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Frustration(s)

? (aka IDK) may be a tad of an over-achiever (ah)…(insert my accent)…daily intentions don’t mean (=) always equate daily definites…but i will look on the bright side…though i’m NOT afraid of teh dark.

there’s always the moon & stars
(Nevah Giving UP!!)

tired talkers don’t care about spelling and gramma..(Yes, DUH!:) i care about my grandmother RIP)

a friend told me this illustration to cheer me up one day…something about needlepoint and all the work involved and all the pretty colored thread…and from one side… the top, it looks beautiful/organized, etc…turn it over, the bottom…the thread is chaos/knots and a mess.

the process…work in progress…stitching the stitches

High vantage point…big pic

(and NO! i am not going to sit here an elaborate, explain the meaning of this post/ i am not gonna waste my time or yours…well, IF there is a yours…no presumptions about readers, huh?)

想想
Xiǎng xiǎng

to think…

5/3/17 @11:00 p.m.

 

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Same Old Stuff

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3.27.15 Rainy Day Pick Up

“A Rainy Day Pick Up!” (Let me explain.)
When it’s a stormy/rainy day–there’s a particular procedure to pick the kids up from school safely. (Here in FL we get torrential.)

The girls and i still got drenched, soaked to the bone sorta (with 1 see-through-clear umbrella and 2 hoodies, blue and pink). However, We made it!…safely to the car; our destination, a block or so away…actually, the short ride home was uneventful traffic-wise which was a surprise. (And what’s a few minutes of being wet?? Nothing! to complain about)…Snuggly-warm in my dry clothes/pants now.  i gotta thing for pockets…(since spraining my ankle a while back:World Mental Health Day: When the Caregiver is a Child)…and how fortunate am i to have: “Very” generous friends that constantly pass on/give me stuff…like these a&f pants: navy blue, khaki, front-hand and side-button and back-side…perfect pockets (6 of ’em) lol. Usually, i’m in skirts and dresses/dress clothes A LOT/frequently/most days.  (odd i know)…to be raving on about my pocket pants. Now what’s in my pockets?…(hmmmmm, me to know;) Yeah, i’m a geek..uh-huh, do own a “pocket” bible.

We all need a rainy day “pick up” aka a particular procedure that keeps us safe say…from drowning in disappointment. From time to time who hasn’t felt disappointed with themselves/(i.e.unfinished, mountainous, projects hanging over my head) or disappointed with somebody else or over something??

Excerpts:  You can be Happy despite disappointments w08: (my highlights)

Jehovah God focused, not on the problem, but on the solution.

God’s Word encourages us to focus on positive things rather than on what might have been or what we should have done. It says: “Whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well spoken of, whatever virtue there is and whatever praiseworthy thing there is, continue considering these things.”—Philippians 4:8.

Many of us tend to exaggerate the negative when we experience disappointment.

It is easy for us to react with bitter resentment when people disappoint us.

Disappointments can be viewed as necessary experience along the way to ultimate success.

“Time and unforeseen occurrence” befall us all, states God’s Word. (Ecclesiastes 9:11) All of a sudden, a crime, an accident, or a disease can bring great distress—and disappointment. The Bible also says: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick.” (Proverbs 13:12) Eager anticipation of something good fills us with joy, but if it is not soon realized, we may feel a depressing sense of letdown.

Similarly, faithful King Jehoshaphat erred when he formed an alliance with God’s enemies. Jehovah’s prophet said: “For this there is indignation against you from the person of Jehovah. Nevertheless, there are good things that have been found with you.” (2 Chronicles 19:2, 3) Jehovah recognized that one mistake did not make Jehoshaphat a traitor. In the same way, we can avoid losing friends if we do not overreact when they err. Friends who disappoint us may still have fine qualities.

Other “reasonable” readings:

With the fast pace of life today, the more we try to keep up, the further we seem to fall behind. Demands on our time and energy can be unrelenting, and when we fail to get done what we set out to do, there is a tendency to come down on ourselves. We could even begin to feel as though we are letting others down.

Unreasonably high expectations easily turn into perfectionism, and this can be most frustrating. Ben, a young married man, confesses: “When I examine my actions, thoughts, or feelings, I always see how they could have been better. I am constantly looking for perfection, and this leads to impatience, frustration, and disappointment.” Gail, a Christian wife, says: “Perfectionist thinking does not allow for failure. We want to be supermoms and superwives. We have to be productive to be happy, so wasted effort irritates us.”

