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Self-Control

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Self-Control is an important parameter in the expression of Compassion. High Compassion Values include self-control and appreciation, respect, and love of Family. MUCH of the suffering experienced by our global-family-of-fellow-beautiful-breathing-fragile-life is due to a lack of self-control in various aspects of life and living.

Self-control is an essential, highly influential, “positive” trait necessaire. How so?

What are values? They are moral or ethical principles that we view as good and important. They might include forgiveness, honesty, liberty, love, respect for life, and self-control. Our values, therefore, influence our behavior, priorities, and relationships, as well as the moral guidance we give to our children. Despite their importance, however, moral values are in decline.

What is influencing my daily choices in behavior, any priorities I set, and in my relationships with fellow-fragile-life? Are my “family”  “global-family” values (deep respect/appreciation) being corroded and/or eroded??  What are my roots/my values? In what are my values rooted?

In 2008, researchers in the United States interviewed hundreds of young adults about their views on moral values. “What’s disheartening is how bad they are at thinking and talking about moral issues,” said David Brooks in The New York Times. Most felt that rape and murder were wrong, but “aside from those extreme cases, moral thinking didn’t enter the picture, even when [they were] considering things like drunken driving, cheating in school or cheating on a partner.” As one young person put it, “I don’t really deal with right and wrong that often.”
How about Hurts or Helps? Positive Results or Negative Results? Compassion or Cruelty?

The human heart, while capable of great love and compassion, can also be ‘treacherous and desperate.’ (Jeremiah 17:9) This sad reality is reflected in the world’s changing moral landscape—a trend the Bible foretold. “In the last days,” it said long ago, “people will be selfish, greedy, boastful, and conceited,” as well as “unkind [and] violent.” Also, “they will hate the good” and “love pleasure rather than God.”—2 Timothy 3:1-5, Good News Translation.

Am i selfish, boastful, conceited?  (Honest self-reflection/examination can help me make needed adjustments to live a more compassionate life of self-control in all areas.)

Those realities should move us to question our own heart, not blindly trust it! Indeed, the Bible frankly states: “He that is trusting in his own heart is stupid.” (Proverbs 28:26) Like a compass, our heart needs to be calibrated with sound values if it is to serve us well. Where can we find such values? Many look to the Bible itself, appreciating both its wisdom and its candor.

TRUE NORTH…headed in the direction of real life…real love, real living, real longevity…real happiness!:)

“If you have learned to love, then happiness will surely knock on your door,” says the book Engineering Happiness—A New Approach for Building a Joyful Life. Clearly, as humans, we need love. Without it, we cannot be truly happy.

What the Bible says: “Clothe yourselves with love, for it is a perfect bond of union.” (Colossians 3:14) The same Bible writer also said: “If I . . . do not have love, I am nothing.”—1 Corinthians 13:2.

That love is neither sexual nor purely sentimental; it is governed by principle. It is the kind of love that moves us to help a stranger in difficulty, with no thought of a reward. At 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, we read: “Love is long-suffering and kind. [It] is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, . . . endures all things.”

When families lack such love, everybody suffers, especially children.

A particularly subtle enemy of love is materialism—the belief that material well-being and pleasure are the highest values. Yet, secular studies repeatedly show that beyond a surprisingly modest threshold, more wealth does not bring more happiness. In fact, people who adopt materialistic values may actually be investing in unhappiness, a view that finds Biblical support. Ecclesiastes 5:10 tells us: “A mere lover of silver will not be satisfied with silver, neither any lover of wealth with income. This too is vanity.” The Bible also states: “Let your manner of life be free of the love of money.”—Hebrews 13:5.

Do I love material things more than family? Is my own material well-being and pleasure more important to me than my family (immediate and global)? Am i honest with myself and with my family (immediate and global)?

Honesty–This ethical value is fundamental to any civilized society. Dishonesty fosters fear, mistrust, and social decay.

What the Bible says: “Who will be a guest in [God’s] tent?” The answer? “He who is walking faultlessly and . . . speaking the truth in his heart.” (Psalm 15:1, 2) Yes, genuine honesty, […], is a personality trait. It is not governed by circumstances or expediency.

Come on, who of us would “knowingly” invite a guest in our home…who would steal from us and/or murder us?! (Yet, is that what we do via media, t.v., internet, etc.?!)

My belief, deep down, from the bottom of my heart…most of us want the best for our immediate families: health/happiness…we may have different knowledge or skill(s)-set(s)…ways of going about it…collectively as a global-family…can we seek the best for each other?? Can we be honest, compassionate, forgiving…and exercise Self-Control…so as not to hurt one another…

“Every man taking part in a contest exercises self-control in all things.”—1 CORINTHIANS 9:25.

Self-control“Keeping in check, restraining, or controlling one’s person, actions, speech, or thoughts.” (Insight on Scriptures Vol. 2 Self-Control) [Reference article above-excerpts: Moral Values That Truly Enrich, AWAKE! 2013]

Questions for Reflections:

In what ways can i exhibit self-control today? In what ways can my self-control benefit myself while contributing to the health and happiness of my immediate and global family of fellow-fragile-life?

10/29/17 4:04 p.m.

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Cooked Mussels, Green Tea, and Dark Chocolate

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A late afternoon lunch (or early dinner) @ 4:20 p.m….Yummy. I am starting my second cup of Green Tea and second bite of Dark Chocolate! 🙂

(Sorry! to any sensitive Eaters-Readers:) out there (who may be offended by my consuming choices). A girl’s gotta eat, correct? 😉 I eat in moderation when I am hungry and stop when I am full; thus, the late lunch (after physical work) and 2nd cup of tea (the salty mussels made me a little thirsty for more). (Your lunch and dinner is probably more tasty than mine, huh? EnJOY!)

