

Quiet is not always good (nor bad)…people make presumptions, assumptions and suppositions and presuppositions about all sorts of nonsense.

For example, faulty thinking: people assume rich is good or better. and poor is bad or worse. That nobody would choose to be poor (or poorer) materially AND on purpose!!…think again!!!

The real truth seekers and keepers…WANT spiritual riches and not material ones. And this may (or may not (depends))…make them less economically so-called successful or economically focused. They understand that moth and rust consume. They’ve experienced the Truth…of “the things seen temporary, the things unseen everlasting.” Some so-called poor are of a HIGH/ER moral caliber/character: They don’t easily sell out…their integrity for dirty money. Or become enslaved to acquiring riches. They value the intangible more than the tangible. Perhaps, the abstract over the concrete. They “value” the incorruptible over the corruptible.

Perhaps, the process over the result…dollar(s) in hand. May be? they feel their time is better spent acquiring “sense” (wisdom) and not “cents”…:)

Some only believe in what they can see/feel…touch. They may lack heart vision.

Some of us highly value people and relationships and “family” a world-wide brotherhood of humanity: peace of mind and heart over Big-Business of War. Or the competition to acquire MORE than other fellow-fragile-life.

Some of us trade and don’t spend…some of us give and don’t take.

Stop the presses people;)…YEP, there are humans out there who do and could care less about possessions!!!

Possessions do not make the man…may be? they own him like master to slave.

The real givers…may actually sacrifice and give it all away!!!…including their life for a friend…or the greater good.

(and yeah, am well aware i may be putting myself at risk writing this spiritual stuff.)

“No one has love greater than this, that someone should surrender his soul in behalf of his friends,” ~John 15:13

While wealth in itself is not condemned in the Bible, the love of money is. The Bible writer Paul said: “The love of money is a root of all sorts of injurious things.” He noted that by forfeiting spiritual interests out of a desire to be rich, “some have been led astray from the faith and have stabbed themselves all over with many pains.”​—1 Timothy 6:10.

Interestingly, Paul gave specific instructions for the rich. He said: “Give orders to those who are rich in the present system of things not to be high-minded, and to rest their hope, not on uncertain riches, but on God, who furnishes us all things richly for our enjoyment.” (1 Timothy 6:17) Evidently there is a danger that rich people might become proud and feel superior to others. Also, they may be tempted to think that riches can offer true security​—something that only God can fully provide.

Clearly, Christians are not required to be poor. Neither should they be “determined to be rich.” (1 Timothy 6:9) They simply work hard to earn a reasonable means of living. Depending on various factors and the economic system under which they live, their efforts will meet with different levels of success.​—Ecclesiastes 11:6.

Whatever their financial circumstances are, Christians should endeavor to “make sure of the more important things.” (Philippians 1:10) By putting spiritual values first, they are “safely treasuring up for themselves a fine foundation for the future, in order that they may get a firm hold on the real life.”​—1 Timothy 6:19. [excerpted on-line article: Must Christians Be Poor?]

questions for reflections:
Whether economically rich or poor…
am i determined to be rich in fine works??…(aka works that help fellow-fragile-life and the planet; our shared home, our shared future)

am i acquiring spiritual treasures??

am i learning con-tent-ment??

a “tent” provides a measure of protection/security.

con(s)…don’t dwell on….nor what was “me(a)nt” to be.

contentment …is a living/true value…(an important thing to learn/appreciate).

 

related reading…perhaps?…IDK, check it out IF YOU:) so choose:  the-game-of-life

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8/11/18 @ 3:33 p.m.

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Preachy?? & Teachy?!
Sure, i am. Oh, come on, we all get PUMPED UP and P-U-S-H-Y, at times, and PASSIONATE!!…(topics may vary considerably among individuals).

Under and/or Overlooked by some…Spirituality–is crucial to well-being! We are beings and who doesn’t want to be well??! (btw: i am exhausted writing this…been staying up way too late 2-4 a.m. and partially due to  (busy learning brain) caring for sick kids…with barking asthma coughs. (Who can sleep sound when your kids’ breathing is NOISY? and needs monitoring.) Breathing–a gift–i don’t take for granted!)

In my POV, a healthy spiritual mind-set fosters a healthy physical body and healthy decision making processes that impact mind/body for the better. Healthy Spiritual Values impact life positively. (Yawn, YAWN)…sorry, to make You yawn…don’t fall asleep just yet. Please read on…

Actually, the intention of this post is a part two of Us Talkers. IF You like to talk or IF you like to listen…please read post first for the following context.

