My kitty-cat’s ears are cold! (poor smudgey wudgey!)
i have the privileged task of… like lol 🙂 How do you warm-up a cat’s ears??!… no, this is a “serious” question–though i am chuckling while typing this. 🙂
(topic of needed research, huh?… not a “typical” concern here in usually balmy Florida)
The poor animals/children here are not physically equipped for these sudden-snap cold temps.
He’s purring and i am massaging his ears… my middle daughter wrapped his head in tissue… my oldest daughter, who loves to sew and knit,…will ask her to make him a kitty-friendly hat!!🙂
Life Story as told by Antonio Jiménez: “The Streets Became My Home”
Some people take a long time to learn from their own bitter experiences. I was like that. I was born and raised in Barcelona, the second-largest city in Spain. My family lived in an area called Somorrostro, which occupied a large section of the city’s beachfront. Somorrostro had a reputation for crime and drug dealing.
My parents had nine children, and I was the eldest. Because we were very poor, my father sent me to work as a ball boy at a local tennis club. I was ten years old and worked for ten hours each day. As a result, I could not go to school like most children my age. When I was 14, I began working as a machinist at a metal shop.
In 1975, I was called up for military service, which was mandatory in Spain. I wanted to do something adventurous with my life, so I volunteered to join the Spanish Foreign Legion in Melilla, a Spanish enclave in North Africa. During that time, I plunged into the sordid world of drug and alcohol abuse.
When I left the Legion, I returned to Barcelona and formed a gang. We stole anything we could lay our hands on. We would then sell the stolen items for money to finance our drug addiction. I started taking LSD and amphetamines, and I immersed myself in a life of sex, alcohol, and gambling. This destructive lifestyle led me to become more and more violent. I always carried a knife, an ax, or a machete, and I was never afraid to use one of them if it seemed necessary.
On one occasion, my gang and I stole a car and were chased by the police. It was like a scene out of a movie. We drove the stolen vehicle for about 30 kilometers (20 mi), until the police started shooting at us. Finally, our driver crashed the car, and we all ran from the scene. When my father found out, he understandably threw me out of the house.
For the next five years, the streets became my home. I slept in doorways, in trucks, on park benches, and in graveyards. I even lived for a while in a cave. My life had no purpose whatsoever, and I felt that it did not matter whether I was alive or dead. I remember cutting my wrists and arms under the influence of drugs. I retain the scars to this day.
Change & Transformation/New Beginnings…
When I was 28, my mother came looking for me and asked me to return home. I agreed and promised her that I would straighten out my life, but it took me a while to fulfill that promise.
One afternoon, two of Jehovah’s Witnesses called at our door. As I was listening to them, my father yelled from inside the house that I should shut the door in their faces. As I never liked taking orders, I decided to ignore him. They offered me three small books, which I gladly accepted. I asked them where their meeting place was, and a few days later, I turned up outside the Kingdom Hall.
The first thing I noticed was how neatly dressed everybody was. In contrast, I had long hair, a scruffy beard, and shabby clothes. It was evident I did not fit in, so I remained outside the hall. But to my surprise, I recognized a former associate and gang member named Juan, dressed in a suit. I later learned that he had become one of Jehovah’s Witnesses just a year earlier. His presence gave me the confidence I needed to go inside and attend the meeting. That was where it all started to change for me.
I accepted an offer to study the Bible and quickly realized that if I wanted God’s approval, I needed to change my aggressive nature and immoral lifestyle. Making those changes was not easy. I learned that to please Jehovah God, I needed to “be transformed by making [my] mind over.” (Romans 12:2) I was deeply touched by God’s mercy. Despite all my mistakes, I sensed that he was giving me the chance to begin again. What I learned about Jehovah God sank deep into my heart. It became clear to me that there was a Creator who cared for me.—1Peter 5:6, 7.
Moved to Make Changes:
This moved me to start making changes. For example, when the subject of tobacco came up during my Bible study, I said to myself, ‘If Jehovah God wants me to remain clean and undefiled in every sense, then these cigarettes will simply have to go!’ (2 Corinthians 7:1) And into the garbage bin they went!