Yet another factor that can lead to personal disappointment is deteriorating health and old age. Diminished mobility and energy magnify our limitations and add to feelings of frustration. “I felt impatient with myself for not being able to accomplish things that were so easy and natural before I got sick,” acknowledges Elizabeth.

The foregoing is a sampling of what can trigger feelings of disappointment. Left unchecked, such feelings can even lead us to believe that we are not appreciated by others.

[..]remember that Jehovah is reasonable and understanding. Psalm 103:14 reminds us: “He himself well knows the formation of us, remembering that we are dust.” Knowing our capabilities and limitations, Jehovah expects from us only what we are able to give. And one thing he does ask of us is “to be modest in walking with [our] God.”—Micah 6:8.

The consequences of perfectionist thinking are well summed up in the adage: “To expect life to be tailored to our specifications is to invite frustration.” To avoid this, an adjustment in thinking is required. Humility and modesty—having a realistic view of our limitations—will most certainly nurture in us balanced and reasonable expectations.

Cultivating reasonable expectations can help us cope with frustrations and disappointments. Excerpts: Why Be Reasonable in Our Expectations? w00

i was taught expect nothing–appreciate everything!:) Just making rainy day (positive pick up) thinking adjustments…like changing my wet clothes…for dry, fun ones.

Focusing on the Positives:

YAY!:) and i was on time today like all day!…(despite it all, eh?)

(published 3.27.15 @8:49 p.m.)

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Mushy, Moshy Minds and Violent Sneezes

i am sick. The kind of sick that takes you down (and away, sadly, from all your work/responsibilities). (Which isn’t easy for somebody like me who enJOYS work & usually pushes through/works through it/sickness/stresses.) Keeps you in bed 2 days straight with fever, aches/pains/chills/shakes and violent sneezes (and coughs)…jarring and contracting and leaving my entire 117 lb. body listless. These violent sneezes (that my kids describe as shrilly screams)…are like seizures that take over and i can’t help but surrender to…the rapid-fire like a machine gun…that hasn’t run out of ammo for 2 days.

Today, i’m feeling better: THANK GOD!:) i’m NOT sneezing as frequently, i’m coughing: OUCH!…just hurting…and THANKFUL!:) No matter what any of us go through..it’s temporary & there are always things for which to be thankful and grateful.

Here’s my short sneezy list:

1. TREES! aka box of tissues…(trying not to use too many).

2. My comfy bed & pillow on which to be sick! (i know there are many out there that don’t have a bed or pillow nor any comfort nor any tissues. i.e. Jarina & Daughter: The Homeless & The Car-less & The Less/Lessness of Life.)

3. My kids’ ages and that They and Daddy can get a long (a little while) without my total involvement/participation in everything they do. (I’ve endured/managed caring for babies/young ones while being very sick in the past.) THANKFUL for Hubby & Kids helping me & letting me rest (aka leaving me be a little). (Sometimes, it’s difficult to be loved…(and/or hated, eh?) some one always demands/wants/needs something from you most moments…you’re presence, time, energy, thoughts, involvement, etc.)

4. Comforting words: promises from a person who is incapable of lieing (aka Yahweh/God of unending Compassion)

“And no resident will say: “I am sick.” The people dwelling in the land will be pardoned for their error.” (Isaiah 33:24)
and is based on a hope of the everlasting life that God, who cannot lie, promised long ago;” (Titus 1:2)

p.s. IF my decision making is wishy-washy is that indicative of a mushy-moshy mind?!

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Atom Smashing IS Heart Healing

Books, books and more books. Authors, authors and more authors.

Clever humans can write books that only “wise and intellectual ones” can grasp. But to author a book that can be understood only by those having the right heart motivation—that takes the wisdom of God!—Matthew 11:25.

What is my heart motivation? (only i can “honestly” answer myself, eh?)

 The way in which the Bible is written serves to test what is in our heart. Hebrews 4:12 says: “The word [or, message] of God is alive and exerts power and is sharper than any two-edged sword and pierces even to the dividing of soul and spirit . . . and is able to discern thoughts and intentions of the heart.”…

(to me, joanie, sounds like the ultimate atom smasher, eh?…to divide thoughts of the brain and intentions of the heart!)

