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OH! a PEOPLE pleaser?? (n’est pas?!)

An observation (from a Believer of TRUTH/True Believer )…aka me, an insignificant little piece of nothing…or a significant little piece of something…depends on who(m) is assessing me/making that judgement call of value/worth or not.

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From my POV: based on life experience and accurate knowledge acquired through years of my limited existence on Earth (49) …(aka my personal education)…i’ve come to think/believe

a lot of choices…culminate to any combination of these three:  please people (what/which people)? please myself (the work in progress (age of immaturity/maturity: physically/spiritually/mentally/emotionally) that i am at the time of my/the choice)? or please God (what/which God)?

Who’s will do i follow?? my own?? fellow-fragile-life’s?? God’s??..(basically all scenarios…boil(ing) down to my own rules/requests/requirements, other’s rules/requests/requirements or God’s rules/requests/requirements.)

 

A Loyalty Priority

Every choice affects/impacts slightly or thickly relationship(s) with: myself to myself or myself to Others or myself to God positively or negatively. So, who or what i want to please/(make happy) becomes the priority of my choice.  No matter the choice…it falls into these three basic categories for me: is this choice going to please myself?? is this choice going to please people?? is this choice going to please God??

What relationship or who do i value more? or less?

When i wisely/deliberately choose to please the TRUE GOD of the Bible, God of Love, Justice, Wisdom, Power, Compassion who is s-l-o-w to anger and ABUNDANT in loving-kindness and goodness/mercy aka The Creator/Yahweh/Jehovah…the Maker of Heavens and Earth…aka The Happy 🙂 God…my good (aka applying Bible principles in life) choices have a positive impact on all these relationships…i don’t hurt myself, people nor God. (And Yes, the living God of Love can be hurt.) It really works out well…when i choose to please God first. Sometimes/at times…this “benefit” manifests short, medium, long-term…a pattern emerges forthwith and afterward.

excerpted readings i enJOYed about Happiness as an inheritance…🙂

What about you personally? Are you happy? Can you increase your happiness? Happiness may be defined as “a state of well-being that is characterized by relative permanence, by emotion ranging from mere contentment to deep and intense joy in living, and by a natural desire for it to continue.” The Bible shows that true happiness refers to the condition of one who is blessed by Jehovah. In today’s world, though, being happy may be a challenge. Why?

Stressful events​—such as when a loved one dies […] or when faced with a divorce or the loss of a job—​can rob us of happiness. Domestic strife and a breakdown in peaceful communication can erode our sense of well-being. Ridicule by workmates or classmates, religious persecution, or imprisonment can undermine our happiness. So can deteriorating health, chronic illness, or depression. Nevertheless, Jesus Christ, “the happy and only Potentate,” delighted in bringing comfort and happiness to people. (1 Tim. 6:15; Matt. 11:28-30) In his Sermon on the Mount, Jesus identified a number of qualities that can contribute to our happiness despite distressing trials in Satan’s world.

STRONG SPIRITUALITY​—FUNDAMENTAL TO HAPPINESS

4, 5. How can we gain and maintain happiness?

The first thing that Jesus focused on is especially important: Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need, since the Kingdom of the heavens belongs to them.” (Matt. 5:3) How do we show that we are conscious of that need? We do so by taking in spiritual food, cherishing spiritual values, and giving priority to worshipping the happy God. If we take those steps, our happiness will grow. We will strengthen our faith in the coming fulfillment of God’s promises. And we will be encouraged by “the happy hope” that God’s Word provides for true worshippers.​—Titus 2:13.

Building a strong relationship with Jehovah is a vital part of finding lasting happiness. The apostle Paul was inspired to write: “Always rejoice in the Lord [Jehovah]. Again I will say, Rejoice!” (Phil. 4:4) To enjoy such a precious relationship, we need to acquire divine wisdom. God’s Word states: “Happy is the man who finds wisdom and the man who acquires discernment. It is a tree of life to those who take hold of it, and those who keep firm hold of it will be called happy.”​—Prov. 3:13, 18.

