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Winter Weather Melancholia

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Living in Florida (for 16 years now…WOW! where did the time go?!) am accustomed to mostly sunny days and mild temperatures… oh, and hurricane season, prep, etc.  Basically, I’ve turned into a winter-weather-wimp!;)

Winter has arrived! here and am very tired/exhausted, upset tummy, and generally feeling an over-all malaise (yesterday)… the Winter arrival corresponds with my brother’s departure back to Haiti… so, that could be some of it… the melancholia.

Plus, it’s not fun when your kid/s’ asthma is triggered by cold-er air.  It’s very worrisome when your young one(s) has an asthma attack or

labored breathing!🙁

Certain chronic health issues/concerns can be scary (i.e. Uncontrolled Bipolar Disorder, Uncontrolled Asthma) though these “certainly” teach various care-giving, compassion lessons of love, forgiveness, patience, endurance, etc.

Time with family is precious!… (and IF everyone is in the same place at the same time and healthy at the same time; rare)…and don’t know, for sure, when i will see my brother again during 2018. Life in Haiti is not easy to say the least… and his and his wife’s compassion life-style is exemplary!

They have literally endangered their own personal comfort-zones of living, health, well-being, their literal lives for the greater good and to help countless people through the years! Though, all of us can live that kind of self-sacrificing-unselfish-love, compassion-first-responsibility…closer to home if need be, eh?

Helping does come with risk factors (and fractals;)… not reckless, just necessary.

Compared to other colder places, what we are experiencing here in FL is mild! (For us–it’s cold, rainy-raw.) My thoughts and prayers are with all who are Braving the Truly Extreme Cold Elsewhere!!  Please stay healthy and warm!!:)

a childhood song…(which the concept always touched me deeply and made me cry like a little girl as a little girl & beyond;) and BTW: never, even as young kid, believed in a magic dragon, or a Santa Claus or an Easter Bunny; “fictional” characters) appropriate for today and came to me yesterday…”Puff the Magic Dragon” Peter, Paul, and Mary…

Journeys in life take us through immaturity to maturity, ups, downs (i.e. fighting melancholy mind-set(s)), all-arounds, and all kinds of weather, huh?!

Sometimes You Can’t Take the Journey For (or with) someone (no matter how much you love them!)

(wishing could fly to Haiti to help right now)

(wishing could breathe for my kid)

(wishing etc., etc.)

You may be able to assist, and encourage, support the process… indirectly/directly… or by proxy or prayers!

Perhaps? positive examples are the best teachers…

YAY!! The sun is out now, my kid is breathing better!!… and my mind capturing positive thoughts… whew.

each morning, each day presents opportunities for (compassion, spiritual) growth… and for living justice.

{What i mean by justice… is involved/deep and don’t have time to elaborate at the moment… not talking revenge nor my own personal sense of stuff… nor talking reciprocity.

Justly interacting/communicating with fellow-fragile-life in an agape/non-selfish manner that displays appropriate compassion at the appropriate time, etc.}

{We all do our best with the “accurate” knowledge aka “real” faith we possess at this current moment in time… and when we learn or understand deeper or more deeply aka acquire more accurate information… well, we make necessary changes and update to more healthy decisions…what I’ve come learn about God’s Justice as revealed in the Holy writings/scriptures is… God doesn’t expect from any of us what we are incapable of doing.}

THANKS for reading reader:)… my big-mouth ramblings… feeling better now (and hope you do too… aka better for this post and not worse off aka hoping by sharing this is helping in some small way).

1/3/18 @ 3:01 p.m.

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Rip OFF

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Don’t be ripped off…
by the ripper-off-ers!

Don’t be deceived… by the smoking smoke screens!

1. Alcohol & drug intoxication… a rip off …not true ecstasy.

2. Smoking/drugging… a rip off… not real air/oxygen…energy.

3. Nationalism…a rip off… not true-united-brotherhood-of-global-fellow-fragile-life seeking the unselfish best interests of all.

4. Fame & Fortune… a rip off… not true friendship nor true security…

“There are companions ready to crush one another; But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” PRO verbs 18:24

“For wisdom is a protection just as money is a protection, but the advantage of knowledge is this: Wisdom preserves the life of its owner.” Eccl. 7:12

“The wealth of the rich is his fortified city; It is like a protective wall in his imagination.” PRO verbs 18:11

5. Latest technology… a rip off… IF mostly misused to hurt rather than help/heal…(Or to silence/kill instead of communicating/interacting/living/moving).

6. FAKE Religion/Big Business…Fake Government…Fake Media/Fake mind-food aka fake knowledge/fake leadership…inaccurate/insufficient misinformation/propaganda, no actual evidence, etc….a rip off… not TRUE satisfying spirituality (or leadership) leading aka setting example worthy of imitation/modeling…leading to TRUE peace (and life/longevity eternal).