I also needed to stop using and selling drugs. That took a little more time and effort. To achieve that goal, I knew I had to cut ties with my former associates. Their influence was not helping me to progress spiritually. In time, however, I began to rely more on God and on the help of my new friends in the congregation. Their love for and interest in me as a person was something I had never experienced before. As the months went by, I was finally able to break free from drugs and “put on the new personality,” which would help me to have God’s approval. (Ephesians 4:24) In August 1985, I was baptized as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses.
The Bible gave me a new lease on life. It freed me from a damaging lifestyle that was destroying my body and my dignity. In fact, more than 30 of my former associates died at a young age from AIDS or other drug-related illnesses. How grateful I am that by applying Bible principles, I was able to avoid the same tragic consequences.
The knives and axes that I used to carry as a violent young man are now a thing of the past. I never imagined that one day I would instead be carrying a Bible and using it to help people.
My parents never became Jehovah’s Witnesses, but they appreciated the benefits I received because I studied the Bible. In fact, my father even defended the Witnesses in front of all his colleagues. It was clear to him that my newfound faith had brought about a remarkable change for the better. My mother often said that I should have studied the Bible sooner. I could not agree with her more!
My experiences in life have taught me how senseless it is to seek satisfaction in drugs and other vices. I now get true satisfaction from introducing others to the teachings found in God’s Word—teachings that truly saved my life. [excerpted article: The Bible Changes Lives]
An Observation: mine…
To gain human’s approval… at times means unhealthy activities that are harmful or hurtful causing dignity lost at least or death-dealing at most! (What genuine HOPE can man offer me??)
To gain God’s approval… at times means healthy activities that benefit the mind, heart, and body on a deep wellness level… physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually… a refreshing nourishment of sustaining compassion and real love…a real life!
Divine perspective is an elevated vantage point… it can be breathtakingly beautiful… just try to see:)
Peace & Wellness & Respect & Dignity to You Reader:)
“Living things have done everything we want to do, without guzzling fossil fuel, polluting the planet, or mortgaging their future.” [Notes the book Biomimicry—Innovation Inspired by Nature]
Some years ago, a man well-versed in evolution interviewed people who accepted the theory. He said: “I discovered that most believers of evolution are believers because they have been told that all intelligent people are believers.” Yes, when educated individuals express their atheistic views, others are dissuaded from giving God the credit he deserves as the Creator.—Proverbs 14:15, 18.
Have scientists come to their conclusions because facts and evidence point that way? Hardly! We are surrounded by evidence of a Creator. Regarding him, the apostle Paul wrote: “His invisible qualities are clearly seen from the world’s [mankind’s] creation onward, because they are perceived by the things made, even his eternal power and Godship, so that they [unbelievers] are inexcusable.” (Romans 1:20) The Creator left his imprint on his handiwork. Paul is thus saying that from the start of mankind’s existence, it has been possible for humans to ‘perceive’ evidence of God’s existence by means of the visible creation. Where is this evidence?
We see evidence of God in the starry heavens. “The heavens are declaring the glory of God,” says Psalm 19:1. “The heavens”—the sun, moon, and stars—testify to God’s power and wisdom. The sheer number of stars fills us with awe. And all these heavenly bodies move through space, not aimlessly, but according to precise physical laws. (Isaiah 40:26:
“Lift up your eyes to heaven and see.
Who has created these things?
It is the One who brings out their army by number;
He calls them all by name.
Because of his vast dynamic energy and his awe-inspiring power,
Not one of them is missing”)
Is it reasonable to attribute such order to blind chance? Significantly, many scientists say that the universe had a sudden beginning. Explaining the implications of this, one professor wrote: “A universe that eternally existed is much more congenial to an atheistic or agnostic [view]. By the same token, a universe that began seems to demand a first cause; for who could imagine such an effect without a sufficient cause?”