When we talk…the reaction/response we get…”probably” depends on the HEART LISTENING…:)

How do these people from Jesus’ hometown react to what they might see as unfavorable historical comparisons that expose their selfishness and lack of faith? Those in the synagogue get angry, rise up, and rush Jesus outside the city. They take him to the brow of the mountain upon which Nazareth is built, and they try to throw him over the edge. But Jesus escapes from their grasp and gets away safely. Jesus now heads down to Capernaum, on the northwest shore of the Sea of Galilee. [excerpted: At the Synagogue in Nazareth Jesus–the Way, Chapter 21]

Talking/teaching/preaching…with illustrations and scriptures…gets to the “heart of the matter” aka reveals the present heart condition of the individual…spiritually healthy? spiritually unhealthy? selfish? selfless? humble? arrogant? hurtful? kind?…responding in kind.

Perhaps what we say and how we say it…truly matters…on one hand, in one heart..but perhaps, on the other hand, in another heart…what truly matters most (when we-fellow-fragile-life engage in communication) is the (heart) soil (condition) from which a response (understanding) grows.

Hoping these posts help grow…Compassionate Heart Flowers aka Kind Words & Kind Deeds. 🙂

“[…]for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. […]

the entire counsel from this scripture:  Jesus rebuking the Pharisees…

Offspring of vipers, how can you speak good things when you are wicked? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.  35 The good man out of his good treasure sends out good things, whereas the wicked man out of his wicked treasure sends out wicked things.  36 I tell you that men will render an account on Judgment Day for every unprofitable*(or worthless) saying that they speak;  37 for by your words you will be declared righteous, and by your words you will be condemned.” 

(Matthew 12:34-37) 

Question for Reflection:

What do my words declare about me?

6/3/18 @ 10:38 a.m.

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Yep, I am a talker. (But am I a walker, too??)

Successful walking takes serious skill. Without stumbling and face falling or face saving, eh? Successful talking takes serious skill. Without opening mouth and inserting foot or worse, eh?

Okay, so, it’s obvious–I like to talk! However, is it an obvious “right” ? Is free speech the same thing as “freedom” of speech? Do I have the absolute right to determine what the right thing is to say/speak in any moment/situation?

May be? free talking is exhibitionism of a lack of self-control? Or an abundance of arrogance? Or glaring ignorance? Or power hunger?…

 Death and life are in the power of the tongue; Those who love it will eat its fruitage. (Proverbs 18:21)

hmmm, what am i eating??;) savory, sweet or sour?

Article commentary:

THE tongue of the giraffe measures up to 18 inches [45 cm] long and is agile and powerful enough to pluck leaves off tree branches. The blue whale’s tongue weighs as much as an elephant. Imagine the strength needed just to move it!

The human tongue pales in comparison in size, weight, and strength. Yet, it is far more powerful. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue,” says the Bible of this small member of the human body. (Proverbs 18:21) Indeed, how many times have we heard of the human tongue’s death-dealing power being wielded in fabricating lies and false testimonies that have brought ruination, even death, to innocent victims?

Likewise, longtime friendships have been dashed by hurtful remarks. Emotions have been crushed by harsh words. “How long will you men keep irritating my soul and keep crushing me with words?” cried the much-maligned Job. (Job 19:2) The disciple James gave a vivid picture of the destructive power of the unbridled tongue: “The tongue is a little member and yet makes great brags. Look! How little a fire it takes to set so great a woodland on fire! Well, the tongue is a fire.”​—James 3:5, 6.

On the other hand, the power of the tongue can also be life-giving. Empathetic and consoling words have rescued some from depression and suicide. Sound advice, when heeded, has saved many drug abusers and street thugs from untimely death. Truly, the fruitage of a righteous one’s tongue is “a tree of life,” and “as apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it.”​—Proverbs 15:4; 25:11. [The Power of the Tongue w 07]

May be, freeness of speech comes/is acquired from a living place of authenticity earned by work/effort/experience/knowledge/discipline/training. It’s evident, most likely, that what I talk/share is what i teach.  What i walk/(my strides)–what i practice/promoteexemplify?

For we all stumble*(or “make mistakes.”) many times. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able to bridle also his whole body.  3 If we put bridles in the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we guide also their whole body. 4 Look also at ships: Although they are so big and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the man at the helm is inclined to go.

5 So, too, the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it makes great brags. See how small a fire it takes to set a great forest ablaze! 6 The tongue is also a fire. The tongue represents a world of unrighteousness among our body members, for it defiles all the body and sets the whole course of life*(Lit. “the wheel of the birth” (origin)) on fire, and it is set on fire by Ge·henʹna.* 7 For every kind of wild animal and bird and reptile*(or “creeping thing”) and sea creature is to be tamed and has been tamed by humans. 8 But no human can tame the tongue. It is unruly and injurious, full of deadly poison. 9 With it we praise Jehovah,* the Father, and yet with it we curse men who have come into existence “in the likeness of God.” 10 Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing.

My brothers, it is not right for things to happen this way. 11 A spring does not cause the fresh*(sweet) water and the bitter water to bubble out of the same opening, does it? 12 My brothers, a fig tree cannot produce olives, or a grapevine figs, can it? Neither can salt water produce fresh water.