“One whose appetite is satisfied turns down honey from the comb, But to the hungry, even what is bitter tastes sweet.” PRO verbs 27:7

“And I heard another voice out of heaven say: “Get out of her (fake religion), my people, if you do not want to share with her in her sins, and if you do not want to receive part of her plagues.” Revelation 18:4

7. War games/violence… a rip off… not a viable solution/resolution to conflict …”those who take up the sword… perish by the sword!”

“Then Jesus said to him: “Return your sword to its place, for all those who take up the sword will perish by the sword.” Matthew 26:52

“As a city broken through, without a wall, is the man who cannot control his temper.” PRO verbs 25:28

(a limited list; e.g., not extensive… obviously;

I’m sure You could think of other rip-offs to add.)

Accurate Knowledge… along with proactive-POSITIVE Psychological tactics/non-combative/”spiritual” warfare…(in my POV) is like non-invasive, bloodless, precise, mind surgery… with better outcomes!… respecting the sacredness/preciousness of life!:)

“By patience a commander is won over, and a gentle (mild) tongue can break a bone.” PRO verbs 25:15

“Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold is a wise reprover to a receptive ear.” PRO verb 25:12

“A mild answer turns away rage, But a harsh word stirs up anger.” PRO verb 15:1

“If your enemy (the one hating you) is hungry, give him bread to eat; If he is thirsty, give him water to drink. For you will be heaping burning coals on his head (that is to soften the person and melt his hardness), and Jehovah (True God of Compassion) will reward you.” PRO verbs 25:22

Put away from yourselves every kind of malicious bitterness, anger, wrath, screaming, and abusive speech, as well as everything injurious. 32 But become kind to one another, tenderly compassionate, freely forgiving one another just as God also by Christ freely forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31, 32

PEACE Reader:)… keep up the fully-awake-wise-fine-fight:  Soldier of Compassion!:)

11/04/17 @ 12:00 p.m.

Is a house… truly a home without peace & compassion & agape (unselfish) love??… what about our beautiful planet Earth with all its inhabitants?! (Would You agree?…Each family member aka fellow-fragile-life has a personal responsibility to contribute/maintain/sustain home aka Earth.)

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Prepare and Don’t Panic!

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My thoughts and prayers are with those dealing with/experiencing Category 5 Hurricane Irma at the moment of this writing! And, of course, with all Others in the potential “perhaps” zone of catastrophic path of the unknown impact! And with All those dealing with a disaster of one name/sort or another in one place or another!

My Brother and Sister-in-law are in Haiti…my immediate Family and Friends are here close to my vicinity in FL. I think this whole state is a flood zone. We happen to live in flat land…our place of literal/bodily dwelling doesn’t flood…usually, but surrounding us does…go figure?….of course, with potential of spillage or depending on rainfall, etc. that could change fast.

During rainy season, i live in crocs. {i haven’t gotten around to getting rubber boats -ha, i meant to type boots:)…it’s hot to wear boots in high 80’s/90’s, but i think, it’s “probably” time. The super big puddles/rivers and washed out streets…picking kids up from school has had me considering a boots investment for a while now. Rubber boots may be sold out ? IDK and rainy season is almost finished…Hurricane season ends in November.} Boots haven’t been a necessity…for me (till now? in the “perhaps” zone)

My kids are prepping their to-go bags/carry-ons as i type on this laptop…and my 12 year old just announced -lol that IF we leave, (cause of flooding), she is NOT taking her homework binder!!;) This is ironic coming from a kid who always does her homework no matter what and is thoughtful, super-responsible with follow-through! She’s also singing “it’s the end of the world as we know it–AND I FEEL FINE!!” (School officials will inform Wednesday at noon about school cancellations, etc.) My 14 year old is considering what artwork to bring…and to wrap in plastic. And of course, the cats are their priority! i am chuckling cause now–the kids are asking/aka testing me about a particular privilege–i feel they are not old enough for yet…and under usual conditions the answer would be NO! …smartie pants, my answer is still NO!…:) My 12 year old is now stating IF You love me, you will answer this question…and i quickly piped up Yes! (meaning: of course i love you and i’m listening while my head is down typing), and so–now she laughingly informs me: I have to buy her a rat cause i said ‘Yes’…(what she really means is gerbil; that’s what she calls a gerbil and all in rodent family and she knows my yes means yes and my no, no. Plus she knows, i don’t care much for rats!), but she loves all animals in any family type and would be perfectly fine with a real rat (from the pet store). (Not me though, i do not want rats for pets from a store or anywhere, thank you; still working on fully appreciating this fellow-fragile-life/creature; obviously.)