Do hard heads need hard hats?? 🙂
We also see on the earth evidence of God. The psalmist exclaimed: “How many your works are, O Jehovah! All of them in wisdom you have made. The earth is full of your productions.” (Psalm 104:24) Jehovah’s “productions,” including the animal creation, bespeak his wisdom. […], the design of living things is such that scientists often seek to mimic it. Consider a few other examples. Researchers are studying antlers, with the goal of building stronger helmets; they are looking at a species of fly that has acute hearing, with a view toward improving hearing aids; and they are examining the wing feathers of owls, with the idea of improving stealth airplanes.
Did i realize my heart has eyes??:)
Whether you look at the heavens above or gaze at creation right here on earth, the evidence of a Creator is clear. (Jeremiah 10:12) We should heartily agree with the heavenly creatures who cry out: “You are worthy, Jehovah, even our God, to receive the glory and the honor and the power, because you created all things.” (Revelation 4:11) Yet, many scientists fail to see the evidence with ‘the eyes of their heart,’ even though they may marvel at the design in things they see with the eyes of their body. (Ephesians 1:18) We can illustrate it this way: To admire the beauty and design in nature and deny the existence of a Great Designer is as illogical as admiring a magnificent painting and at the same time denying the existence of the artist who transformed a blank canvas into a masterpiece. (my highlights …excerpted readings: Who are Giving God Glory Today? w 2004)
oh Yeah, i may be a nobody...but these words You are reading right now needed somebody to type, huh?!:)
In my last post Quaking…explored through excerpt (of article) whether belief in the “original” peaceful place on Earth…i.e. Garden of Eden existed. (And whether or not: it’s feasible/reasonable/realistic to believe man “alone” (without say any Divine Intervention in some way) can bring about a united-global-peaceful-paradise-park-like-living-conditions-for-everyone-on-the-planet.)
When the, seemingly solid, ground under your feet shakes…Your view of stability/life/security most likely changes/quakes quickly! Some of us have experienced the fright of a literal earthquake and some of us have experienced frightful quaking of another kind…say emotional or mental. (With all quaking, some sort of damage/death/harm occurs and it takes time to repair/rebuild/heal.) I think it’s healthy to explore our personal belief system(s) to see IF we have “any” solid/secure ground on which to stand/live/build…aka confidently and securely make wise/healthy choices based upon “accurate” aka “solid”-evidence/understanding/actions that lead us to life and not premature death and undue suffering.
Back to the beginning…(my highlights from article: Was There Really a Garden of Eden? W11)
2. Is it really believable that God formed Adam from dust and Eve from one of Adam’s ribs?
Modern science has confirmed that the human body is composed of various elements—such as hydrogen, oxygen, and carbon—all of which are found in the earth’s crust. But how were those elements assembled into a living creature?
Many scientists theorize that life arose on its own, starting with very simple forms that gradually, over millions of years, became more and more complex. However, the term “simple” can be misleading, for all living things—even microscopic single-celled organisms—are incredibly complex. There is no proof that any kind of life has ever arisen by chance or ever could. Rather, all living things bear unmistakable evidence of design by an intelligence far greater than our own.—Romans 1:20.
Can you imagine listening to a great symphony or admiring a brilliant painting or marveling at an achievement of technology and then insisting that these works had no maker? Of course not! But such masterpieces do not even begin to approach the complexity, beauty, or ingenuity of the design of the human body. How could we imagine that it had no Creator? Furthermore, the Genesis account explains that of all life on earth, only humans were made in the image of God. (Genesis 1:26) Fittingly, only humans on earth are capable of reflecting God’s creative drive, at times producing impressive works of music, art, and technology. Should it surprise us that God is far better at creating than we are?
As to creating the woman by using a rib from the man, where is the difficulty in that? God could have used other means, but his manner of making the woman had beautiful significance. He wanted the man and the woman to marry and to form a close bond, as if they were “one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) Is not the way man and woman can complement each other, forming a stable and mutually nourishing bond, powerful evidence of a wise and loving Creator?
