When we use to sing…
In loving memory of Mark.
And to all my dear/loved ones, (please remember)…”will always love you”.
11/13/18 @ 11:31 a.m. (two years: post Mark)
Does pursuing peace mean breaking up fights?? Or getting involved in fights (i.e. political, controversial or other)?
Which fights? Who defines “fight” ? A “cause” and/or causes worthy of battle/engagement/time/energy/life/interference?!…carnal, psychological, mental, emotional, spiritual, physical…war?
I am no one to beep!…meaning i VERY rarely use my car horn, and any usage is quite judiciously at that. Perhaps, it’s been YEARS (?)..since, well, other than on this past Tuesday afternoon. Today is Thursday, November 1st.
What would You do?…IF…
you’re peacefully, (semi-quietly) alone for approximately 10 minutes (waiting/sitting/meditating/listening to Vivaldi) in your car at the corner of Street X and Street Y–a couple feet before stop sign in the shade–with left-side view of Main Z Street…first come the bikers…aka middle school kids w/stuffed back packs just let out of school-jail wildly racing homeward down popular/well-traveled side-street used by some to get home faster by avoiding Main Z Street traffic.
The usual pattern routine…first come bikers, loners, then first set of walkers, then next wave of walkers including my daughter and her friend…whom i transport home most afternoons. This Tuesday was different. After bikers…i hear a ROAR of a crowd…thought, wow, kids are much more noisier today, eh?
Looked up and to the left…yep, two boys (surrounded/encircled by big bunch of onlookers) going at it…fighting…fisticuffs!! They are simultaneously trying to rip each other’s t-shirts off…(pourquoi? who knows?) the fight has moved into the middle of Street Y…looks like a huge curious crowd of cockroaches has swarmed. Approximately 40-50 kids; mostly in the street and some on both sidewalks.Within seconds more kids are joining in…and the spectator swarm swells.
I eye my daughter and her friend stopped on side-walk checking out the fight. Immediately beep 2-3 short beeps to get her attention to no avail! At that moment, i notice one prevailing-fighter kid looking like he’s trying his best to pound/smash the non-prevailing kid’s head to the concrete.
Uh-OH…head injuries can be serious/fatal…stupid? kids. Immediately and instinctually, i calmly drive toward crowd in middle of street laying l-o-n-g on my extra LOUD horn without any let-up!! They one and all–at once–disperse and disengage including fighting boys. They take off running and scattering to sidewalks and begin leaving the scene. I roll down my window and assertively/firmly tell my daughter to get in! now.
She calls to her friend to get in our car…as i hear another friend cheering and yelling, “A.’s Mom to the Rescue!”:)
My daughter’s friend is smiling and they (my daughter and friend) laughingly cannot believe I just broke up the fight…with a beep. I didn’t get involved in the fight; which was not my fight; didn’t personally yell at the kids nor pick sides yet handled the situation…before it got too too out of hand…and with the long beep/loud horn strategy managed getting about 50 kids to leave scene and go home before anyone got seriously injured.
Hope they all made it home okay. Hope the fighting is finished.
It came naturally—didn’t think twice—about the horn or driving carefully straight toward crowd in middle of road nor not leaving my vehicle. Before responsible-mature-logical adult action–I had a quick/passing thought about calling police. But by the time they would arrive, fighting kid(s) probably would be quite hurt and all of the kids in needless trouble. It just seemed like involving the authorities would make matters worse. And before those thoughts quickly left my mind–I was already driving and laying on horn. The road easily cleared. We safely road down Street Y…cause
Like someone grabbing hold of a dog’s ears
Is the one passing by who becomes furious about*(or who possibly meddles in) a quarrel that is not his. PROverb 26:17
Interesting commentary (for Youths & Adults alike) on this intriguingly-wise Biblical Proverb:
What would happen if you grabbed hold of the ears of a dog? It would hurt the dog, and he would snap at you, wouldn’t he? The more the dog tried to get loose, the harder you would have to hold on to the ears and the more excited the dog would get. If you let him go, he would probably bite you hard. But can you just stand there and hold his ears forever?—
Well, that is the kind of trouble that we would be in if we got mixed up in a fight between other people. We may not know who started the fight or why they are fighting. One person may be getting beaten up, but perhaps he stole something from the other one. If we helped him, we would be helping a thief. That would not be good, would it?
So, what should you do if you see a fight?— If it is at school, you can run and tell a teacher. And if it is away from school, you can call one of your parents or a policeman. Yes, even when other people want to fight, we should be peaceable. [Is It Right to Fight? Learn From the Great Teacher, Chapter 19, p. 106]
We all wear our values on full display, eh?!
It’s a less angry/stressful/aggravating/agonizing/arrogant place to play.
