How do You help someone who is LOST…in their own mind?!
we all need it…including me (very much so)!!
Criticism?…most of us get that...ouch and it can cut deep!! Most of us reject it…especially when harsh and unwarranted.
Aren’t they “technically” the same thing?
What i’ve learned about the 2 and how to differentiate between criticism & counsel:
tactful suggestions are helpful & given in a spirit of mildness and kindness…can help one avoid regret, danger or damage..physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually.
manner: NOT bossy but sincere & loving
counsel is NOT making an issue out of a non-issue!!!…that would be harsh and/or unwarranted/unreasonable criticism.
Wisdom is a protection–can safeguard us from all kinds of dangers…
Genuine & effective counsel helps brings out the beauty (positive qualities) in all of us!:)
Listen to counsel and accept discipline, In order to become wise in your future. (Proverbs 19:20)
The Bible contains real-life experiences of individuals who received needed counsel.
difficult to accept counsel? The basic problem […] pride, each thinking too highly of himself. Many bring grief on themselves because of this trait. They seem to feel that acknowledging counsel implies some deficiency in them or hurts their reputation. But pride is a weakness. Pride beclouds a person’s thinking so that he tends to resist the help provided […]
The way of the fool is right in his own eyes, But the wise one accepts advice. (Proverbs 12:15)
“All of you gird yourselves with lowliness of mind toward one another, because God opposes the haughty ones, but he gives undeserved kindness to the humble ones.” (1 Peter 5:5)
Consider Moses, whose father-in-law gave him counsel on how to handle his heavy work load. Moses listened to him and immediately applied it. (Exodus 18:13-24) Although Moses had great authority, why was he receptive to counsel? Because he was humble. “Moses was by far the meekest of all the men who were upon the surface of the ground.” (Numbers 12:3)
“Let each one keep seeking, not his own advantage, but that of the other person. . . . “
Beloved King David whose heart was very agreeable to the God of Compassion aka Yahweh & David’s heart (inner person) was agreeable to Men…He accepted counsel/discipline even though he had a lot power:
King David committed adultery with Bath-sheba and tried to cover it up by having her husband, Uriah, killed. Jehovah(Yahweh) sent the prophet Nathan to reprove David. He was repentant and quickly admitted: “I have sinned against Jehovah.” (2 Samuel 12:13)
King David knew the benefit of listening to sound counsel. […] he thanked God for the one through whom it came. (1 Samuel 25:32-35) Are we like that? If so, we will be safeguarded against saying and doing many things that could cause regret.
Closely related to humility is concern for the welfare of others.
Do you put the welfare of other people ahead of your own personal preference? ~Excerpts: Listen to Counsel, Accept Discipline
When we wisely accept counsel to seek not our own advantage…we truly strive to live compassion. We chose to make choices that heal and help ourselves and all Breathing-Fragile-Life. 🙂
The Greatest Musician..plays (a new song)…strings:
All of us can enter a room and choose to be refreshing to those around us… by being friendly and kind…forgiving attitude. And IF for whatever reason (hopefully motivated by genuine concern/agape love), we need to bring something to someone’s attention…let’s do so in a manner that will encourage and truly help!:)