Furthermore, modern geneticists have acknowledged that all humans likely descended from only one male and one female. Really, then, is the Genesis account far-fetched?
It takes time, patience and research/effort to explore the beliefs and the beauties of Existence on Earth! Thinking of beautiful/brilliant works of art/music/beauty…found this exquisite piece: enJOY!:)
North, South, East, West…logistics. “How far have we come?”
Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life dwell everywhere; even in remotest parts of this beautiful planet, Earth. (i believe that all Fragile Life need compassion; love and respect. And need an “opportunity” for compassion education to learn true agape love and respect for fellow life.)
i am (and remain) politically neutral! (Staying politically neutral does have its perks, at times/depends on the ever-changing powers-that-be, like potentially living longer (i.e. not being assassinated, etc.) and somewhat controversy-free…to a degree…less stressful? perhaps.)
If You value/respect LIFE: bottom-line: Why support “any” politicians or organizations or religions or mobs that are in one way or another…killing the people and killing the planet (and to promote “their” power/battles for control/votes/man-made dogmas)?!
Are the mountains “better” or more necessary than the oceans??
Is one geographical zone “superior” to another geographical zone??
i grew up in New England. Is New England?…the state of Massachusetts, USA? more important/the best/better than any other place on the planet? to me? No!…except? when it comes to football? –Go Patriots! -lol…just joking.
(highlighted points from a recently read July 2015 article (i didn’t write it–just quoting it) that encourages neutrality)
It is understandable that we might feel some affection for the land, the culture, the language, and the food of the country we were raised in. However, we must avoid the “mine is best” attitude. For our pleasure, Jehovah has created great variety in all things. (Ps. 104:24; Rev. 4:11) So why insist that one way of doing things is superior to another?
People who do not share our faith may feel a special loyalty to their country, tribe, or culture or even to their national sports team. Challenges to such loyalties have resulted in competition and rivalry and, in extreme cases, bloodshed and genocide. The way that people resolve these issues, for better or for worse, might touch us or our families personally because we are inescapably a part of human society. Since God made man with an innate sense of justice, the decisions that human governments make may offend our sense of what is right and fair. (Gen. 1:27; Deut. 32:4) How do we react under such circumstances? It would be all too easy to take sides in worldly issues and be drawn into controversy.
The institutions that govern human society may pressure citizens to take sides in conflicts that arise. […] If you are ever in doubt as to how you ought to behave in any given situation, it would be wise to ask yourself, ‘What would Jesus have done?’The nation in which Jesus lived was made up of people from various regions—Judea, Galilee, Samaria, and others. Bible accounts reveal that there were tensions between people of these different areas. (John 4:9) Tensions also existed between Pharisees and Sadducees (Acts 23:6-9), between the people and the tax collectors (Matt. 9:11), and between those who had received a Rabbinic education and those who had not. (John 7:49) In the first century, Israel was ruled by the Romans, whose presence was deeply resented by the local people. While Jesus championed religious truth […], he never encouraged his disciples to foster rivalries. (John 4:22) On the contrary, he urged them to love all men as their neighbor.—Luke 10:27.
Why did Jesus not endorse common Jewish prejudices? Because neither he nor his Father takes sides in this world’s controversies. When Jehovah […] created man and woman, his intent was that they fill the whole earth. (Gen. 1:27, 28) God designed humans in such a way that they could produce different races. Neither Jehovah nor Jesus exalts one race, nationality, or language above another. (Acts 10:34, 35; Rev. 7:9, 13, 14) We must follow their perfect example.—Matt. 5:43-48.
