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Weed(s) & Wild Flower(s)

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(The) perils a plenty of an Extraverted-Friendly-Nature-Chick like me…the hopeful-optimistic kind of fragile-life who enJOYs walking barefoot through blowing wind, grass, mud, dirt, sand, rain, snow…(and figuratively, too…IF needed to get the compassion job done.)

Some messy jobs can be extremely intellectually/physically/spiritually satisfying, You know. 🙂

Just curious…IF?? if…

You’re growing into a strangler/killer (mind) weed “at the ready to repay with evil”…that i should of pulled/chopped at the roots years ago…or (IF?? if) You’re blossoming into an Amazing-Compassion-Perennial-Beautiful-Wild Flower!:)…a Blessing!:)

(i’ll think the latter for now…till sufficiently proven otherwise.)

ummm, think hard joanie: what’s hanging over my head? …LIFE!…etc. idk ;)…(clouds, spiders, webs, clowns, conversations?-lol;)…laundry.

what’s under my feet?…

Caution joanie…bugs bite; gators snap; cats scratch…(even when You Care/Love them lots!).

God knows what He’s doing…!!! (continuing to try my best and let God of Compassion do the rest.)

btw: i’d rather suffer…for the compassionate/right/conscience-easing thing/choice…than suffer because of sheer stupidity/ignorance/complacency…or for the wrong thing.

 

(it’s a cloudy/raining day here in FL) 

Rain does help Wild Flowers grow, huh?:)

1:56 p.m. 5/25/18

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A “JUSTICE” job to do

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Ugghhhh!!!!! I am VERY MAD. My daughter and I were treated like idiots… by idiots? IF I wasn’t attempting to exercise self-control…I could really tell them off.

The level of incompetency is RIDICULOUS!!!… of course, I attempt to articulate and advocate for justice… concerning a policy change that we were NOT clearly informed nor effectively communicated to about and yet are punished!!

I wrote the above-emotional rant yesterday (Monday)…have since calmed down… of course, on some level probably failed this/my pop compassion test… but, my negative? attitude is I really don’t care… may be? this idiot (namely me) was suppose to share some “sense” with another idiot!;)… about nonsense!!

Guess, am still working on the “mild and quiet spirit”… this indignation just welled up in me…  like a she bear and i was trying to contain her… how dare they arbitrarily refuse to treat my kid!!… because this “unprofessional” aka lacking proper training (as to how to resolve conflict/treat patients, etc.) office assistant/manager/staff fails to c-l-e-a-r-l-y indicate a “new” policy change regarding minors. (This is the type of world we live in people… what happened to good-faith-trust in fellow-fragile-life?!! You know, give ’em the benefit of the doubt.)  I have to prove seemingly on the spot that this is–indeed–my (look-alike) daughter and I am her legal guardian via birth certificate!!… who carries on their person legal documents??

I was inwardly hurt/irate… mind You–have been to this dentist for last couple months, 2 or three times a week with my “minor” kid(s)… the Doctor is great. The Dental Assistants do a great job…the Front Desk People see me there regularly… was just there Friday..and come Monday morning, am treated like an unwelcome stranger by the Woman at the front desk (whom i kindly and friendly have conversed small talk with for weeks and have no personal problem with)… and was coldly told because i don’t have a copy of this document with me… my daughter cannot be seen by the dentist (period).

No MERCY!

No apology whatsoever for any miscommunication or for not explaining/telling me that this is a strict essential requirement now… what to protect minors? yeah, right, no! to protect the office/staff… who knows? what has transpired/happened causing enforcing of this non-negotiable rule?  Asked to speak to the office manager…cause i was not taking NO for an answer! (i don’t take no laying down.) I will tirelessly work, defend, exhaust, argue all angles, sweetly or logically persuade to make an unjust no a just YES. I can be very stubborn. And very tenacious when necessary in matters of integrity. Seemingly “sweet” push-over joanie turns to stone JOAN…unmovable. (Usually when it comes to the truth.)

{Yeah, i got stuff to work on, but don’t we all, eh?!;)}

I was taking this situation way too personally/emotionally…(how naive? to think that you’re in a place of care…that you should be cared about and for, huh?)….who wants to be at the dentist first thing Monday morning anyway? then deal with this indifference and ridiculousness?? and carelessness?

May be should attribute to Monday Morning transitions…?

I asked the Office Manager to produce a written copy of this new policy change (from Management Headquarters) for me to read…right there and then…she could NOT!…excuse me!! yet, she is “requiring” me to produce a legal document on the spot…and penalizing me by refusing care/treatment to my kid, in other words, kicking me and my kid out of the door!!Nice way to treat nice patients, huh?