When physicists first began using accelerators in the 1950s and1960s, they discovered hundreds of particles smaller than the three well-known subatomic particles — protons, neutrons and electrons. As bigger accelerators were built, ones that could provide higher energy beams, more particles were found. Most of these particles exist for only fractions (less than a billionth) of a second, and some particles combine to form more stable composite particles. Some particles are involved in the forces that hold the nucleus of the atom together, and some are not. In examining this complicated picture, a standard model of the atom has emerged.

According to this model, matter can be divided into the following building blocks:

  • Fermions – subatomic particles that make known matter and antimatter matter leptons – elementary particles that do not participate in holding the nucleus together (examples – electron, neutrino) quarks – elementary particles that do participate in holding the nucleus together anti-matter – counter-particles of quarks and leptons (anti-quarks, anti-leptons)
  • Hadrons – composite particles (examples – proton, neutron)
  • Bosons – particles that carry forces (four known types) excerpted: How Atom Smashers Work by Craig Freudenrich, Ph.D.

The Bible’s message pierces deep, revealing our true thinking and motives. Those who read it with a critical heart are often stumbled by accounts that do not contain enough information to satisfy them.

When you write a letter to a loved one, there is only so much you can include. So you use discretion in choosing what to write. Likewise, Jehovah God chose to mention certain individuals and events in his Word. But in these descriptive accounts, the Bible does not always spell out all the details. (John 21:25) For example, when the Bible tells of God’s judgment, the information provided may not answer our every question. Jehovah’s wisdom is seen even in what he chose to leave out of his Word. (excerpts: Draw Close to God, chptr 18: The Wisdom in the Word of God…my highlights)

Do i have to spell it/(smash it) out for Ya??;)

Love letters are usually understood by the people in love…the quarky…i mean quirky language, the nuanced words, etc., etc., the symbolism…basically, those with a pure/sincere/humble heart aka right heart motivation and o-p-e-n mind…understand the (deep) message of the Bible or aka the truth of its loving content/context (and benefit by its application)…which has been described by some as a letter of love w/instructions…(from a Heavenly Father to His Children) to help them grow to spiritual maturity/succeed/live long. They would then take this “heart” message of love/peace and share/show/demonstrate/teach TRUE love to all!:)

LOVE behaves/is: humble/patient/forgiving, etc.

What if we were to think that we are better than others because of our [..] abilities or privileges or because of the failures and weaknesses of others? We should quickly dismiss such thoughts, for the Scriptures say: “Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offence. Love keeps no score of wrongs; does not gloat over other men’s sins, but delights in the truth.”—1 Cor. 13:4-6, The New English Bible. (excerpt: Watch Out for the Leaven of the Pharisees)

What is the “quality”/(particles) of my love and what is it building/what is it smashing?!

(published 1/12/2015 @ 6:34 p.m.)

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Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr: It’s COLD

Hats off (i mean hats on) to all You BRAVE hearts enduring the bitterly cold weather (wherever and in whatever form it takes)!!:) This is a (semi) cold morning for us folks here in Florida. Listening to “winter” ish wind whip up (as i compose this piece) brings me back to my New England weather days (except i’m missing snow). AND…Where’s the hot coco?:)

Getting the little girls off to school this morning…puttering down the road in a cold car with cold engine (for the first time in years) got me thinking/asking: am i spoiled/complacent now by mild weather conditions these past 13 years?? It’s good my kids are getting to experience a tiny taste of what life is like for those of us who do not have (our) circumstances of living in tropical paradise.

We are all products of our conditioning: extreme or other…our minds and bodies molded. Who, what, where, why and when…has or is molding our thinking, doing, living, weathering??

The media/governments/religions/big businesses of this world exert MUCH influence over many…are we accepting, conforming and being controlled, molded into something (for the powers that be) to utilize/exploit/abuse, etc?!

Some stuff i’ve read & have encouraged my kids/teens to think about:

Ask yourself: ‘Does the way I dress, act, and speak really reflect who I am, or am I merely mimicking the stereotype I see depicted in the media?’

  “And stop being molded by this system of things, but be transformed by making your mind over, so that you may prove to yourselves the good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12:2)
  • any who think they’re carving out their own identity are merely conforming to an identity that’s been handed to them.“I see it in my little sister,” says a young woman named Karen. “She pretends not to care about anything but clothes and boys. She’s smart, and I know that she has other interests, but she plays dumb because she thinks that’s the only way she can be like ‘all the other girls.’ And she’s only 12!”