Sip, sip, sip…

My mind is thirsty for more too…How about You?? Again, Sorry! to any sensitive Eaters-Readers:) out there (who may be offended by my mind consuming choices). A girl’s mind has to eat, too, correct? 😉 Thank You for trying some new veggies/tastes.

(Or perhaps, your mind diet requires a spiritual supplement?!)

Now on to the Real Eating… aka spiritual nourishment… read the following a while back and it ties in nicely with previous posts: the-end-of-framework-part-1/the-end-of-framework-part-2/end-of-framework-part-3/

Bon Appetite!:)… sip, sip, sip…(my green highlights of excerpted points of interest)

“They are no part of the world.”—John 17:16.

 People who do not share our faith may feel a special loyalty to their country, tribe, or culture or even to their national sports team. Challenges to such loyalties have resulted in competition and rivalry and, in extreme cases, bloodshed and genocide. The way that people resolve these issues, for better or for worse, might touch us or our families personally  because we are inescapably a part of human society. Since God made man with an innate sense of justice, the decisions that human governments make may offend our sense of what is right and fair. (Gen. 1:27; Deut. 32:4) How do we react under such circumstances? It would be all too easy to take sides in worldly issues and be drawn into controversy.

And the easy way… is NOT always the smartest or wisest way, eh?!:)

The institutions that govern human society may pressure citizens to take sides in conflicts that arise. True Christians cannot do so. We do not participate in the political controversies of this world; nor do we take up arms. (Matt. 26:52) We are not swayed by efforts to involve us in exalting any portion of […] world over another. (2 Cor. 2:11) Being no part of the world, we rise above worldly rivalries.—Read John 15:18, 19.

Example of Sage of Peace/Compassion…

 If you are ever in doubt as to how you ought to behave in any given situation, it would be wise to ask yourself, ‘What would Jesus have done?’ The nation in which Jesus lived was made up of people from various regions—Judea, Galilee, Samaria, and others. Bible accounts reveal that there were tensions between people of these different areas. (John 4:9) Tensions also existed between Pharisees and Sadducees (Acts 23:6-9), between the people and the tax collectors (Matt. 9:11), and between those who had received a Rabbinic education and those who had not. (John 7:49) In the first century, Israel was ruled by the Romans, whose presence was deeply resented by the local people. While Jesus championed religious truth […], he never encouraged his disciples to foster rivalries. (John 4:22) On the contrary, he urged them to love all men as their neighbor.—Luke 10:27.

Why did Jesus not endorse common Jewish prejudices? Because neither he nor his Father takes sides in this world’s controversies. […]God designed humans in such a way that they could produce different races. Neither Jehovah nor Jesus exalts one race, nationality, or language above another. (Acts 10:34, 35; Rev. 7:9, 13, 14) We must follow their perfect example.—Matt. 5:43-48.

In NO WAY do I want to endorse common prejudices!!!…(i.e. politics, certain controversies exalt one race, nationality or language above others.) That’s partially why I am impartially no part of the world…I stay politically neutral. I love all my fellow-fragile-life-brothers-and-sisters-globally and wish them all PEACE and longevity!! It doesn’t matter what peer-pressure, family-pressure, community-pressure, national-pressure, political-power-struggle-pressure, etc. we can all rise above worldly rivalries! I cannot kill my brother or sister just because they live in another country or speak another language or eat different food!

Sip, sip, sip…

Note how some first-century Christians reacted to one divisive issue that arose within the congregation. Individuals in Corinth were saying: “‘I belong to Paul,’ ‘But I to Apollos,’ ‘But I to Cephas,’ ‘But I to Christ.’” Whatever the underlying issue, the apostle Paul was indignant about its effect. “Is the Christ divided?” he asked. What was the solution to such disruptive thinking? Paul exhorted the Christians: “Now I urge you, brothers, through the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you should all speak in agreement and that there should be no divisions among you, but that you may be completely united in the same mind and in the same line of thought.” Neither should there be divisions of any kind in […] (True) Christian congregation today.—1 Cor. 1:10-13; read Romans 16:17, 18  “Now I urge you, brothers, to keep your eye on those who create divisions and causes for stumbling contrary to the teaching that you have learned, and avoid them For men of that sort are slaves, not of our Lord Christ, but of their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattering speech they seduce the hearts of unsuspecting ones.”

Some of us are being seduced everyday…by the political and religious and big business smooth-talkers, etc. Don’t be an unsuspecting one/pawn doing the mindless bidding of the puppet masters (in their various ego-power struggles/controversies)!

Has your upbringing or environment exposed you to national or regional loyalties? Do any such feelings still linger in your heart? Christians should not allow nationalistic fervor to taint their view of others. But what if you realize that you do have negative thoughts toward people of other nations, cultures, languages, or races? Then it would certainly be profitable to meditate on how Jehovah (True God of Agape/Compassion) views nationalism and prejudice.—Read Romans 12:2  And stop being molded by this system of things, but be transformed by making your mind over, so that you may prove to yourselves the good and acceptable and perfect will of God. [excerpted reference: Maintain Your Loyalty to God’s Kingdom w 2015]

Questions for Reflections:

Who is molding my mind? This system of things/world.. aka soon to end framework of human society??

Do I have or foster attitude “mine is best” …holding partisan allegiances??

Am I truly FREE…on all levels from: divisive, prideful, competitive practices that dominate today’s hurtful/violent/unloving present world/framework of human society??

 PEACE & Unity to YOU:)

Published 10/26/17 @ 6:26 p.m.

P.s. and a FY…i did not finish drinking my 2nd cup of green tea…😉

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A Recent Public Conversation

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(with potential to help many? families/friends)…You:) Decide…

 

5/31/17 @ 2:52 p.m.

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