Now the kids are goofing around making up…& singing country songs…”Two tear drops floating down the river…” and talking/chattering non-stop; wonder where/who they get that from?! 😉

This is suppose to be a serious post about preparation(s) and a kid is now tickling my nose/trying to stick a piece of twirled plastic up my nose so, i’ll sneeze…while my eyes are distracted on this screen.  STOP IT! Cut it out! She is relentlessly aggravating me for a laugh…we are having fun and laughing/playing and not panicking while prepping for a potentially very-serious-weather-life-altering-event.

My son quietly informs that: IF our house gets wrecked, his only regret is not painting his room…blue.

okay back to business…little girls have left room..i better type fast to finish this before the unrelenting interruptions start up again…i LOVE my kids!…and especially love their creative teaching techniques…teaching me patience, and other qualities (like staying calm in emergencies and listening completely before replying) i need to work on–or things i need to change…lol;)…especially my snarky sarcasm that surfaces from time-to-time.

“PREPARATION is Your MOST IMPORTANT KEY TO SURVIVAL!” – Awake! No. 5 “When Disaster Strikes–Steps That Can Save Lives”….

No one is immune to disaster. But what does preparation involve?

  • Prepare mentally. Acknowledge the fact that disasters happen and that you and your loved ones are potentially at risk. It is too late to prepare after disaster strikes.

  • Learn about disasters that can happen in your area. Know where shelters are. Consider whether the construction of your home and its location are as safe as possible. Remove fire hazards. Install smoke detectors, and change their batteries at least once a year, if not more often.

  • Prepare emergency supplies. Power, water, phone, and transportation services can fail. If you own a car, try to keep the fuel tank at least half full, and always have food, water, and an emergency kit in your home.​

  • Have access to the phone numbers of friends, both near and far.

  • Make and rehearse an escape plan. Know the nearest exits in your building, as well as the emergency plan of your children’s school. Set up family meeting places​—such as a school or a library—​one nearby and another outside your neighborhood. Authorities recommend that you practice walking with your family to those meeting points.

  • Plan to help others, including the elderly and the infirm.

i’ve been living in the “perhaps” zone concerning various life things/circumstances, etc…for a while now…this training has prepped/disciplined/taught my mind and heart to be prepared..for whatever occurs….{at least, i think/hope anyway.}

Reader:)…are You prepared? Physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually?? (for disaster or whatever?)

Don’t Panic! BE PREPARED! BE SAFE and ACCURATELY INFORMED!:)

PEACE!:)

9/5/17 @ 10:35 p.m.

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O. M. F. Optimization for Multiple Functioning

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Are You a “seeing skeleton” ?!

(not sure (and no time to research) IF i’ve already shared this here (aka this blog previously))…

Check it out at YOUR OWN RISK…of seeing/(understanding) better…

THE reef-dwelling brittle star has an amazing form of armor on its upper surface. This part of its skeleton is studded with microscopic lenses that turn the animal’s armor into a compound eye.

According to chemist Joanna Aizenberg, the brittle star’s dual-purpose shell “demonstrates an important principle: in biology, materials are often optimized for multiple functions.

[…]researchers have devised a simple, low-cost method of producing arrays of microlenses made of calcium carbonate. The many applications of these arrays include telecommunications, where they are used to conduct light signals through optical fibers. [excerpted past/recent reading/peering…The Seeing Skeleton of the Brittle Star–Was It Designed? (by God) AWAKE! May 2013]

Brittle thinking lacks tensile strength…(and now and again may be ? we all need an antacid;)  perhaps (a) 1 life lesson…we can make the most of things…efficiency and speed…is found in not sweating the small stuff (follow-through on the small stuff, (but don’t let it hinder progress long-term)) and …when we can effectively tackle the microscopic…may be we see/understand the macroscopic…

practical verse:

The person faithful in what is least is faithful also in much, and the person unrighteous in what is least is unrighteous also in much. (Luke 16:10)

Multiple/Flexible Functioning…optimizing wellness:  spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically…:)

 

7/19/17 @ 11:45 a.m.

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“Nǐ​ Hǎo” and “Chào Bạn”

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have

had

my

fair share

and

(unfair share)

of

challenges

in

(my) life…(mostly likely You:) Reader have had the same: fair/unfair challenges to face in life)

so

why

NOT??

escape

those

challenges (“say” by focusing positive attention…)

with

language

challenges (of choice)??

God has helped me thus far with (life) challenges…

so (in comparison)

what’s learning Chinese and Vietnamese??! (for a native English speaker like me;))

 

[just trying my “reasonable” not perfectionistic best…to expand my abilities to better communicate with fellow-breathing-fragile-life in my  local community and elsewhere.]

 

7/12/17 @ 12:09 p.m.

 

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Pressure Cooker

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Do You ever feel
inadequate? or not quite skilled enough
for the raw thrown at You??

