There are indeed some aspects of my being that seem surreal.
My single-minded spiritual-focus…is hyper and real!
My Children and Chato help me see my blind spots.
They describe me in ways i do not, cannot…comprehend fully…or “see” (from the outside in) or is it from the inside out…manifestations of myself that i want (probably want) to avoid..(mostly).
Chato laughingly informs me today i was/am a tease and was/am a heart~breaker…and oblivious to both. And i am documenting this because it is not everyday…the closesthumanonEarthtome (at the moment) says: “i have brought him Joy!”
This makes me cry! because He has suffered A LOT in this life!!…(not to minimize Any One else’s suffering and pain) (and may be ? more than He had to…in some ways because of me!!…being married to ‘me’ and all that entails) and when Anyone has a Loved One/Family Member who is chronically ill especially with Depression or Bipolar or Any Other Awful Ailment…it’s tough, at times, to endure patiently together. The person suffers in one way and then you, the so-called healthy one, suffer in a different way; tortured by their suffering and the terrible “seemingly” powerlessness to effectuate a permanent-positive change…when going through the rough patches.
The rough patches end. Humans endure. (Pain is temporary just like pleasure. The good times. The bad times. (Spirituality is my constant.)) It’s hard to assess (sometimes) accurately or to adequately (tangibly) evaluate ‘any’ impact on Another Life or how much help–‘loving’ and ‘caring’ and ‘trying’ your imperfect best to aid a fellow-sufferer really brings…it’s taken 28+ years to hear those unspoken ‘comforting’ words: “You’ve brought me Joy!”
Wow. …it’s about time-lol😉
Anyway, this selfish? rambling and documenting today…brings my mind here…any hope i possess is well-founded; well-researched, believable and livable! And the absolutely best parts of my Hope is Bible-based!🙂
(i’ve been a goofy-Bible-geek since childhood…and serious about “Truth” way before 12…cause at 12 dedicated my life to God; really!;)…HA! (no, am not a nun: i despise/hate all fake/false religion; i.e. Catholic religion (You know the Organized religion that helped put Hitler in Power; in case You forgot, etc.) No! i don’t hate Catholics nor Non-Bible Readers nor Other Religious People, nor Humans and etc. I Love Fellow-Life and “try” to daily demonstrate by making genuinely-compassionate decisions. You know decisions that don’t “intentionally” try to hurt Fellow-Life.) the Bible, it’s a book that does it for me; have spent countless hours throughout my life–everyday as far back as i can recall–reading and studying it: it’s a dive-deep into the treasure-abyss. i always surfaced with gold. Even a tiny-tidbit keeps me going though this life…just an imperfect girl conscious of her spiritual need for healthy-spiritual-food to keep my mind sane.
Wow, you’re still reading, thanks! Let me share something encouraging…a lot of us are coping with grief on some level…
The way we listen…(or not) or rather the “quality” of our hearing?…it’s not just the working mechanisms of non-deaf ears…it’s the focus of our hearing…how we listen…perhaps, IS how we speak/respond.
We discussed in our previous compassion conversation the role our limbic system plays in assigning emotional priority to auditory input and how our desire(s) determines our listening. Basically, we listen (pay attention/heed) to what we “want” to hear–what has Top Emotional Priority to us individually.
To examine our listening skills, perhaps, we should examine our emotional priorities?! Because listening is learning and unless we can broaden our emotional priority (to include concern for others)…our learning (i.e. compassion) and listening will be limited at best.
Are our desires selfish? Unselfish? For example, if #1 (me) is my top emotional priority then i listen/pay attention/learn and/or practice what will benefit #1! or if my top emotional priority is unselfish and/or concern for other fragile-breathing life…i listen (pay attention and learn and/or practice) what will benefit not just myself, but all breathing-fragile life! [compassion-conversation-2]
Does the heart hearing offer the mind-mouth’s musings?
Talking is one means of learning. Listening is probably a better way of learning! Yeah, you’re correct, I need to listen more, eh? 🙂
Researchers have found that while the limbic system of our brain helps us focus on one thing while sustaining ability to hear various sounds–differentiating between many sounds becomes difficult when it involves simultaneously listening to human speech. When 2 voices compete for your ear to whom do you listen?!