Has your upbringing or environment exposed you to national or regional loyalties? Do any such feelings still linger in your heart? Christians should not allow nationalistic fervor to taint their view of others. But what if you realize that you do have negative thoughts toward people of other nations, cultures, languages, or races? Then it would certainly be profitable to meditate on how Jehovah views nationalism and prejudice. Researching these and related topics may prove to be a worthwhile project for personal study…
God wants people of all sorts to come to an accurate knowledge of truth and to enjoy everlasting life. (John 3:16; 1 Tim. 2:3, 4) Open-mindedness toward a diversity of acceptable ideas enriches us […]
For me, staying politically neutral…is 1 logical expression of loyalty to compassion. Will partisan allegiances and divisive-prideful-competitive attitudes lead to peaceful interactions/communications world-wide?! or to a global-happy-brotherhood-family? and/or lead to unity-of-humanity?!
i LOVE this ancient verse/song/Psalm:) (and my daughters this adorable video)…
“Look! How good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity!”—Ps. 133:1.
SMILE:) & Hi! Hey! Hi–how’s it going?!…living life as a friendly/(outgoing most days) kinda person can be challenging (and/or risky, eh?) in the land of the unfriendly!
Is readily forthcoming with a (sincere) smile an aggressive act?? (i don’t think so.) Is it off-putting?! (i don’t think so.) What do You think?
Don’t get me wrong: to me: my culture/background/education: a smile or slight grin is “compassion” wear…never without it. Usually, it’s met with a “positive” response :)…(i’m just kinda open-minded for interaction/communication with fellow-fragile-life…most days.) To me, it’s sorta a “respectful” brief acknowledgement of (a) precious life crossing my path.
i get (understand)…communication culture is different everywhere…people are busy,…or fearful or lack trust of so-called strangers…or unhappy or too stressed to smile, etc. (Just wondering: As a whole is society becoming so self-absorbed and/or lacking trust whatsoever that we cannot offer each other a small token of compassion in the form of a small smile?!)
How many people did You smile at today? (i might just do that social experiment and keep track one day..of responses, etc. & who readily smiles at me before i smile at them…goofy, yeah -lol…my kind of fun!)
When You think about it–what we wear…a smile or not…what message does it convey??
anyway, speaking of outer wear…recently from a distance saw in an after-school crowd walking toward me as i was heading in the opposite direction picking up my kids..a person/adult with a t-shirt with bold lettering/colors that read: “I AM a CHILD of the REAL KING!” (talk about messaging? self-branding? advertising? christian? whatever you wanna call it?;)
WOW!!:)…surely, this royal person “might” exhibit some royal “manners” and actually initiate a smile/and/or return a smile..at me?!-lol…alas, NO smile!..i guess, only the (so-called) real children of the real king…get a “real” t-shirt & this “real” person was not wearing that particular identification t-shirt that day.
Royals and Nons need some honey and smiles (aka compassion), huh?!:)
The energy-giving property of honey is illustrated in the case of King Saul’s son Jonathan who, exhausted from battle, tasted some honey. Immediately his eyes “began to beam.” (1Sa 14:25-30) This energy food is listed among the provisions God supplied for his people in the wilderness. There, where few trees existed, the people were able to get honey to eat “out of a crag,” that is, from the honeycombs that the bees built in rocky places.—De 32:13.
IllustrativeUse. The curative properties of honey are compared to pleasant sayings and wisdom, not only because of its sweetness and fine taste but also because of its health-giving qualities. Pleasant sayings are healthful spiritually, just as honey is good for the physical body. The writer of Proverbs says: “Pleasant sayings are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and a healing to the bones.”—Pr 16:24; 24:13, 14. (excerpted: Honey, Honeycomb Insight Vol. 1)
3.23.15 today’s date: a measurement of (modern) time. Measuring time and growth can be challenging; obviously.
(i like to reflect/compare my inner growth: year to year or from time to time: to ascertain to some degree (or as accurately as possible within reason) my particular progress (in a given area: usually my compassion/spirituality) as fragile-breathing-life.)
Reading ancient examples of those who exhibited qualities i value helps (me). Usually i look/study long-gone dead guys and gals (with qualities i admire or not)…because You have an opened and closed period of time…a complete measurement of a person/personality/life span/example from which to learn…birth to death…proven patterns of choices throughout a life course and their outcomes (evidence) showing positive or negative consequences/successes or failures (from certain choices they made or didn’t make, etc.). Unforgettable historical examples. (Excellent self-help material.)