Patience (olive green) at play is energizing and not exhausting!
practical points on Patience:)
We are surrounded by a world in which people are often lovers of themselves, not open to any agreement, and without self-control. Those who display such characteristics are frequently anything but patient. […]
In the Biblical sense of the word, patience is more than simply putting up with a trying situation. A person with godly patience endures with a purpose. He sees beyond his own needs and considers the welfare of the one causing a disagreeable situation. For this reason, when a patient person is wronged or provoked, he refuses to give up hope for improvement in the disturbed relationship. Little wonder, then, that the Bible lists being “patient” as the first of many fine qualities that stem from love. (1 Cor. 13:4)
from my (albeit limited/imperfect) point of view: the more patience shown…indicative of depth of love; love indicative of understanding/appreciation; the more we love someone the more willing we are to be patient with/in our dealings/interactions/communications.
Patience is a wise course in numerous situations/circumstances (on & off line).
For example, please, notice these further excerpted readings:
Many everyday situations may test our patience. For example, if you feel that you have something important to say, you may need to exercise patience in order to avoid interrupting others. (Jas. 1:19) You might also need to show patience when associating with […] whose habits irritate you. Instead of overreacting to such things, you are wise to consider how [Yahweh]/ Jehovah and Jesus react to our weaknesses. They do not focus a critical eye on our minor failings. Rather, they see our good qualities and patiently observe our efforts to improve.—1 Tim. 1:16; 1 Pet. 3:12.
Another situation that may test our patience is when someone suggests that we said or did something wrong. All too often, we may be quick to take offense and justify ourselves. However, God’s Word recommends a different response. It states: “Better to be patient than to be haughty in spirit. Do not be quick to take offense, for the taking of offense lodges in the bosom of fools.” (Eccl. 7:8, 9) Hence, even if an accusation is completely untrue, we should patiently weigh our response. Jesus followed that principle when others unjustly ridiculed him.—Matt. 11:19.
[excerpted aforementioned readings: w 9/2018: Patience–Endurance with a Purpose]
am working on being more and more patient and…enduring with a purpose
not interrupting as a talker😉
am i patient listener?!
a patient person/friend/parent/partner/fellow-fragile-life inhabiting Earth?
am i patiently purposeful?
10/09/18 @ 3:28 p.m.
Life seems an easier going with patience & purpose🙂
Your word is a lamp to my foot, And a light for my path. (Psalm 119:105)
A psalmist said in prayer to Yahweh/Jehovah: “Your word is a lamp to my foot, and a light to my roadway.” (Psalm 119:105) God’s statements and reminders are found in the Bible, and they can help us to overcome obstacles that we may encounter on our path. Indeed, when we read the Bible and let it guide us, we are experiencing firsthand what is described at Isaiah 30:21: “Your own ears will hear a word behind you saying: ‘This is the way. Walk in it, you people.’”
17 There is no doubt that Yahweh/Jehovah provides guidance. The question is, Will you submit to it? To understand the direction that Yahweh/Jehovah provides, make it your resolve to read a portion of the Bible each day. Meditate on what you read, try to perceive Yahweh/Jehovah’s will in matters, and think of different ways that the material could apply in your life. (1 Timothy 4:15) Then use your “power of reason” when you make personal decisions.—Romans 12:1. [excerpts: Let God’s Word Guide Your Steps W 07 5/1 pp. 16, 18 (God’s Holy Name in Hebrew: Yahweh. English translation: Jehovah: accepted by many scholars)
p.s. my heart and prayers go out to All…
in perplexing circumstances including Haiti…
another tragic event: Earthquake hit October 6th
(couple years ago past tragic event: Hurricane Matthew hit on October 6th also.)
My Fam and i were recently at a First Responders’ Training Educational Event…and one practical point took away: You cannot change the event…however, MORE PREPARATION means less damage. Less preparation means MORE DAMAGE!!
i’ve always felt life is a pop quiz…what does one do about pop, unexpected quizzes??…YOU PREPARE! YOU STUDY! YOU READY?!?!
With world-wide disasters…popping up here/there/anywhere/anytime: are You personally prepared for Earthquake, Hurricane, Flood, Fire, Terrorist Activity, Shooting, Political Revolutions, Mobs, Ect., …having a plan (evacuation and Other) and a to-go bag with on-hand supplies…is practical.
Not talking undue anxiety…just preparedness…modesty.
the best book that has helped me the most with my personal pop quizzes…tough, tragic, and otherwise: The Bible…old and new testament; there is so MUCH wisdom practical to modern-living and surviving/thriving!:)
disasters…popping up: are You personally prepared for Earthquake, Hurricane, Flood, Fire, Terrorist Activity, Tsunami, You name it..having a plan and a to-go bag with on-hand supplies…is practical…logical…a head light.
i intend to pass my pop quizzes! 🙂
10/07/18 @ 12:03 p.m.