6. Our lasting happiness depends on what?

However, to be lastingly happy, it is vital that we not only read God’s Word but apply it. Confirming the importance of putting into practice what we learn, Jesus said: “If you know these things, happy you are if you do them.” (John 13:17read James 1:25.) This is the key to satisfying your spiritual need and being lastingly happy.

7. How can those who mourn be happy?

“Happy are those who mourn, since they will be comforted.” (Matt. 5:4) Some may wonder, ‘How is it possible for those who mourn to be happy?’ Jesus did not have in mind all who mourn for any sort of reason. Even wicked people bemoan the distressing difficulties that characterize these “critical times hard to deal with.” (2 Tim. 3:1) But their self-centered mourning does not draw them closer to Jehovah; hence, it does not lead them toward happiness. Jesus must have had in mind people who are conscious of their spiritual need and therefore mourn the appalling spiritual conditions that prevail. They may recognize their own sinful state and the heartbreaking circumstances that have resulted from human sinfulness. Jehovah takes note of such sincere mourners; he comforts and blesses them with spiritual consolation, happiness, and life.​—Read Ezekiel 5:11; 9:4.

8. Explain how being mild-tempered contributes to happiness.

Happy are the mild-tempered, since they will inherit the earth.” (Matt. 5:5) How can being mild-tempered contribute to happiness? After coming to an accurate knowledge of the truth, individuals change. At one time, they may have been harsh, quarrelsome, and aggressive. But now they have clothed themselves with “the new personality” and display “the tender affections of compassion, kindness, humility, mildness, and patience.” (Col. 3:9-12) As a result, they now enjoy a peaceful, loving, and happier life. Furthermore, God’s Word promises that such ones will “inherit the earth.”​—Ps. 37:8-10, 29.

9. (a) In what sense do the mild-tempered “inherit the earth”? (b) Why can “those hungering and thirsting for righteousness” be happy?

In what sense do the mild-tempered “inherit the earth”? Jesus’ spirit-anointed disciples inherit the earth when they rule over it as kings and priests. (Rev. 20:6) Millions of others who do not have the heavenly calling, however, will inherit the earth in the sense that they will be allowed to live here forever in perfection, peace, and happiness. These are the same ones who are happy because of “hungering and thirsting for righteousness.” (Matt. 5:6) Their spiritual hunger and thirst for righteousness will be fully satisfied in the new world. (2 Pet. 3:13) When God has finally eliminated all wickedness, the happiness of righteous ones will never again be undermined by lawlessness and unrighteousness.​—Ps. 37:17.

20. Why are we happy to serve “the happy God”?

20 When we have the smile of approval of “the happy God,” we can be happydespite religious persecution, opposition at home, sickness, or advanced age. (1 Tim. 1:11) We also experience happiness because of the precious promises of our God, “who cannot lie.” (Titus 1:2) The fulfillment of Jehovah’s promises will be so impressive that the difficulties and trials of the present time will pale into insignificance. In the coming Paradise, the blessings from Jehovah will surpass our imagination. And we will certainly experience unprecedented happiness. Yes, we “will find exquisite delight in the abundance of peace.”​—Ps. 37:11. [Happy are Those Who Serve the Happy God W 9/2018 p.19]

When sculpting life/work of art…”harmony” …”is the principle of design that creates unity by stressing similarities of separate but related parts.” [Unit 6, Lesson 4, Art Connections, Harmony p. 178]

Harmony (is vital to) helps happiness.

IF a person does believe/accept/have a relationship with God, themselves or family/Other Fragile-life aka people…all individual choices make either: direct/indirect/intentional/unintentional impact on “harmony” with said relationships…God made the game and the rules…HE created Harmony; and (the game of) life. I follow (aka try my best to adhere) His principles found in the Bible…for the best possible outcomes in all situations (now and later).

 

Human thinking is flawed/weak. Divine thinking…

The law of Jehovah is perfect, restoring strength.*(Or “restoring (bringing back) the soul.”)

The reminder of Jehovah is trustworthy, making the inexperienced one wise. (Psalm 19:7)

 

7/13/18 @ 9:49 p.m.

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Us Talkers

Yep, I am a talker. (But am I a walker, too??)