(i may never be over You, but i may just be under You, eh?)…Peace pursuing always, bien sur, 3.23.15 & every day.
Humility & Modesty are essential to wisdom. “IF” any of us can make wiser/est choices, the “when” results will be of the higher/est good…”everybody wins” type of results! (In other words, less suffering/harm or no suffering/harm.)
An ancient male example: Saul.
Saul came from a wealthy family. A handsome man, standing head and shoulders taller than all others of his nation, he possessed great physical strength and agility. (1Sa 9:1, 2; 2Sa 1:23) The name of his wife was Ahinoam. Saul fathered at least seven sons, Jonathan, Ishvi, Malchi-shua, Abinadab, Ish-bosheth (Eshbaal), Armoni, and Mephibosheth, as well as two daughters, Merab and Michal.
The young man Saul lived during a turbulent time of Israel’s history. Philistine oppression had reduced the nation to a helpless state militarily (1Sa 9:16; 13:19, 20), and the Ammonites under King Nahash threatened aggression. (1Sa 12:12)
How was Saul described or viewed?
“there was no man among the Israelites more handsome than he and he stood head and shoulders taller than all the people.” (1 Samuel 9:2)
Well, how did Saul (really) view or describe himself?
“Am I not a Benjaminite of the smallest of the tribes of Israel, and my family the most insignificant of all the families of the tribe of Benjamin?” (1Samuel 9:21)
“Later, at Mizpah, when chosen as king by lot (1Sa 10:20, 21, JB;NE), Saul bashfully hid among the luggage. Found, he was presented as king, and the people approvingly shouted: “Let the king live!” Escorted by valiant men, Saul returned to Gibeah. Though good-for-nothing men spoke disparagingly of him and despised him, Saul remained silent.—1Sa 10:17-27.” (Saul, Insight on Scriptures, Vol. 2)
It’s noteworthy, at the beginning of his reign/kingship, he was little in his own eyes. His modest/humble opinion of himself…at this point in his life…served him and others well. It protected him from irrational acts as King and abuses of power.
Humility and modesty can help safeguard me from acting rashly! When humility and modesty make up the fabric of a person, one refrains from abusing their power…in all aspects of life: power within any relationship, within the family, at work, in the neighborhood, community, globe.
Sadly after just two years as King, Saul lost his humility and started acting presumptuously…”he fabricated excuses for taking things into his own hands.” Saul’s life thereafter became a chain of tragic events causing suffering…and betraying his lack of humility/modesty leading to his “ignominious death.” (Did Kingly power go to his head?)
an example: 1 of many:
“In the progress of the campaign against the Philistines, Saul pronounced a curse upon anyone partaking of food before vengeance was executed on the enemy. This rash oath led to adverse consequences. The Israelites tired, and though they triumphed over the Philistines, their victory was not as great as it might have been. Famished, they did not take time to drain the blood from the animals they afterward slaughtered, thereby violating God’s law concerning the sanctity of blood. Not having heard his father’s oath, Jonathan ate some honey. Saul, therefore, pronounced the death sentence upon him. But the people redeemed Jonathan, for he had been instrumental in Israel’s gaining the victory.—1Sa 14:1-45.” (Saul, Insight on Scriptures, Vol. 2)
Saul illustrates the necessity to stifle self-importance…and how thinking too much of ourselves, our opinions, our solutions can cause lasting harm instead of lasting help. (A humble heart compassionately cares for all…doesn’t make partial distinctions…uses power for the greater good of all fragile-life.)
