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Musings of a Mother

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Peaceful Greeting(s) Fellow-Earthling(s):)

Thanks:) for making my post a part of Your day. Yes, I am a Mother…of four offspring…specifically teenagers! Some musings to follow. (My time constraints–today–do not allow for me to give the necessary attention/focus to writing all of these musings swirling in my mind. I may or may not turn this post into a series of connected content.)

From my limited-personal-point-of-view: it seems a lot of us, Earthlings, like to label/identify ourselves by our higher and/or highest values of which we feel proud…(parents or not or mature or not/younger and older alike). The parenting project/my particular parenting project is a shared endeavor with my husband of 27 years (we became parents by surprise about 8 years in)…an/one important work of mine in progress which initially seemed entailed 20 years…on average?! is one I DO NOT WANT TO FAIL!;(

Like any on the job training (kind of) position…there is learning curve and ups and downs, eh? The first kid is the guinea pig. I was the guinea pig in my family. What has helped guide this daunting process, for me, has been timeless and relevant ancient wisdom (e.g., Biblical).

In some ways, these are abnormal times in which we all live with normal parenting concerns/anxieties…aka trying to survive/thrive..do your best with what you got to work with. Do abnormal times call for unconventional or conventional parenting skills??…the parenting plan/purpose–well-adjusted, healthy-well-functioning physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually high-functioning mature, superlatively-educated, selfless, interdependent adult whom will contribute positively to community/society/brotherhood of humanity…may take longer than 20 years..eh?!;)

Seriously, at 49 years, i still have lots to learn…as Mother, Wife, Friend, Human, (etc. the uncapitalized..(pun? intended))…whatever other label(s) suit(?) me. My clothing of choice is agape love…as well as trying to dress in mildness and humility, meekness and self-control. (Writings, interactions and communications with kids and adults is like weather! You/One can be the hurricane, tornado, windstorm, rainstorm, dark cloud or ray of sunshine, rainbow, cool breeze, gentle/refreshing dew drop.)

the Doo-Wop…music to any situation…or writing…we all can add love.:) Musical tastes differ…as well as parenting styles.

IDK, may be? we all need a “monotone” message of “love” to keep humanity on happy track.

Is parenting more effective when it/(the process) is a selfless-labor-of-love?!…and not excluding tough love neither.

At times–it’s quite difficult to put your own feelings/preferences aside–as Mother–in pursuit of best interests for my child. To be an effective/good? mother means i need to be less selfish. My kids’ need to learn/grow…and say about environment/ecosystem here in Florida. I hate snakes, my kids don’t. Will i allow my hate for snakes to override/ruin their relationship with snakes?

My peculiar set of worries/anxieties…of course, the parenting course…have impacted my teens. Am trying to keep it to a minimum. Striking the balance of helping them be aware of danger of i.e. snakes (including more important concerns)…respecting…snakes, life, love, family, community…choices and consequences, etc. both positives and negatives..at the same time acknowledging, we, parents cannot take (a) kid(s) and drop him/her off at the ocean without any preparation or swimming lessons…and expect them to float and not drown nor be eaten/bitten by sharks!!

Is parenting primarily life guard?! 

So many (mind boggling?) variables can shape our parenting styles. I tend to declutter or edit (meaning i despise complicated so-called solutions to simple problems)…living and parenting, to me, boils down to learning (simply?!;)) to be less selfish everyday! When each of us, parent and child, learn to put others’ interests ahead of our own…we tend to make wiser-longer-sighted-positive choices…that benefit more than self…in the moment. (A life time is more than moments…or more moments make up a life span.)

As a spiritually-minded parent, I have always tried putting spiritual things/endeavors first…meaning also: have attempted to instill “spiritual” over material values in my kids…this excerpted reading explains some of my reasons why much better than i can articulate:

17. Why is the life of those who make no room for the Creator not truly meaningful?

17 Contrast this with what people have who, even though not being morally corrupt, make no room for the Creator in their lives. They may have the honor and the material possessions that they desire, perhaps find a measure of satisfaction in helping the needy and enjoy cultural activities and wholesome pleasures. Yet, they must admit the inescapable fact that nothing in this world has any real permanence. No one is immune to accidents, disease or death. Possessions will neither protect against these things nor can they be taken along when life ends. (Psalm 49:6-20; Ecclesiastes 5:13-15; 8:8) Well-meaning efforts to help fellow humans may come to frustration because of unfavorable circumstances. So it might well be asked: How meaningful can a life be if the ultimate future it offers is just the grave? How can it be good if it actually works against a person’s eternal future?​—Compare Ecclesiastes 1:11, 15, 18; 2:10, 11; 9:11, 12. [excerpted reading: Making the Right Choice: Choosing the Best Way of Life, Chapter 1, pp. 11-12]

Sticky note Scripture:

Do nothing out of contentiousness or out of egotism, but with humility*(or lowliness of mind) consider others superior to you, 4 as you look out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3, 4)

Questions for reflections:

as parent, partner, friend, fellow-breathing-fragile-life aka human:

am i contentious or egotistical?

am i humble?

am i willing to learn from Others (including younger life and older life)…meaning do i have the mindset that Others are superior to me?

am i just looking out for my own best interests?

am i looking out for the best interests of Others?

how will being less selfish help…any/all situations/interactions/communications/relationships/circumstances??