Successful walking takes serious skill. Without stumbling and face falling or face saving, eh? Successful talking takes serious skill. Without opening mouth and inserting foot or worse, eh?

Okay, so, it’s obvious–I like to talk! However, is it an obvious “right” ? Is free speech the same thing as “freedom” of speech? Do I have the absolute right to determine what the right thing is to say/speak in any moment/situation?

May be? free talking is exhibitionism of a lack of self-control? Or an abundance of arrogance? Or glaring ignorance? Or power hunger?…

 Death and life are in the power of the tongue; Those who love it will eat its fruitage. (Proverbs 18:21)

hmmm, what am i eating??;) savory, sweet or sour?

Article commentary:

THE tongue of the giraffe measures up to 18 inches [45 cm] long and is agile and powerful enough to pluck leaves off tree branches. The blue whale’s tongue weighs as much as an elephant. Imagine the strength needed just to move it!

The human tongue pales in comparison in size, weight, and strength. Yet, it is far more powerful. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue,” says the Bible of this small member of the human body. (Proverbs 18:21) Indeed, how many times have we heard of the human tongue’s death-dealing power being wielded in fabricating lies and false testimonies that have brought ruination, even death, to innocent victims?

Likewise, longtime friendships have been dashed by hurtful remarks. Emotions have been crushed by harsh words. “How long will you men keep irritating my soul and keep crushing me with words?” cried the much-maligned Job. (Job 19:2) The disciple James gave a vivid picture of the destructive power of the unbridled tongue: “The tongue is a little member and yet makes great brags. Look! How little a fire it takes to set so great a woodland on fire! Well, the tongue is a fire.”​—James 3:5, 6.

On the other hand, the power of the tongue can also be life-giving. Empathetic and consoling words have rescued some from depression and suicide. Sound advice, when heeded, has saved many drug abusers and street thugs from untimely death. Truly, the fruitage of a righteous one’s tongue is “a tree of life,” and “as apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it.”​—Proverbs 15:4; 25:11. [The Power of the Tongue w 07]

May be, freeness of speech comes/is acquired from a living place of authenticity earned by work/effort/experience/knowledge/discipline/training. It’s evident, most likely, that what I talk/share is what i teach.  What i walk/(my strides)–what i practice/promoteexemplify?

For we all stumble*(or “make mistakes.”) many times. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able to bridle also his whole body.  3 If we put bridles in the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we guide also their whole body. 4 Look also at ships: Although they are so big and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the man at the helm is inclined to go.

5 So, too, the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it makes great brags. See how small a fire it takes to set a great forest ablaze! 6 The tongue is also a fire. The tongue represents a world of unrighteousness among our body members, for it defiles all the body and sets the whole course of life*(Lit. “the wheel of the birth” (origin)) on fire, and it is set on fire by Ge·henʹna.* 7 For every kind of wild animal and bird and reptile*(or “creeping thing”) and sea creature is to be tamed and has been tamed by humans. 8 But no human can tame the tongue. It is unruly and injurious, full of deadly poison. 9 With it we praise Jehovah,* the Father, and yet with it we curse men who have come into existence “in the likeness of God.” 10 Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing.

My brothers, it is not right for things to happen this way. 11 A spring does not cause the fresh*(sweet) water and the bitter water to bubble out of the same opening, does it? 12 My brothers, a fig tree cannot produce olives, or a grapevine figs, can it? Neither can salt water produce fresh water.

13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him by his fine conduct demonstrate works performed with a mildness that comes from wisdom. 

(James 3:2-13)

Us talkers/teachers must admit/acknowledge…we have greater accountability and responsibility; that’s an o.b.v.i.o.u.s! Teachers evoke strong emotions, reactions, huh? How many of us have had crushes on our cool teachers? Or despised a strict/tough teacher?

Do teachers have the “right” to determine what is “right” to teach??

A “truth” learned from the example of a “good” teacher…Jesus:

“As he was going on his way, a man ran up and fell on his knees before him and put the question to him: “Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit everlasting life?” 18 Jesus said to him: “Why do you call me good? Nobody is good except one, God.”