i enJOYed these grasshopper points: my highlights:
Since humility involves a state of mind—that is, how we view ourselves and others—developing humility requires deliberate effort. Reasoning and meditating on our relationship with Jehovah and with our fellowman can help us to stay humble. In God’s eyes, all […] flesh is as green grass that grows for a time, then dries up and withers. Humans are like mere grasshoppers in a field. (Isaiah 40:6, 7, 22) Does one blade of grass have reason to be proud just because it is a little longer than other blades of grass? Does a grasshopper have cause to vaunt its prowess just because it can hop a little farther than other grasshoppers? It is absurd even to think so. Thus, the apostle Paul reminded his fellow Christians: “Who makes you to differ from another? Indeed, what do you have that you did not receive? If, now, you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as though you did not receive it?” (1 Corinthians 4:7) Reflecting on Bible texts such as these can help us to cultivate and display humility. (excerpted: Jehovah Reveals His Glory to Humble Ones w 04 8/1)
What ticks You off?? (me?) This: the following (statistics/World Values Survey) provoked this post (published 3/19/14 @ 4:04 p.m.):
“in 29 countries around the world, one-third or more of men say it can be acceptable for a husband to “beat his wife.” Perhaps more surprising: In 19 countries, one-third or more of women agree that a husband who beats his wife may be justified, at least some of the time.”
“The data come from polling performed from 2010 through 2014 for the World Values Survey — an extensive study of attitudes in almost 100 countries, conducted on an ongoing basis since 1981. The study is led by an international network of researchers based in Stockholm.”
“The cultural acceptance of spousal abuse can be so pervasive that in some countries, large majorities of women say it’s acceptable. In Rwanda, 96 percent of women say the practice can be justified, according to the World Values Survey. About two-thirds of women in India and South Africa feel the same way. The attitude is also held by large shares of women in countries across the religious and cultural spectra — China, Egypt, Iraq, Nigeria, Peru, the Philippines and Uzbekistan, to cite a few.”
More than 1 in 4 women worldwide have experienced physical or sexual violence at the hand of a husband or intimate partner, the World Health Organization reported in 2013. In sub-Saharan Africa, the share is about 2 in 3, and in North America, it’s 1 in 5. Excerpted NPR: Alarming Number Of Women Think Spousal Abuse Is Sometimes OK
Poetry can be a reflection of values. The First Man/Husband, Adam, spoke this poem about the First Woman/Wife, Eve: Genesis 2:15-25:
Jehovah God took the man and settled him in the garden of Eʹden to cultivate it and to take care of it.16 Jehovah God also gave this command to the man: “From every tree of the garden you may eat to satisfaction.17 But as for the tree of the knowledge of good and bad, you must not eat from it, for in the day you eat from it you will certainly die.”
18 Then Jehovah God said: “It is not good for the man to continue to be alone. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him.”19 Now Jehovah God had been forming from the ground every wild animal of the field and every flying creature of the heavens, and he began bringing them to the man to see what he would call each one; and whatever the man would call each living creature, that became its name.20 So the man named all the domestic animals and the flying creatures of the heavens and every wild animal of the field, but for man there was no helper as a complement of him. 21 So Jehovah God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep, and while he was sleeping, he took one of his ribs and then closed up the flesh over its place. 22 And Jehovah God built the rib that he had taken from the man into a woman, and he brought her to the man.
23 Then the man said:
“This is at last boneofmy bones
This one will be called Woman,
Because from man she was taken.”
24 That is why a man will leave his father and his mother and he will stick to*(remain with) his wife, and they will become one flesh. 25 And both of them continued to be naked,the man and his wife; yet they were not ashamed.
Read this sweet/logical way of putting the male/female relationship into words:
Man and woman have always yearned to be together. This originated with God. Man and woman are designed to occupy dignified roles in God’s arrangement. (excerpted: Man and Woman–Made for Each Other)
However, this is what we see in many instances/relationships:
Today, however, families are breaking apart, and the relationship between man and woman is often abusive or governed by selfishness. A spirit of competition between the sexes has contributed to conflict and discord. All of this is contrary to God’s purpose for man and woman. Man was designed to fill a wonderful role on earth. Woman was to occupy a unique and worthy place at man’s side. They were to work together in harmony. (excerpted: Man and Woman–Made for Each Other)
A lack of love and a lack of respect…poison to relationships!..(which often leads to all kinds of abuses.)