I read this eye-opener point or rather ear-opener: “What we desire influences the way we hear!” What do you desire? We select the speech we listen to/focus on depending on which one (person) we “want” to hear!
Do you pay attention?…
Part of our regulatory auditory mechanism, which tunes and de-tunes our attention process, is the limbic system. It is responsible for assigning more or less attention to a given auditory input. So, if there are multiple auditory inputs, the input most relevant to our conscious and subconscious mechanism receives top priority. When the limbic system detects new and/or more relevant information, it passes it on to the auditory cortex for processing. At the same time, a certain emotional association is assigned to it. ~The Hearing Journal/Role of Limbic System by Natan Bauman, PhD
Getting our emotions and/or desires under control or not, could hinder or help our learning!:) Let’s hope the voice that wins our listening (and/or affection) is a wise one and not a stupid one!:) Let’s hope this person (voice) is a “true” friend out for our best interests and not for his/her own! Is a True Friend a people-pleaser, ear-pleaser or neither-pleaser?! May be, we should “listen” to the unexpected/unsolicited voices that cross our path?! New, fresh voices could teach new, fresh things. (Of course, be careful/discerning.) [1-compassion-conversation]
i think this is an important point for teachers and students/students and teachers…love…teaching/talking with love and learning/listening with love…enhances the quality, speed? perhaps, pace of learning. When student cares and teacher cares–agape for fellow-fragile-life and when both care enough/enJOY/like/love topic under consideration…”real” progress is made (in pov).
Does a great teacher have great love??
“Never has another man spoken like this.”—JOHN 7:46.
The Bible gives us glimpses of the impact he made on those who met him. For instance, Gospel writer Luke relates that people in Jesus’ hometown “began . . . to marvel at the winsome words proceeding out of his mouth.” Matthew reports that those who listened to Jesus as he taught in the Sermon on the Mount “were astounded at his way of teaching.” And John observes that the officers who were sent to arrest Jesus returned empty-handed, saying: “Never has another man spoken like this.”—Luke 4:22; Matt. 7:28; John 7:46.
Those officers were not mistaken. Jesus was unquestionably the greatest Teacher who ever lived. He taught with clarity, simplicity, and irrefutable logic. He skillfully used illustrations and questions. He adapted his teaching to those to whom he spoke, whether they were of high station or low. The truths he taught were easy to grasp yet truly profound. However, these things alone did not make Jesus the great Teacher that he was.
Teachers of the terrible…(aka “terrible” and not terrific teachers)…
LACK GENUINE LOVE!
Among the scribes and Pharisees, there were doubtless intelligent men who possessed knowledge and the skills to impart it. What made Jesus’ way of teaching so different from theirs? The religious leaders of the day had no love for the common people. Rather, they despised them, viewing them as “accursed people.” (John 7:49) In contrast, Jesus was moved with pity for them, since they were “skinned and thrown about like sheep without a shepherd.” (Matt. 9:36) He was warm, sympathetic, and kind. Further, the religious leaders had no true love for God. (John 5:42) Jesus, however, loved his Father and delighted to do his will. The religious leaders twisted God’s words to serve their own ends, but Jesus loved “the word of God”—he taught it, explained it, defended it, and lived by it. (Luke 11:28) Yes, love permeated the very being of the Christ, governing what he taught, how he dealt with people, and how he instructed them.
We enjoy talking about the things we love. When we speak about something dear to our heart, we become animated and our whole demeanor reflects enthusiasm and warmth. This is especially true when we talk about a person whom we love. Usually, we are eager to share with others what we know about that person. We praise, honor, and defend him. We do that because we want others to feel as attracted to that person and his qualities as we are.
After all, true worship is based on love for God. (Matt. 22:36-38) Jesus set a perfect example. He loved Jehovah with his whole heart, mind, soul, and strength. Having spent perhaps billions of years in heaven with his heavenly Father, Jesus knew him well. The result? “I love the Father,” Jesus said. (John 14:31) That love was reflected in everything Jesus said and did. It motivated him always to do the things pleasing to God. (John 8:29) It impelled him to denounce the religious leaders, who hypocritically claimed to represent God. It also moved him to speak about Jehovah and to help others to know and love God. [excerpted: Imitate Jesus–Teach With Love w July 2009]