Good Teacher: The man was evidently using the words “Good Teacher” as a flattering and formalistic title, since such honor was usually demanded by the religious leaders. While Jesus had no objection to being properly identified as “Teacher” and “Lord” (Joh 13:13), he directed all honor to his Father. (Mark 10:17)

Nobody is good except one, God: Jesus here recognizes Jehovah as the ultimate standard of what is good, the One who has the sovereign right to determine what is good and what is bad. By rebelliously eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and bad, Adam and Eve sought to assume that right. Unlike them, Jesus humbly leaves the setting of standards to his Father. God has expressed and defined what is good by means of what he has commanded in his Word.​—Mr 10:19.

[excerpted: New World Translation Study Edition: Gems]

Jesus taught by way of illustrations. (A respected teacher/male commended me by calling me a “Meisterof Metaphor. This was sincere and a source of encouragement for me and not flattery at all.)  Thinking in illustrations/metaphors can be very useful in learning/teaching.  Illustrations and Bible Scriptures have a way of revealing hearts and things held close/r or valued. However, all of us lack the ability to precisely determine what the complete standards of so-called good and so-called bad are…or should be.

Just because i want to say something…anything about anything…do i have the right to thrust/tweetarticulateassault with words…anywhere/anytime/anyhow?! It’s a complicated conversation…as the scriptures warn: “thoughtless words are like stabs of a sword”…May be IF we all thought more…would we hurt less?!

If my tongue is a sword/knifecutting skills an essential requirement. Do i rough chop, slice and dice, mince, julienne, brunoise, chiffonade? Does all public speaking involve cutting remarks? Public speaking takes training/education/discipline (and well-spent years thereof).  Any type of knife wielding can be dangerous without training

  Their tongue is a deadly arrow that speaks deception. With his mouth a person speaks of peace to his neighbor, But inside he lays an ambush.”  (Jeremiah 9:8)

Our personal power of choice regarding communication…can be constructive vs. destructive.  The power of the Tongue must be respectedFree Speech, Freedom of Speech, and Freeness of speech has the power to bring out the best and the worse in us.

A poignant Proverb…

A worthless man digs up what is bad; His speech is like a scorching fire.  (Proverb 16:27)

“You don’t have to be brilliant or perfect to succeed,” says Dr. Morton C. Orman, an expert on stress and a professional public speaker. “The essence of public speaking is this: give your audience something of value.”

Partners Communicating: Commendation and Counsel Compassionately

Further readings/learnings from Jesus…an extremely exceptional teacher & his speaking/living “truth” trials…

Jesus reads about how this foretold One would preach a release to the captives, a recovery of sight to the blind, and the coming of Jehovah’s acceptable year. Jesus hands the scroll to the attendant and sits down. All eyes are intently fixed upon him. Then he speaks, probably at some length, and his comments include the significant statement: “Today this scripture that you just heard is fulfilled.”​—Luke 4:21.

The people marvel at “the gracious words coming out of his mouth,” and they say to one another: “This is a son of Joseph, is it not?” But realizing that they want to see him perform powerful works like the ones they had heard about, Jesus continues: “No doubt you will apply this saying to me, ‘Physician, cure yourself. Do also here in your home territory the things we have heard were done in Capernaum.’” (Luke 4:22, 23) Jesus’ former neighbors likely feel that healing should begin at home, for the benefit of his own people first. So they may think that Jesus has slighted them.

Realizing their thinking, Jesus mentions some events in Israel’s history. There were many widows in Israel during the days of Elijah, he notes, but Elijah was not sent to any of them. Rather, he went to a non-Israelite widow in Zarephath, a town near Sidon, where Elijah performed a lifesaving miracle. (1 Kings 17:8-16) And in Elisha’s day, there were many lepers in Israel, but the prophet cleansed only Naaman the Syrian.​—2 Kings 5:1, 8-14. [excerpted: At the Synagogue in Nazareth Jesus–the Way, Chapter 21, par. 6 ]

PeaceFellowBreathingFragileLife:)… (also known as Us Talkers.)

 

p.s. how many nuanced words?? (IF i quickly? counted correctly?)

79

78

four

5

 

5/31/18 @ 3:35 p.m.

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