When both men and women (are willing to) learn unselfishness and compassion…they (can) cultivate qualities within themselves (with (God’s) help) such as: (my highlights)
“They have learned to convey their thoughts and feelings to each other honestly, yet kindly, by cultivating and displaying insight, love, deep respect, and humility. When these fundamental qualities characterize a marriage, the lines of communication are always open.”
i enJOYed reading this practical/logical counsel for both male/female to treat each other in the manner they would like to be treated (or spoken to):
[…] likely you want to be treated with dignity and respect. You appreciate it when others listen to you and care about how you feel. But have you ever heard a person say, “I am going to do to him what he did to me”? Sometimes this reaction is understandable. However, the Bible tells us: “Donotsay: ‘I will do to him just as he has done to me.’” (Proverbs 24:29) Jesus taught people the best way to handle difficult situations. What Jesus said is often called the Golden Rule: “Just as you want men to do to you, do the same way to them.” (Luke 6:31) Jesus meant that we should treat people the way we would like to be treated, not the way they treat us. This means that we need to put into our marriage what we hope to get out of it.
15 Couples strengthen their relationship when they truly care about each other’s feelings. “We have tried to put the Golden Rule into practice,” says a husband in South Africa. “True, there are times when we’re upset, but we have worked hard to treat each other the way we would like to be treated—with respect and dignity.”
16 Do not reveal your mate’s weaknesses to others or keep complaining about traits that upset you, not even as a joke. Remember that marriage is not a competition to prove who is stronger, who can shout louder, or who can say something that hurts the most. True, all of us are imperfect and sometimes upset others. But there is never a good reason for a couple to make each other feel ashamed, to use hurtful words when speaking to each other or, worse, to push or hit each other.—ReadProverbs17:27;31:26.
17 In some cultures, men bully or hit their wives to prove that they are strong. But the Bible says: “The one slow to anger is better than a mighty man, and the one controlling his temper than one conquering a city.” (Proverbs 16:32) A person needs great inner strength to show self-control as did Jesus Christ, the greatest man who ever lived. A man who bullies or hits his wife is a weak man who will lose his relationship with Jehovah. The psalmist David, who was a strong and courageous man, said: “Be agitated, but do not sin. Have your say in your heart, upon your bed, and keep silent.”—Psalm 4:4. (Build a Strong & Happy Marriage w15 1/15 pp. 15-20)
Sadly, some have been educated to believe/practice that aggression/violence/abuse/dominance is strength. “A man who bullies or hits his wife is weak […]” (i’d say the same about a woman who bullies or hits is weak.) Boys and girls both need compassion education aka lessons/examples (worthy of imitation) of true love/agape, forgiveness and kindness, self-control in the home at an early age (and beyond)…for the culture of hate/violence/abuse to stop! All of us, young-old, male-female need to learn and appreciate the value of compassion!:)
PLEASE people, can’t we all show love and respect, forgiveness to each other every day?:) All of us, including myself very much, can improve…making more compassionate choices of speech and action. We may not agree or understand each other completely/fully…our thinking/belief system(s), vocabulary, etc…however, all beautiful-breathing-fragile-life on this beautiful planet deserves dignity, respect, love, education, patience, compassion.
(i was thinking/meditating about “humility”…a humble person isn’t insulting and doesn’t get insulted easily.) Taking ourselves a little less seriously…laughing it off helps, huh? (a value of mine: laughter & Chato makes me laugh!:)
A humble person is willing to see where they need to tweak/adjust, a humble person is willing to accept help…(in its various forms) and from whomever. (It takes courage, choice, compassion to accept change and/or take action and/or accept help.)
It’s so commendable/inspiring/(encouraging to me) when i learn/hear/see “positive” changes some have made in their lives that have benefitted themselves (and their families) tremendously: the following video caught my attention:
Am i Happy??