    The stereotype does not reflect what all teenage girls want to be. “In the media, girls are shown as self-obsessed, ditzy, and prone to do immature things, but I think most of us have fairly good judgment,” says 15-year-old Alexis. “We have other things in our lives besides daydreaming about some cute guy.”

    The Bible says: “Mature people . . . have their powers of discernment trained to distinguish both right and wrong.”—Hebrews 5:14.

  • Stereotyping serves the interests of marketers—not those of teen girls. Recognizing the potential for profit, powerful industries—including publishing, fashion, technology, and entertainment—start targeting young people before they reach their teens. “Advertisers suggest tweens who don’t have the latest clothes, jewelry, makeup, and electronic products won’t be popular,” says the book 12 Going on 29. “Tweens see seductive commercials on a constant basis, even before they understand what the seduction is about.” `excerpt: Why Reject the Media Stereotype?—Part 1: For Girls

 Not only do powerful industries, governments, etc…want us all (younger and older) to hand over our power/our pocket books, but our minds and bodies too…NO THANKS…i’m NOT BUYING…(nor selling)…

While trying to keep warm…aka ALIVE! Where’s my hat?:)

 

(published 1/8/15 @ 10:42 a.m.)

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Anti-Torture Tactics

It’s super sad to become aware of any form of abuse (aka: wanton disrespect or crimes against compassion) toward fellow-breathing-fragile-life!:(

Torture–a terrible topic…1 on-line dictionary description: “torture”

: the act of causing severe physical pain as a form of punishment or as a way to force someone to do or say something

: something that causes mental or physical suffering : a very painful or unpleasant experience anguish of body or mind :  agony

:  the infliction of intense pain (as from burning, crushing, or wounding) to punish, coerce, or afford sadistic pleasure
Compassion–a terrific topic…1 on-line dictionary description: “compassion”
Compassion denotes a sympathetic awareness of another’s suffering or adversity combined with a desire to alleviate it. Like the warm rays of the bright sun, compassion can soothe a distressed life, lessen pain, and lift the spirits of an afflicted person.
Questions for Consideration: Do i/we live under a compassionate government? Am i/we pledging allegiance to a compassionate government? Am i/we ultimately supporting torture or compassion by our choices? (Am i/we promoting peace?)
Bad/non-compassionate government(s) can certainly break bones…literally…however, good/compassionate government can break bones while not breaking bones…
Because of the strong construction of bones, Proverbs 25:15 says concerning the power of patience and kind words to overcome stiff, firm opposition: “By patience a commander is won over, And a gentle/mild tongue can break a bone.” ~excerpt: Insight on Scriptures: Bones (Further related reading please see: Breaking (bad/hard) bones without breaking bones: it’s Silly Putty!
All of us have some power/influence over others…unloving the way some choose to coerce others into cooperation by means/methods of torture.  Current media events/times cause me to ask: (my choices (can) speak loudly): are my choices/words screaming: “Torture!” or ANTI-TORTURE!”  
Can’t we all employ anti-torture tactics: (my highlights)
Compassion has the power to maintain harmony and to contribute to the resolving of conflict or friction. It helps to clear up misunderstandings, and it paves the way for forgiveness. Misunderstandings may occur because we do not always express our thoughts or feelings as we wish we had, or our actions might be misinterpreted. Here compassion comes to the rescue and helps to preserve peace. It is easy to forgive a person who is known for being compassionate. Compassion helps us to measure up to Paul’s counsel: “Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely if anyone has a cause for complaint against another.”—Colossians 3:13.~excerpt: Become Tenderly Compassionate w 07
We are all traveling in (this) life…some of us are driving really broken-down cars with toxic emissions (aka: ways of thinking/living/doing that impede/hinder/slow down our compassion growth which endanger/hurt/kill ourselves and others)…
Whatcha driving??

  (a compassion car driving safe?) Going my way? GREAT!🙂
published 12/15/14 @ 12:05 p.m.
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Breaking (bad/hard) bones without breaking bones: it’s Silly Putty!

bones, bones, bones…(may be? a boney -lol joanie is the “right” fragile-life/person to be discussing bones, eh?)
ever break a bone??  yeah!…as a kid in middle school…my left shoulder…had to wear a sling for a while. Shoulder? odd. (It’s all in the landing…baby.)