 

11/03/18 @ 2:28 p.m.

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hate and murder…OUCH! tough? topics

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Humans’ laws…do they get to the root of a problem? Can they rid us of hate? Can they stop murder?

IDK, couple weeks back?…was meaning to write on this topic, but i have a lot swirling in my brain and in my life…Yeah, i do have a life…(outside of this post/writing time)…major and minor responsibilities every day of which to tend…conscientiously. Plus, (too) long (for this post) story short, not always able to access computer for writing lately…my favorite device died-UGH!!:( …and haven’t made time nor opportunity to figure out/nor fix/resurrect my surface. i hate (aka strongly dislike) technology fails..especially when i am in an about to crash-wave of ultra-busyness and no-time-to-stop-or-i-may-drown…No, i am not putting my full confidence in technology! NOPE.;)

Enough explaining…(and complaining;)…back to topic under consideration/discussion: an oldie excerpt for reading: (my blue highlights)

God’s Word also counsels us not to cherish resentment, not to carry “internalized hatreds” around with us. It tells us that to ‘hate our brother is to be a murderer and that no murderer will gain eternal life.’ “You must not hate your brother in your heart.” “Let not the sun set with you in a provoked state.” (1 John 3:15; Lev. 19:17; Eph. 4:26NW) Hostility or personal hatred is actually a form of rebellion. It represents a desire to punish another, to work injury. It is unwilling to wait upon Jehovah to make an accounting but wants to take the law into its own hands. Note how this is brought to our attention in Moses’ law, which, by the way, also shows us what the remedy is: “You must not take vengeance nor have a grudge against the sons of your people; and you must love your fellow as yourself.” Rather than returning kind for kind we are instructed, “Continue to love your enemies, to do good to those hating you, to bless those cursing you.”—Lev. 19:18;Luke 6:27, 28NW. [Scriptural Aspect of Psychosomatic Medicine W 1954, 4/15 p. 236]

When we refuse to forgive a friend or enemy…it’s damaging to ourselves. Jesus and Moses get to the root of murder…a hateful/vengeful attitude/grudge/disposition toward someone…(not talking toward the something aka hurtful/bad/wrong behavior of said someone)…some who take the law into their own hands…act worse than the so-called perpetrator.  And IF we maintain/harbor a hate toward the someone say in our life…we may just cut off communication and association with said person…in effect…making them dead to us.

No communicating/associating with…the dead, eh?!

And honestly communicating before resentment and hatred take over a relationship…keep it a live…living…working on peace.

Work is life.

The scriptures have been a true friend to me…offering wise words…keeping me healthy…on a multi-wellness path. (God, i am such a geek!! an outsider to some)

this post is not how i planned it…(i’m tired, etc., etc., etc.)…You know what???

stop reading my post(s)…and start reading the Bible…(it’s written MUCH better and MORE worth Your time).

peace

BYE

10/1/18 @ 9:09 p.m.

p.s.

bye

 

 

 

 

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Balking and handling…
(gently & patiently)

It’s Friday, what else am i gonna do?? Change my attitude?!(insert (or is lose)…snarky/sarcastic tone)

Another Day of the Week?…Nah, liv-ing Friday!

7/20/18 @ 3:12 p.m.

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Haiti on my mind. 🙁

My Brother in my heart. <3 (and Friends also)

Port-Au-Prince protests…smoke, fire, bloodshed:(…pillaging—over fuel prices!!

Guess, i have built up a (large?) measure of immunity/(reliance on God)…against worrying too much about his welfare/life through the years (of civil unrest, political upheavals, mudslides, hurricanes, earthquakes, violence…starvation, kidnappings, high-jackings)…you name it awful ings…there and elsewhere…keeping ALL including my Beautiful Sis-in-law in my prayers tonight.

Plus, focusing on the positives…the you name it Incredible happenings there!:) through the years…also.

a quote from book “Happiness Walks on Busy Feet”

“You’ll be happier if you’ll give people a bit of your heart rather than a piece of your mind.”

7/10/18 @ 1:26 a.m. word count 116…tear count (?)

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