So, i’m suppose to take her word for it, give her the benefit of the doubt, that this new policy exists and has been enacted by whomever in top management…without any proof…(an unacknowledged (by her) goodwill gesture on my part, eh?) and yet, she won’t do the same for me…aka let my kid keep her appointment (as she has for weeks) and let her receive treatment/help for hurting tooth…till i can produce document next visit.

Harsh NO!

I am attempting to logically reason to this person that perhaps, the front lady mentioned briefly, in passing, non-chalantly would like a copy of birth certificate for records. However, i was not given any detailed explanation verbally or in writing or adequately informed of a new policy that my “minor” child would not be seen without it. Why would i waste my time and show up without needed (unsaid) document?! Why would say a kidnapper take a kid to the…dentist?! DUH;) i inform her my husband/our daughter’s dad has the document in a safe place…and Ugghh! Nothing is working…”OH” “so You refuse!” “to help/accommodate me and my daughter and are kicking me out the door…you know, you realize that is what you are in effect doing…kicking me out!!

She says they have openings this afternoon and my husband/we can come back then with the certificate in hand. “EXCUSE ME!… You’re kidding me, right? we work, and have arranged time, juggling kids, etc. to be here now and have other things to do today…and You are gonna see her now!” “I want to talk to Dr. P….” She tells me no. She won’t get him. “I want the headquarters number to complain.” Please write it down and what’s your name?!”…(How naive of me, she gave me the wrong number!) I said “THANK YOU!” …sarcastically …and stormed out. We were at an impossible impasse…she could not produce a written policy change for me to read. I could not produce my kid’s birth certificate for her to see.

Stupidity!;)…i probably sound very arrogant, and know i need to work on humility…guess, shouldn’t expect to be treated nicely by those you try to treat nicely…

(the whole incident seems like a case of ignorance to me)…

My daughter was completely surprised and said she has never seen me upset with someone like this before in public. Of course, I could of been more detached emotionally and less insistent. I too was SURPRISED by the level of outrageous unreasonableness which struck a justice chord in me.

Mulling this over…may be, the Office Lady was “doing” her Monday morning best and i was “doing” my exhausted best…but neither best helped my daughter’s toothache!:(

Which sorta brings me to the topic of suffering…you can’t lump all suffering into the same box labeled fragile/life. Some suffering may be within our personal control and some out of our control. Some suffering is due to stupidity. Some suffering is due to ignorance. Some suffering is senseless. And some suffering makes…sense.

Time and unforeseen events befall us all…(with or without teeth)… and with or without a birth certificate.

Etc., Etc.,…distinctions to be made…because not all suffering is same or equal…(and in length or degree).

Which reminds me of these verses about suffering:

However, let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or a wrongdoer or a busybody in other people’s matters. 16  But if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not feel ashamed, but let him keep on glorifying God while bearing this name. 17  For it is the appointed time for the judgment to start with the house of God. Now if it starts first with us, what will the outcome be for those who are not obedient to the good news of God? 18  “And if the righteous man is being saved with difficulty, what will happen to the ungodly man and the sinner?” 19  So, then, let those who are suffering in harmony with the will of God keep on entrusting *(or commending) themselves*(or their souls) to a faithful Creator while they are doing good. (1 Peter 4:1-19)

{It’s not easy doing good IF you’re being treated bad, huh?}

4/26/18 @ 12:15 a.m.

Published 4/26/18 @ 11:48 a.m.

P.s. Irony Flashback: used to hear the above-tune every Monday Morning on local radio heading to work… across from Cambridge courthouse at law firm in Cambridge Mass… long before kids, toothaches, Florida laid-back (?) living.

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Being Encouraging :)

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i LOVE this verse…

Keep on encouraging one another.​—Hebrews 3:13

Rhetorical Questions:

Who(m) did i encourage today?

Why did i do so?

Who will i encourage tomorrow morning?

Tomorrow afternoon?

Tomorrow night?

Who will i encourage the day after tomorrow and the day after that and the day after that???

Random Ones crossing my path?

Family and Friends?

Strangers aka Ones i may not know intimately?

Positive-kind-thoughtful-compassionate-comforting-loving-helpful-words…and random:) smiles :)…help us all aka all of us need help in one form or another.

Being encouraging is a form of generosity.

Another verse(s) i LOVE:)…PRO verb (ing) 11:24, 25

One gives generously* (Lit., “scatters”) and ends up with more;

Another withholds what should be given, but he comes to poverty.

25 The generous person*(or Soul) will prosper,*(Lit., “will be made fat”)

And whoever refreshes*(Lit., “freely waters”) others will himself be refreshed.

GREAT Job READER:)…being encouraging, giving, and refreshing to All-Breathing-Fragile-Life crossing Your Path…here, there, and everywhere!

This SMILE is for YOU:)

Peace

3/19/18 @ 7:23 p.m. (P.C., Florida)

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