Engineering Connection-on-line excerpt:

When designing devices, engineers must understand how the materials that they select will react to the forces that the devices encounter. Since some materials are viscoelastic, engineers must know which materials these are and understand their behaviors. Bioengineers also study biological materials and how they function in healthy and diseased states. Biological materials are viscoelastic so bioengineers must understand viscoelastic behavior to fully characterize the behavior of these materials. As part of the process, engineers must also understand the environments in which their devices will operate to ensure effective and successful performance. For example, if designing a device to operate on viscoelastic materials in the human body, an engineer must understand and take into consideration how that environment will react to the forces imposed by the device.
Forces, devices, environment…viscous and elastic…stress, strain….silly, uh-huh…putty in your hands.  So, silly putty is fun to play with and useful. (My oldest daughter is the inspiration for this post…she made it the other day–all on her own.)
(You punch it–it hardens…You patiently/gently massage it and…it’s movable, flexible, pliable putty in your hands.)

i know, i’m (being) a “silly” 😉 girl making (corny) jokes out of important topics…seriously, we are living material…we all exhibit viscoelastic behavior…as fragile-life…(patience and gentleness is always necessary (and for effective communication)) and a little humor helps!

i LOVE this scientific and spiritual scripture:
A mild tongue . . . can break a bone.” Proverbs 25:15 
“Contrary to popular perceptions, mildness has strengthA mild answer, for example, can overcome opposition that seems as hard and inflexible as bone, perhaps because of anger or prejudice. To be sure, it can be a challenge to display mildness, especially in a heated situation. So think about the benefits of doing what the Bible says and the possible consequences of not doing so.”
excerpt: Wisdom of the Tongue
breaking bones (aka opposition, anger or prejudice)…”simple”, huh? Takes mildness, silly. 🙂
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Straws & Sticks

straws & sticks??…
i’ve been studying…(what else is new joanie?..do that everyday;) well, i was at a morning educational workshop for parents at my girls’ school…on “Increasing Thinking Skills Through Higher Level Questions…
“Traditional thinking is all about “what is” — Future thinking will also need to be about “what can be”.~Edward de Bono
i like that thinking…of:  what can be…Be-ing?
Questions..i love them & (i don’t mind answering them)…or “attempting” to find satisfactory/logical/reasonable/makes sense…answers.
May be IF ? all of us asked more questions…higher level ?s…we would find higher level answers! Could that lead to higher level living?!
Today, i’ve been “thinking” yep!…i do that too;)…about justice. Read this:
for with the judgment you are judging, you will be judged, and with the measure that you are measuring out, they will measure out to you. 3 Why, then, do you look at the straw in your brother’s eye but do not notice the rafter in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Allow me to remove the straw from your eye,’ when look! a rafter is in your own eye? 5Hypocrite! First remove the rafter from your own eye, and then you will see clearly how to remove the straw from your brother’s eye.
(Matthew 7:1-5)
With a rafter in our eye… seeing is distorted/twisted/negative/critical/limited/limiting/unhealthy (insert any description you like)…as a parent, i’ve thought about: IF i see something negative/undesirable/offensive…in my kid’s behavior/speech, etc….i ask: did my kid learn that from me? what can i change/modify (about myself first) that could better exemplify a “positive” trait (e.g., kindness or compassion or forgiveness, industriousness, etc.) i would like to see displayed in my kid’s behavior/speech, etc..
Thinking about: “what can be” : healthy relationships w/everyone (including parents and kids):
Why should we not be quick to look for the faults in our fellow-fragile-life?
 How can our daily interactions benefit by removing the big stick from our own eye?
A rafter can be a support beam of wood…”A straw could be a small piece of grass. A rafter, on the other hand, is a bulky length of timber used to hold up the roof of a house.”
IF we choose to solely focus on the negative, aggravating, or offensive traits found in any one of us...relationships suffer/die…& who can carry a rafter or rafters (and continuously for a long length of time?)!
When we choose to focus on: the positive, good, wonderful traits found in any of us…relationships flourish/grow/live.
How can each of us keep our relationships/family/friends…alive & healthy? (Choosing straws?) everybody wins (at the game of compassion!) 🙂
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