13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him by his fine conduct demonstrate works performed with a mildness that comes from wisdom. 

(James 3:2-13)

Us talkers/teachers must admit/acknowledge…we have greater accountability and responsibility; that’s an o.b.v.i.o.u.s! Teachers evoke strong emotions, reactions, huh? How many of us have had crushes on our cool teachers? Or despised a strict/tough teacher?

Do teachers have the “right” to determine what is “right” to teach??

A “truth” learned from the example of a “good” teacher…Jesus:

“As he was going on his way, a man ran up and fell on his knees before him and put the question to him: “Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit everlasting life?” 18 Jesus said to him: “Why do you call me good? Nobody is good except one, God.”

Good Teacher: The man was evidently using the words “Good Teacher” as a flattering and formalistic title, since such honor was usually demanded by the religious leaders. While Jesus had no objection to being properly identified as “Teacher” and “Lord” (Joh 13:13), he directed all honor to his Father. (Mark 10:17)

Nobody is good except one, God: Jesus here recognizes Jehovah as the ultimate standard of what is good, the One who has the sovereign right to determine what is good and what is bad. By rebelliously eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and bad, Adam and Eve sought to assume that right. Unlike them, Jesus humbly leaves the setting of standards to his Father. God has expressed and defined what is good by means of what he has commanded in his Word.​—Mr 10:19.

[excerpted: New World Translation Study Edition: Gems]

Jesus taught by way of illustrations. (A respected teacher/male commended me by calling me a “Meisterof Metaphor. This was sincere and a source of encouragement for me and not flattery at all.)  Thinking in illustrations/metaphors can be very useful in learning/teaching.  Illustrations and Bible Scriptures have a way of revealing hearts and things held close/r or valued. However, all of us lack the ability to precisely determine what the complete standards of so-called good and so-called bad are…or should be.

Just because i want to say something…anything about anything…do i have the right to thrust/tweetarticulateassault with words…anywhere/anytime/anyhow?! It’s a complicated conversation…as the scriptures warn: “thoughtless words are like stabs of a sword”…May be IF we all thought more…would we hurt less?!

If my tongue is a sword/knifecutting skills an essential requirement. Do i rough chop, slice and dice, mince, julienne, brunoise, chiffonade? Does all public speaking involve cutting remarks? Public speaking takes training/education/discipline (and well-spent years thereof).  Any type of knife wielding can be dangerous without training

  Their tongue is a deadly arrow that speaks deception. With his mouth a person speaks of peace to his neighbor, But inside he lays an ambush.”  (Jeremiah 9:8)

Our personal power of choice regarding communication…can be constructive vs. destructive.  The power of the Tongue must be respectedFree Speech, Freedom of Speech, and Freeness of speech has the power to bring out the best and the worse in us.

A poignant Proverb…

A worthless man digs up what is bad; His speech is like a scorching fire.  (Proverb 16:27)

“You don’t have to be brilliant or perfect to succeed,” says Dr. Morton C. Orman, an expert on stress and a professional public speaker. “The essence of public speaking is this: give your audience something of value.”

Partners Communicating: Commendation and Counsel Compassionately

Further readings/learnings from Jesus…an extremely exceptional teacher & his speaking/living “truth” trials…

Jesus reads about how this foretold One would preach a release to the captives, a recovery of sight to the blind, and the coming of Jehovah’s acceptable year. Jesus hands the scroll to the attendant and sits down. All eyes are intently fixed upon him. Then he speaks, probably at some length, and his comments include the significant statement: “Today this scripture that you just heard is fulfilled.”​—Luke 4:21.

The people marvel at “the gracious words coming out of his mouth,” and they say to one another: “This is a son of Joseph, is it not?” But realizing that they want to see him perform powerful works like the ones they had heard about, Jesus continues: “No doubt you will apply this saying to me, ‘Physician, cure yourself. Do also here in your home territory the things we have heard were done in Capernaum.’” (Luke 4:22, 23) Jesus’ former neighbors likely feel that healing should begin at home, for the benefit of his own people first. So they may think that Jesus has slighted them.

Realizing their thinking, Jesus mentions some events in Israel’s history. There were many widows in Israel during the days of Elijah, he notes, but Elijah was not sent to any of them. Rather, he went to a non-Israelite widow in Zarephath, a town near Sidon, where Elijah performed a lifesaving miracle. (1 Kings 17:8-16) And in Elisha’s day, there were many lepers in Israel, but the prophet cleansed only Naaman the Syrian.​—2 Kings 5:1, 8-14. [excerpted: At the Synagogue in Nazareth Jesus–the Way, Chapter 21, par. 6 ]

PeaceFellowBreathingFragileLife:)… (also known as Us Talkers.)

 

p.s. how many nuanced words?? (IF i quickly? counted correctly?)

79

78

four

5

 

5/31/18 @ 3:35 p.m.

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