(reality) pressure points..most of us have them..(feel them, eh?)

the minor and MAJOR momentary (seemingly relentless) challenges..(the circumstances, etc/the pot we find ourselves in)

key?…not reaching my boiling point! (or is it: finding contentment in chaos)

the refining process…(of clay life underway)

is a pressurized person tender/sterilized?…(clean spiritually speaking)

my simple symbolism…letting off a little steam.

Do i need a cup of tea?…this morning..(and better metaphors;)
(feeling poured out?)

cultivating self-control? not gonna raise my voice…just my words, huh?

3/24/17 @ 9:47 a.m.

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Recycle Day

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YAY!:) it’s recycle day! aka Thursday..(yeah, i’m probably the only weirdo;) on my block…who gets pumped UP to see the recycle truck stopping in front of my house taking my recyclables away!-Hooray; i LOVE organization.) Usually over-stuff my GIANT bin (when in the middle of organizing projects aka simplifying my life) and this morning, it wouldn’t close and alas, some bottles failed to make it in the truck spilling on the grass.  (UGH!, was hoping everything would go.) Scooped them up and bottles will wait in the bin till…(or IF my kids find some creative use before next week).

oh yeah, joanie’s ostensibly making small talk…how else do you (politely/tactfully/indirectly) get around to the BIG talk?!…and/or get mind off of big grief/worries/stress/concerns, etc?

FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN DO

(not sweating the big stuff while fretting over the small stuff?!;)

BIG stuff…

will my new kitty make it? will my old friend (cousin) make it?

will the planet make it?

will my oldest daughter make it? (safely…in time…to pick up my youngest from school.)

etc.

etc,

etc.,

will i make it?

PEACE!:)

 

 

10/27/16 @ 2:57 p.m.

 

 

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Thinking about: What, Where and Who?

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I was thinking about…

THINKING about

–You :)–

and then thought

NO!

Why let myself/my mind/my heart…..go……………………………………………………….there/their

to (a) place(s)

i “may” never come back from

A L I V E

(emotionally or otherwise)

though

believe me please (aka it’s true)

when

i

say

I WOULD DIE FOR YOU and

probably/potentially (already) am

s~l~o~w~l~y (and otherwise)

of (a)

broken/mostly MENDED Heart…

THANK GOD…i am FIXED!…as in: (according to an on-line identity/description/definition of “fixed”)

fastened, attached, or placed so as to be firm and not readily movable; firmly implanted;
rendered stable or permanent, as color.
set or intent upon something; steadily directed: a fixed stare.
definitely and permanently placed: a fixed buoy; a fixed line of defense.
not fluctuating or varying; definite: a fixed purpose.
(You know: “eyes on the prize”)

i can only

L O V E

for now…(and)

HOPE  FULLY

in fixing/healing

You/Others…then!

when

i’m a fully functioning mind:  (aka absolute compassion (among other things))

(!HALLELUJAH!)

this is what i’m thinking:

“Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste/pure, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well-spoken-of, whatever things are virtuous, and whatever things are praiseworthy, continue considering/or thinking about/meditating on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)

Plus, the fresh air and sunshine is my disinfectant/(healer) as well:  recently read this in Awake! March 2015 excerpt: (my highlights)

 The World Health Organization (WHO) recognizes that natural ventilation, which includes outside air flowing through a building, is important for infection control. Indeed, WHO guidelines published in 2009 encourage use of such natural ventilation as an effective measure in reducing the risk of infection at health-care facilities.

Studies conducted at a United Kingdom Ministry of Defence site provide some answers. Scientists there were trying to establish how long the air would remain dangerous if a biological weapon armed with harmful bacteria were exploded over London. To determine the viability of airborne pathogens, the researchers anchored E. coli microorganisms to threads of spider silk and exposed them to the open air. The experiment was performed at night, since it was known that sunlight kills these bacteria. What were the results?

Some two hours later, nearly all the bacteria were dead. Yet, when the bacteria were kept in a closed box in the same location and at the same temperature and humidity, most of them were still alive past the two-hour mark. Why? Evidently, something about being in the open air kills germs. This so-called open-air factor has not been clearly identified. However, researchers point to a compound that occurs naturally in open air and that “acts as a natural disinfectant against pathogens or germs that lurk in the atmosphere.”

Sunlight also has natural disinfecting properties. The Journal of Hospital Infection explains that “the majority of microbes that cause airborne infections cannot tolerate sunlight.

 My beloved/(country) grandma, resting in PEACE, Ella Mae Love-Wil—-, liked/sang this song & it (always) reminds me of Her (and Other Loved Ones! and my (long-gone) city youth and past New Hampshire Mountain family (camping) vacations)!

 

 

(published 12/30/14 @ 11:43 a.m.)

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